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This is the dating thread 54, all welcome!

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All very welcome to share online and real life dating experiences.

EternalRose Wed 15-May-13 23:38:33

I want to make it clear to you all.....and this is very important
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I love a good quiche grin

To get us started, here are The Rules to help us all through

1 Develop a thick skin
2 Do not invest emotionally too soon
3 It's all BS until it actually happens
4 Trust your gut instinct
5 If it is not fun, stop

Rose I really hope that is not a euphemism.

MirandaWest Wed 15-May-13 23:43:10

<lurks once more as otherwise won't be on threads I'm on and I'll lose it. Am down south this week marking exam papers. Commuting is hard work - how did I do it full time ever I wonder?>

EternalRose Wed 15-May-13 23:44:28

No I actually meant a quiche, cheese and tomato is my favourite though!

ike1 Wed 15-May-13 23:45:27

Think he would have happily missed his last train home though...had to remind him and then walk him briskly to the station....

ike1 Wed 15-May-13 23:46:13

Yeah cheese an tom no messin'...

skyeskyeskye Thu 16-May-13 00:16:05

ok you wise people, sorry, I dip in and out of here, but it moves so fast and Im not really dating, that I cant keep up with it all!

I have been exchanging messages with man on match.com, he contacted me first, this morning he messaged at 7.30am and said that it would be easier to keep in touch by mobile today rather than through match, so I gave him my mobile number and havent heard from him since! He said that my messages made him smile. I have sent him a little message on match tonight, not mentioning the mobile thing, and still not heard from him.

I know i shouldnt stress over nothing, but why ask for my number, then not contact me?! its really puzzling me?!

Marking place so don't lose thread.

Checked messages in both sites. All either just 'hi' or weird requests. Tempted to just delete profiles and get 100's of cats.

I have my dad coming at 10 in the morning. Hes moving to another country in next couple of week for good so hes coming to say bye to my son as he will be gone by time my son gets back from his holiday.

mercury7 Thu 16-May-13 00:21:08

Sorry to hear he wasnt your cup of tea Ike sad

Kin the dressing gown rings a bell with Ivorbigun, seem to remember him portraying himself as wealthy? hmm

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 00:42:47

Thank you for your lovely messages on last thread you bunch of cliquey bastards grin

Soooo yday I was exchanging msgs with cunt young un, giving him advice on claiming DLA for his mum and stuff. Was a bit miffed the last txt didn't even thank me. Let it go as he has bad shit going down.

Went out this eve for some wiiiiiine. Discussed matters with my wifey (as I refer to her). Was a bit irritated when I got in abt the whole situation. Looked at his pof profile out of interest. Despite the 'not going forward with any woman' he has not only updated it to his new location, but has updated photos he took, one of which he took in my full length mirror AT MY FUCKING HOUSE. Sent a msg basically saying 'hope you are ok blah blah but I am pissed off you haven't thanked me etc'.

Reply: 'oh well'.

Result: I am incandescent with rage. Not even mildly annoyed, I am Begbie style glassing fucked off. So I replied pointing out how stupid I feek for giving a shit esp as I spent so much time looking after him (which I did, if I was qualified that weekend I'd have made a fucking mint) and he is a disrespectful little bastard for uuploading photos of himself from our weekend (not to mention weird for taking em in 1st place).

2nd response: 'lovely jubbly'

Now obviously I know I am not going to enter into anything with this emotionally stunted fuckwit, but me being me hotheaded, must have the last word I feel the need to reply. Am resisting the urge as, bizarrely, I know anything I have any desire to send to him will be massively hurtful (but true). Ugggggh.

I feel like I need to respond. Someone give me something cutting and amazing. I am generally good at this when not at the level of rage I am currently at.

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 00:43:22

Oh Ike that is cack sad

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 00:46:02

Woweee typos.

I am very peeved though. Golly gosh.

EternalRose Thu 16-May-13 00:49:17

Actions will speak louder Winefiend...

