DH sulking, I've had enough (possible TMI)

[AlwaysDancing1234]

We've had a really busy couple of weeks and weekends with kids party and DS activities/clubs etc.

Came home from taking DS to a club this morning then DS stayed home with DH to do supposedly do his homework while I took the toddler out with me to grab some shopping.

I said we could all go to park when I got back but DH said no as "hay fever playing up" (it was ok yesterday when he spent hours in his parents garden messing about with power tools )

Got back and DD was asleep in buggy.
DS hasn't even started homework, slumped on sofa watching telly.
Loads of housework/laundry to be done and the garden is badly in need of attention so I said to DH I'll get started on garden but can he help with chores/homework.

DH started sulking because he wanted me to go in the bedroom with him and (no delicate way of saying this) give him a blow job.

He threw a strop and stomped off mumbling how he was too far down list of priorities.
Admittedly we don't have sex hardly ever but that's due to issues he's aware of.

I just feel it's the last straw today when I've been rushing about the whole weekend trying to look after everyone and everything.

I've left him to sulk and tended the garden. I just came in and realised He's been sitting in the bedroom ever since. DS was left alone watching tv and still hasn't started his sodding homework.

I'm beyond fed up now and just want to tell him to go away and not come back

[AlwaysDancing1234]

Sorry that was a ranty rambling mess

[UptownFlunk]

He sounds horrible and I would tell him to get to fuck - but I'm not very patient and can't bear sulkers and people who pester for sexual activity.

[AnyFucker]

He's waste of space, isn't he ?

And just ugh at the expectation you service him with kids in the house.

[PacificDogwod]

I'm beyond fed up now and just want to tell him to go away and not come back

If this is how you feel and he has form for this behaviour, send him packing.

[Goingtobeawesome]

Blow job when the kids are about? Good try pillock.

Obviously you won't have time to cook his tea or iron his shirts as you are too busy doing chores and homework.

[ImperialBlether]

Hang on, he wanted a BJ on a busy Sunday afternoon when both children were around?

Can you IMAGINE a woman demanding oral sex from her partner (with no reciprocation) under such circumstances?

[AlwaysDancing1234]

In his defence (although why I'm defending him fuck knows) we have only had sex/sexual contact half a dozen times in the last 2 years but that's due to many issues (both mental and physical) that he's aware of and says he understands.....but....

[PacificDogwod]

Oh gawd, I missed the BJ suggestion - what a creepy prick!!

Get shot.

[Shakey15000]

Ye Gads that sounds vile.

[AlwaysDancing1234]

Yes toddler DD is asleep in the buggy in the hall and older DS watching tv in the lounge.
His reason for asking during the day is that DD sleeps practally on me at night.

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

"Grow the fuck up, you fucking pathetic child, or get the fuck out. You've done nothing and you're a useless piece of shit."

But then I am in a bad mood.

I have no helpful advice, except my ex was similar and it is possible to break free. Life is a lot easier with one less child to deal with.

Good luck

[runnerselbow]

He sounds like a big demanding kid.

[Shakey15000]

DH and I are very lax in the bedroom due to my recurring medical conditions but no way would he be expecting a blow job while DS was around, certainly not on demand and would definitely not be sulking like a twat about it.

[Costacoffeeplease]

I don't think there is any defence for him - he's a lazy twat who thinks you're there to cook, clean, raise the kids and give him a blow job on demand - he's sounds a real peach

[AlwaysDancing1234]

If I had just got home and he'd not done the housework/laundry/homework I would have been posses off but was biting my tongue and not said anything.
It was only when he mentioned the BJ I told him to get lost, he then sulked so I shouted at him to grow up and he stomped off throwing his hands in the air in dispair
God it all sounds so shit written down

[Goingtobeawesome]

Do his share of the chores, for more than five minutes, nights out having booked and paid for the babysitter, show love and compassion, be a good father and husband. More chance of a shag. Carry on as he is. Not a single chance so no point being together if you want different things.

[AlwaysDancing1234]

I'm very close to marching into the bedroom and giving him your speech milktwosugars

[AlwaysDancing1234]

Exactly awesome
He cleaned the bathroom easier but now I feel like it was only to get on my good side...

[AlwaysDancing1234]

*earlier

[Pipbin]

So he sees sexual activity as something that is purely for his benefit?
What a cock end.

I would be inclined to only do the washing for you and the kids, when he complains that he doesn't have any clean socks or pants then tell him that he decided that sucking his dick was a higher priority.

[BitOutOfPractice]

It never ceases to amaze me how many men fail to understand that when you act like a pig and treat your partner like shit, they are less, not more likely to want to have sex with you

and any person who sulks or strops to try and get sex is an abusive arsehole in my opinion. Yuck

[JonSnowsBeardClippings]

He's a massive bellend. How unappealing.

[PregnantAndEngaged]

Wow. Could he not have just had a wank in the shower or something? What a tosser!

[JessicaJumpingUp]

I always got sex refusal sulks and stupidly often gave into them just to keep the peace. It's such an ugly trait.

Go with your instinct and tell him to go away and not come back.

[WolfAlice]

He sounds vile. If DH did this he wouldn't dare he would get told to get to fuck. Tell him if he wasn't such a lazy man child arsehole you might have more time for him