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Dating thread 56 all welcome

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Kirstywirsty Sat 15-Jun-13 21:12:42

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. If it is not fun, stop

Kirstywirsty Sat 15-Jun-13 21:14:50

Fresh start everyone??

I am hidden on POF just now .. Have a date with MrNYC on Wednesday

Bant Sat 15-Jun-13 21:15:58

Hello all

It's the jam jars, bill. Too many on sale means you can't make a choice. I'm not sure if things will work with Cheshire, there are some things which seem a bit odd. But I'm not going to start dating anyone else until I've finished with her.

I also think if it was just a 'drink with a friend', she wouldn't have called it a date.

OhWesternWind Sat 15-Jun-13 21:20:34

Bill I think if you're seeing someone more than a couple of times it's worth putting the stuff with other people on hold to give things a chance. I'm all for keeping options open before meeting or in the early days, but there has to be a limit.

Looking back, once I've gone out with someone a couple of times and felt like something could develop I've not gone online (or only to check if the man has been online). Worryingly I seem to have got to this stage with the Alpha Scot after date one, which has never happened before and contravenes rule 2 of the dating thread.

He's given me his email so I can stay in contact whilst he's abroad. Don't want to look too keen - should I wait until Monday?

BillMasen Sat 15-Jun-13 21:25:54

Hoping juliette is ok btw

Yes, me too. Have been thinking about her this afternoon. Hope you're alright Jules

ALittleStranger Sat 15-Jun-13 21:30:36

I don't think it necessarily contravenes rule 2 OWW. There's a difference between investing emotionally and giving someone the courtersy of your attention.

What's odd with Cheshire Bant?

Kirstywirsty Sat 15-Jun-13 21:30:38

Yes me too Bill .. How are things Juliette??

Flipper924 Sat 15-Jun-13 21:39:29

Welcome to Tortilla, hope you've come over from the other thread. You really can't tell until you meet someone, so maybe go and meet the first guy? The ex friend of your ex? Well, that would depend on a lot of things, for me.

Also concerned about Jules, I can't abide lying. I hope it's something you can work through.

Bill, you have my sympathy about the Italian, and I agree with Bant. If it wasn't a date, why call it that?

Am going to pm you, Bant, if that's ok.

Bant Sat 15-Jun-13 21:39:57

Cheshire is very attractive, and ultra cutesy, in terms of posting pictures of grinning hedgehogs in her FB messages to me and stuff. She's intelligent and sweet, but she doesn't seem passionate about anything. She wants to leave Hungary, and I think she's looking for a man to help her do that.

But. I'll keep on keeping on to see how things go. And I won't date anyone else until I know..

MirandaWest Sat 15-Jun-13 21:40:18

I am already bored of marking exam papers. This does not bode well for the next four weeks. Am eating chicken korma before doing some more.

Hope Juliette is OK.

OWW when did Alpha give you his email address? I am useless at acting cool so would probably email him now but I like emailing smile

pornstarmartini Sat 15-Jun-13 21:44:10

Hello all. Didn't realise we'd moved threads.

OhWesternWind Sat 15-Jun-13 21:46:26

Hoping to hear from Juliette soon too, hoping and hoping all is well.

We've been texting Miranda and a couple of days after our date (Thursday?) he texted his email address so I could keep in touch if I wanted to whilst he was away. He's not back til next Sunday so I think I will.

He's just been looking at my profile again ...

MirandaWest Sat 15-Jun-13 21:47:17

Definitely send him an email. Now grin

KinNora Sat 15-Jun-13 21:56:53

OWW - email, email, email ! Blimey I'm always astonished by people with patience

T2710 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:00:53

Oww I think should email him, you only live once :0)

OhWesternWind Sat 15-Jun-13 22:02:07

No, just about to watch lovely Louis Theroux and the porn stars and drink cider .... Tomorrow maybe!

brokenhearted55 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:03:54

This will be my first date since having my heart ripped out sad
Bit nervous!

pornstarmartini Sat 15-Jun-13 22:10:52

oww you have self control!

broken fingers crossed for you x

Well my new profile photo has generated some interest.I wonder if PC Arse will pop up. Must be strong and resist him. I know he isn't right :-(

mercury7 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:13:43

'ex friend of an ex' sounds like the violation of some rule about double negatives! grin

Pomegranatenoir Sat 15-Jun-13 22:19:24

Tonight I have laughed till I cried with my little boy, made a red velvet cake and had some amazing chats with a new man on pof!

Oww you are one cool chick!!!

martini Mentalky step away from PC Plod. He is a badden!!! Your profile pic is lovely!!!

broken good luck. What's the worst that can happen...!

bant I haven't got a good feeling about Cheshire! If something feels too good to be true, it often is!

Hello to everyone else!!

pornstarmartini Sat 15-Jun-13 22:30:49

Mwah pom red velvet cake sounds lovely. Details required about new man. I knew he is bad but dammmmmmn I want him to want me! I have been chatting to someone else tonight. He was about for a while before but it never really went anywhere. Amazingwhat a change of photo can do.

brokenhearted55 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:36:52

Oh actually I tell a lie: it'll be my second date since the split.

The first date I had was so awful I went crying home on the train missing my ex even more.

OhWesternWind Sat 15-Jun-13 22:41:33

Broken - do you think you're ready to start dating? It can be a very positive thing and good fun, and more, but sometimes it can be a bit hard on the spirits and self confidence. If you're feeling ready, then go for it, but if not no harm in waiting a while.

brokenhearted55 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:46:08

It's been since January......

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