Disappear like a ship in the night, he is not worth your time and energy. How horrid does he sound!

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 00:50:36

Ach ooops I've just sent a cutting text anyway.

OH WELL

(megalolz/cunt)

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EternalRose Thu 16-May-13 00:51:38

He really does sound vile Wine you got a lucky escape there.

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 00:58:49

Ah Eternal, he is a massive prick (suspected but confirmed this eve), I have sent my text so I am now done! Deeming him low (to having zero) emotional intelligence was as cutting as I got and will probs sting quite a lot. Not as much as some of the shit I've had in my direction mind.

It's not like me in the slightest to make even remotely hurtful comments to people (and I've dealt with some absolute twats in my time), but something about him has unleashed my inner bastard, unfortunately. It's really odd actually as I've never felt the need to be so abusive towards someone before whilst having absolutely no desire to see him ever again. Obvs I've had exes who have pissed me off but deep down I've wanted them but in this case.....nope. It's kinda creeping me out actually. Odd.

KinNora Thu 16-May-13 07:02:12

Good morning everyone,

Ike, do you think you might become more attracted to G Ruse if you spend more time with him ? (I was hoping for him to be of Nameless/R&R/Dutchie-esque loveliness and chemistry proportions)

Wine excuse me putting my 'stating the bleeding obvious' hat on but he sounds like he has serious issues going on, and in fact, the photo taken at your house and put on his profile seems really rather manipulative.
I can understand why he's got to you but I think you should completely avoid anything to do with him, he's completely hatstand.

Mercury Ivor's profile seemed a little ...sparse. If he's wealthy, he wants to invest in a better dressing gown.

Skye hello and welcome, come on in. In my experience, expecting logical behaviour from men in OD tends to lead to bafflement and disappointment - a lot of them do this kind of thing, praise you to the skies and then, poufffff ! disappear into the ether. The best thing to do is to shrug and chalk it up to experience, the rules at the beginning of the thread are your friend.

Flipper924 Thu 16-May-13 07:22:35

My ivorbigun sounds like Nora's. I thought I must be special because he messaged me on POf and OKC.

Ike, I always say this, but he might be a grower. Do you feel as meh this morning?

KirstyWirsty Thu 16-May-13 07:37:29

skye maybe he just likes to collect numbers .. That is all the challenge he needs? Who knows ...

wine go no contact, ignore and relax

lubeybooby Thu 16-May-13 07:49:38

Hello all!

Miranda as I always say anyone loved up is welcome and NEEDED! Someone loved up from RL or online dating has valuable info/input/perspective for any dater. Any accusations of quicheness in the future just tell em to do one. I have no idea what's gone on as haven't been here but have had a few messages I can't make all that much sense of.

anyway hey ho new thread and all that I'm not even going to attempt to catch up because I'm still not officially here yet - not out the other side of the madness yet..

Shag date is on for this weekend though. I'll update on Sunday...

VelvetSpoon Thu 16-May-13 07:49:40

skye welcome smile as Kin said, I'm afraid the OD male is prone to this weird msg/msg/msg/vanish behaviour. It has happened to us all, doesn't make it any less annoying.

SPs no need for drastic cat action yet! Give it time...I have contemplated the cat route myself but given I don't even like cats, I'm not sure I could bring myself to!

wine what a nasty manipulative little creep he is. Please don't engage with him further.

Morning to everyone else. The sun is shining, I feel in a decent mood won't last. Hope you all have an excellent Thursday! smile

Winefiend Thu 16-May-13 07:50:48

Hatstand is a very good description grin. I have no regrets at all about losing my cool. My only regret is that I deleted the texts as I have a feeling mine were fairly hilarious grin

Wine I get why this has got to you, he sounds like bad news. Block and blank, this man has no place in your life. Nothing.

Sky we've all sat around at some stage wondering why we have a vanisher on OD. No point in wondering why though, people just seem to do this.

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