AIBU to think that some parents loose sight of what is acceptable behaviour?

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caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:23:48

Just been to Pizzahut for what should have been an afternoon treat but spoiled by other parents lack of control of their kids. My two DDs (3 and 6) are not perfect, but we have just been confronted in Pizzahut by one child, about 5 having a total meltdown, which happens I know we have all been there, BUT the parents let this meltdown go in in full volume for 40 minutes!!! I have ignored my child when a tantrum has been in full play, but not in a restaurant where other people (AND PARENTS) are trying to relax or at least eat in some kind of peace. Its not as if there was only one adult, but there was four of them, after 30 minutes the people at the next table just left!! Then to add insult to injury, the next table along with a 'toddler' got out their potty and put it under the table and put their daughter on it in full view of everyone!! I know that potty training can be difficult but Pizzahut have toilets and large ones big enough for someone to sit on a potty in. Quite honestly after this afternoon I can understand why people who have no children sometimes quite frankly look on some parents as some kind of alien species dragged up through the dark ages!! OK feel a bit better now I got that off my chest smile

Faaamily Sat 06-Nov-10 17:24:27

That's what you get for eating in such lowbrow gaffs grin

caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:27:58

I know if only my dds didn't like the icecream factory so much!! It was supposed to be a treat, hey ho!

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Pacita Sat 06-Nov-10 17:31:01

potty under the table in a restaurant? Never heard the like of it. Jesus.

lostinafrica Sat 06-Nov-10 17:33:10

YANBU. Do you think these parents ever HAD sight of what is acceptable behaviour...? Sounds dire.

caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:35:31

I know, when I saw it coming out of the bag, I stupidly assumed they were taking it off to the loo....which i thought was a bit odd. but when they said to the girl, there you go and put it down I nearly passed out!! I was so stunned that I lost the power in my legs and couldn't go over and say in a polite manner 'excuse me but thats not on'. Actually I didn't want to make a scene with my dds there, if they hadn't been there I might have!! Though if they hadn't been there I wouldn't have either!! smile

5Foot5 Sat 06-Nov-10 17:38:29

YANBU

The tantrum sounds bad enough but the potty is outrageous!! Surely a member of staff should have politely asked them to use the toilets instead.

We only ever use Pizza Hut when we are going to the cinema but I have never had an experience anything like as bad as the one you describe.

caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:38:30

No I don't think they ever HAD sight of what is acceptable. And although probably not relevant, they didn't look scabby or dodgy at all wink

MumblingClothDoll Sat 06-Nov-10 17:38:40

Why didn't you compalain! The potty thing is a hazard and also YUK!

ethelina Sat 06-Nov-10 17:39:13

But what did they do with the contents? Surely not walk it through the restaurant shock?

DanceInTheDark Sat 06-Nov-10 17:40:10

ofgs it's pizzahut. Its one step up from McDs not a restaurant.

(and yes i use both McDs and PH before i get flamed)

Not what i would call acceptable behaviour but not surprising given the venue.

caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:41:43

To Be totally honest by that point I just wanted to get out of there. My 3 year old was pointing at the girl under the table and asking what she was doing and I didn't want to give her any ideas, even though we are way past that point, you never know with 3 year olds!!! grin

GenevieveHawkings Sat 06-Nov-10 17:44:06

YANBU and what you witnessed unfortunately has nothing whatsoever to do with Pizza Hut being a "lowbrow gaff".

People who are totally self absorbed and have no manners, sense of propriety and thought or consideration for other people can be found everywhere and in all walks of life.

The child being allowed by its parents to shit under the table is utterly vile and most definitely a health hazzard and should have been reported.

caspered Sat 06-Nov-10 17:44:25

Danceinthedark, its all very well saying ofgs, but its not acceptable anywhere, its not a zoo and I don't expect people to behave like that anywhere. Not sue what was going to happen to the contents, doesn't bear thinking about!

Pacita Sat 06-Nov-10 17:57:47

A restaurant is any premises in which food is prepared for the public to consume in situ or take away. A child (or dog, or any other creature) defecating in it is at best complete lack of respect for the customers and workers, and at worst a health hazard as pointed out. So, danceinthedark, I am surprised you are not surprised.

mmmmmchocolate Sat 06-Nov-10 18:09:23

When I worked in catering, pre DC's someone let a little boy have a wee in a plastic bag. They were right in the middle of the restaurant too. A potty is a bit of an improvement in this case hmm but no YANBU and I agree that it's because of parents like this people have no time for children.

If you are going to criticise other people like this, then you should probably check your grammar biscuit

Vallhala Sat 06-Nov-10 18:16:20

They no doubt would throw a fit if I took my German Shepherd into their scummy "restaurant"... yet he would be as quiet as a lamb, sit without moving until I told him he was allowed to and then move where and when I said AND he wouldn't shit under the table.

I know which I'd prefer!

nancydrewrocked Sat 06-Nov-10 18:17:29

The potty - grim!

We go to a gymnastics centre where there is seating upstairs. I was sitting having a coffee last week (in their small cafe) and a woman came walking downstairs with a full potty, waltzes through the cafe seating area to the toilets. I was shock jaw on floor.

What would possess you to think that is OK?!

starbellysneetch Sat 06-Nov-10 18:20:22

Why, hairytriangle? Poor grammar is irritating, but I doubt many people would consider it a bar to an opinion on shitting in the middle of a restaurant.

Besides, it's poor spelling, not poor grammar.

BootyMum Sat 06-Nov-10 18:32:13

Oh biscuit to you hairytriangle.

What an odd response to have a go at OPs spelling. Not relevant in any way to the case presented.

The OP has complained about something she finds irritating.

I have picked her up on something she does that I find irritating.

I suppose my point is that that's life!!!! We all find things other people do irritating.

starbelly there is bad grammar in the OP.

one example is "but there was four of them"

agedknees Sat 06-Nov-10 18:46:03

hairy - defaecating or urinating in a public place can hardly be in the same league as a spelling mistake.

Last time I was in a PH they had a robbery (manager got beaten up).

OP YANBU.

Christ, a toddler peeing under the table in a potty is hardly disgusting behaviour!

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