I hope my daughter is a lesbian.

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She's 10.

She says she doesn't like boys. That one day she will get a girlfriend. She says she has a crush on a girl in her class.

This has me hoping she will indeed be gay.
From my own experiences to those I read daily about young women being abused, coerced and degraded by their partners I fear so much for my daughter going through such things.

Women aren't perfect of course, being gay won't protect her from heartbreak and maybe some abuse at the hands of her partner but I daresay I would sleep better at night.

Is that terrible of me?

I am bisexual myself and my female relationships have always been less stressful than my male.

You’re projecting your own crappy past onto her. I’m female and have always been in relationships with males. Never experienced any abuse and I’m very happily married.

I don't have a crappy past. My male relationships have always been more stressful, I find most men just don't respect women, I've never been abused at the hands of a man but I've seen plenty of friends and family go through it.

An dim not projecting anything into her. I'm married to her father. She came to me and said this about liking girls.

It's not under any influence from me.

There’s a fair bit of abuse in same sex relationships too ( unfortunately )

Maybe projecting, but with good reason.

I would just be scared shitless that she goes online and gets told she's not a lesbian she's a heterosexual boy.

I find most men just don't respect women
Exactly. And if they did, society would be so very different.

"There’s a fair bit of abuse in same sex relationships too ( unfortunately )"

But how often do you hear of a woman murdering her lesbian partner out of control and jealousy?

It's heard weekly for men. If not more regularly.

But how often do you hear of a woman murdering her lesbian partner out of control and jealousy?

Excellent point.

I really really hope my daughter isn’t (though I suspect she is). I want my daughter’s sexual preferences to be respected by society and I want her to be able to find “her tribe” in terms of sexuality, without being forced to “put up with” or “get used to” penis to avoid being socially ostracised.

But how often do you hear of a woman murdering her lesbian partner out of control and jealousy?

It's heard weekly for men. If not more regularly.

1.is 1 too many, obviously, but you need to out those statistics into context.

I think it's wrong to have these feelings about your child's sexuality. Would it be ok for a parent to say that they wish their child is heterosexual?.What if she is attracted to boys? How are you going to behave towards her and any boyfriends when you seem to be having such a strong reaction to the possibility?

My only wish for my children and their relationships is that they are happy. The sex of their partners is of absolutely no consequence to me. I think that's how it should be.

I know a lesbian who was regularly beaten up by her female partner. Some of us have kind, loving male partners, believe it or not.

But how often do you hear of a woman murdering her lesbian partner out of control and jealousy?

I agree it's not something you hear about often although I don't know the stats. I'd imagine it's less frequent in lesbian relationships. There is I would suspect greater potential for abuse and discrimination outside of the home -homophobic/lesophobic(?).

What about grandchildren?
I see your point but there are lots of lovely men out there too.

It's not under any influence from me.

She didn’t say it was.
She commented that after your 10 year old daughter said she doesn’t like boys and has a crush on a girl, your ‘hoping she will indeed be gay’ is your projection.

I feel the same OP and I am a lesbian. I can't believe the shit women put up with in heterosexual relationships.

Can't you just hope for her happiness like a normal parent

I feel the same OP and I am a lesbian.

What will you do if she isn't gay? How ever will you conceal your disappointment?

1.is 1 too many, obviously, but you need to out those statistics into context.

The context is Male Violence and Toxic Masculinity, yeah?

Yes Hearhooves I will rage and tear my hair out if my daughter turns out straight, but that's just me.

Maybe the word HOPE is a little strong.

Of course I won't be disappointed if she is straight.

She's bound to pick up on your feelings.
Why don't you just keep quiet and let her be what she wants to be?

Christ on a bike...

"keep quiet"

Where have I said I have EVER talked to her about sexuality? Because I haven't

The context is Male Violence and Toxic Masculinity, yeah?

No I meant the context of the statistics. 2 women a week are murdered by a partner but in the context of how many heterosexual relationships? It isn't a proportionate response to say 2 women are murdered each week so I hope my dd is gay.

Of course 2 per week is 2 many per week too many. But how can you hope your child is gay on that basis?

And as sexuality isn't a choice, what are these posters going to do if their DDS aren't gay?