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Suicide threat, distressed poster

214 replies

picklemepopcorn · 19/11/2017 21:26

In chat, just posted.

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Notreallyarsed · 19/11/2017 21:27

Bump @MNHQ help please

picklemepopcorn · 19/11/2017 21:29

Bump again.

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TrojansAreSmegheads · 19/11/2017 21:32

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

KanyeWesticle · 19/11/2017 21:41

Bump

daisychain01 · 19/11/2017 21:42

There are some people on the thread holding her hand, hopefully we can give some support. She seems to be chatting. So sad for her, wish we could help in RL, but it's the best we can do.

picklemepopcorn · 19/11/2017 21:43

It’s being deleted... Sad

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CarolineMumsnet · 19/11/2017 21:46

Hi everyone. Thanks so much for flagging this here and for the reports. We're on that thread as we speak. Thanks again Flowers.

Bluntness100 · 19/11/2017 21:47

I struggle with the fact these threads are deleted. I really do. If someone really is on the brink of suicide and using this site then I doubt they will phone the help lines recommended and the deletion could push them over the edge. It’s one of the few policy decisions I struggle with on here, because I do believe in some instances a life could be at stake.

LEMtheoriginal · 19/11/2017 21:48

You deleted it???? What???? She was reaching out. She was talking and this might have been her last lifeline. I'm fucking speechless Angry

picklemepopcorn · 19/11/2017 21:48

It would be helpful to understand the reasoning.

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StrumpersPlunkett · 19/11/2017 21:49

I understand why you have deleted but I would like to voice my unease
She reached out to us and we have turned her away.
I will feel dreadfully guilty if she now reaches no one and ends things.

MurmmersShow · 19/11/2017 21:50

Why is it policy for deleting? I don't understand.

picklemepopcorn · 19/11/2017 21:50

I’m guessing there would be a lot of similar posts, not many of them genuine. Also, we aren’t generally speaking qualified in the best way to support people.

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Lenska999 · 19/11/2017 21:51

I was on the thread, it's really awful, poor lady. Does mn ever try and contact the poster?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 19/11/2017 21:51

They always delete suicide threads. They have taken advice and I think the logic is that it is unlikely to help the poster keeping it up, but it may well harm other people?

LEMtheoriginal · 19/11/2017 21:51

I have been where the OP on that thread has been several times. Being able to reach out on here enabled me to get the help I needed.

I am absolutely devastated as this basically means that at my most anxious I'll literally have no where to turn.

Unbelievable.

Grumblepants · 19/11/2017 21:52

I feel awful that this was deleted. She reached out and was turned away?!

LEMtheoriginal · 19/11/2017 21:53

The advice was to comment and point the poster in the direction of help not to delete so somethings changed. makes the advertising companies uncomfortable

StrumpersPlunkett · 19/11/2017 21:53

LEM absolutely here here.
In 2008 MN saved my life.

Seems like today it would leave me to fester and make various hideous choices v

RunningOutOfCharge · 19/11/2017 21:54

its right they are deleted....they aren't allowed

can you imagine the drama if they were allowed to stand? troll central already here

samaritans is the place, not mumsnet

PurpleDaisies · 19/11/2017 21:54

It is absolutely right that those threads are deleted. It’s what mental health experts and charities recommend.

Posters are not qualified to talk a poster out of suicide and unwittingly post things that make the situation worse.

Everyone has good intentions but those threads have to go.

StupidSlimyGit · 19/11/2017 21:54

I hope the poster of that thread sees this one and knows, although we are strangers, we are thinking of you and hoping you get the help you need.

Wolfiefan · 19/11/2017 21:55

Surely there's a way round this. How can people post to get support?
Suicide shouldn't be a taboo that we delete. It's valid that people feel like this.

Bananalanacake · 19/11/2017 21:56

Thanks for explaining that running.

RunningOutOfCharge · 19/11/2017 21:56

everyone posting 'think of your child'

well meaning but not helpful at all

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