I posted a cpl of weeks ago re my ex and nasty text messages, not really threatening just very verbally abusive.
I took advice and made new solicitors appointment rather than approach te police with a view to getting some sort of non molestation order against him.
My solicitor wasnt present when I went to appointment and has since failed to contact me to rearange(whole other thread, I hope to be able to get a new solicitor using existing legal aid claim, I've no idea if this is possible.
So last night ex texted me saying he "knew" I was seeing someone and basically asking where I was, where ds was etc.
I vocally respond saying none of your business, leave me alone. For the record I'm neither seeing someone and was at home in bed. As was ds
The texts started agin this afternoon basically saying I'm seeing someone who has a gf and kids, he hasn't named anyone but he has accused me of this before and I've not seen the person in question for years and not communicated with him in any way for over a year.
As it happens I wouldn't be interested in this person even if single.
So ex is obviously wound up, albeit unjustifiably.
Tonight he has driven past my house and texted to again ask where ds was as house was in darkness, ds was in bed and I was in back bedroom ironing.
Again I respond that he needs to leave me alone but do tell him that ds is at home in bed. He respond with "if you don't stop lying ill come round there and find out for myself".
This is the first time I've felt threatened and I do want to call the police I'm just scared that they will see this as a silly domestic which will waste their time.
In truth I genuinely believe ex has issues with some sort of personality disorder, he certainly has narc traits and I'm worried what will come next.
He has no reason at all to drive past my house(tucked away well back from main road, he has no friends nearby) and obviously he has no right to behave this way but is it criminal?
I've got to hand ds over at ten am tomorrow for contact and just know his behaviour will be icy and disrespectful at best so my mum is going to be around.
This is shit, I'm nothing but polite and calm towards him and I've dealt with this for over a year. Is rig police immediately if I knew they would understand. Just feel shit taking them away from crime and important duties
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Considering calling police, will I be wasting their time?
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