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AIBU?

to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

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GetOrfMoiLand · 26/01/2011 12:25

DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

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KnitterNotTwitter · 26/01/2011 12:27

Some people's idea of a shag is different! I know this because DH considers a blow-job to be sex....

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cantspel · 26/01/2011 12:29

If she was happy to play hunt the sauage then why does it worry you

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stillbobbysgirl · 26/01/2011 12:30

yuck - they must not mean full sex - she would still be bleeding heavily no?

what kind of a man tries to shag his wife 5 days after childbirth?

seriously weird

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bubblewrapped · 26/01/2011 12:31

Sounds like a nice bloke.... not.

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lockets · 26/01/2011 12:31

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GetOrfMoiLand · 26/01/2011 12:31

Oh it doesn't worry me fgs, don't be so sanctimonious.

I just thought it was odd as are you not supposed to wait for 6 weeks. Plus DP isn't really the type to talk about sex lives, why did his mate feel the need to share?

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strandednomore · 26/01/2011 12:32

I couldn't have even contemplated it at that stage. I just didn't feel sexy. For AGES. If she (the mate's wife) felt up to it good for her, I suppose. I just couldn't imagine it. Personally.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 26/01/2011 12:33

x post lockets - yes exactly. Who the bloody hell talks like that? It is as if he had to boast that his life hadn't changed or something.

I don't know him very well (DP knows him through work) but this has put me right off him, he sounds like a complete tool.

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StuffingGoldBrass · 26/01/2011 12:33

Well it's against medical advice and I can't imagine it being all that comfortable whether she had a VB or a CS.
Actually I think the most likely explanation is that the bloke is fibbing.

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bupcakesandcunting · 26/01/2011 12:33

Eugh on several levels.

Eugh that they're having sex so soon after birth (my fanjo looked like roadkill 5 weeks after, never mind 5 days) and eugh that her DH is telling his mates such details about the mother of his child.

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ShirleyKnot · 26/01/2011 12:33

YANBU

The very thought.

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justcarrots29 · 26/01/2011 12:34

It definitely makes me feel a bit ill...I wouldn't have thought it was a good idea yet as ins't there a risk of infection if the cervix hasn't completely closed again yet? Or maybe not - but I do think it is a bit yucky.

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OnlyWantsOne · 26/01/2011 12:34

meybe the bloke was just bragging, because he probably hasnt had it in a fucking age, and has no clue about his wife's bleeding etc

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Ormirian · 26/01/2011 12:35

Nothing came near my undercarriage for a few weeks!

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GetOrfMoiLand · 26/01/2011 12:35

It is shite isn't it?

I couldn't even bear the thought of it after 6 weeks, let alone 5 days.

Yes, perhaps he is lying. But he is 40 fgs.

Me and DP were like Ken and Dierdre Barlow last night, chuntering about it. Grin

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cantspel · 26/01/2011 12:35

women talk about sex all the time with their female friends and so do blokes.

Why he felt the need to share god only knows. Maybe he was just chuffed to get some after a a dry period or maybe he was just boasting.

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auburnlizzy78 · 26/01/2011 12:35

YANBU but surely he must have misheard. What sounds like "shag"?

If my OH had tried that one on me I would have dug out both his testicles from his scrotum with a rusty spoon.

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Ladyofthehousespeaking · 26/01/2011 12:35

Lying!

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nurseblade · 26/01/2011 12:36

If you want to find out whether a couple had sex asking the woman is more reliable than asking the man.

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CameronCook · 26/01/2011 12:36

I reckon its a bit of male bravado.

We did have sex 3 weeks after DD was born, but she was an elective c/s, I'd stopped bleeding and wanted to.

I can't imagine wanting to 5 days after a long labour.

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Shamechanger · 26/01/2011 12:36

I reckon they didn't and your DH's mate is trying to prove something. God knows what though. Maybe he's scared they'll never have sex again so he's trying to reassure himself by pretending they have. My sex drive returned quite soon after my first, but it was at 3 weeks - that's when I felt the bruising had gone down and the bleeding had stopped. Would be very surprised if someone felt up for it before 2 weeks tbh.

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belgo · 26/01/2011 12:36

It's dangerous. Risk of air embolism. Women have died because of having sex too soon after childbirth.

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 26/01/2011 12:37

Jus the mere thought of it is making me cross my legs and cringe!

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