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I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

I'm at the end of this process, woollyjo - dd1 had anencephaly, and then I had a molar pg after dd2. ds was born 2 weeks ago, and we only ever wanted two children - had no idea it would be so hard to get here.

It's been a real roller-coaster road for us, and ds's birth has made me reflect a lot on the past 4 years. But we are still here, still happy, with our two beautiful children asleep just now (!) - missing our lost wee ones, and almost bewildered to be where we are. So I've been where you are, and hope very much that in 30-odd weeks you'll be looking at your new baby, and coming to terms with all that's happened.

I know how scary it is becoming pregnant again. I'm 22 weeks now with my second baby. I lost my first at 22 weeks in 2007.

This pregnancy has had it's ups and downs. I had an SCH in the 1st tri and still have the cervix issues that caused my first loss.

I know what you mean about not fitting in to antenatal threads.

I need a gentle thread too. I have 2 children my eldest has a severe disability so society and our family don't really match to well.
I have had 2 miscarriages 13 weeks and 11 weeks and am 8 weeks pegnant and absolutely terrified and finding it very difficult to see that I will actually have a baby!!(hopefully)
Good luck to the others on here and I would love to chat toyou more ..

Congratulations Habbibu

Right now we are taking it a week at a time.

The doctors have no idea why dd2 died a few hours before she was born so we won't believe this is going to be ok until we have baby in our arms.

I hope you are getting the best care illuminasam and taking it as easy as you can.

Cross posted with you hairy - I knew there were others out there.

<<woollyjo offers everyone a cuppa>>

I am at this Woollyjo, your news has made my day.

Wishing all you ladies peaceful and calm pregnancies.

What a great idea for a thread. After we lost ds1 I really felt out of place on the ante-natal thread so I lurked for months but finally joined about a week before ds2 was born.

Hi... Can I join?
I had 2 mc last year at 5 and 11 weeks, ERPC for 2nd one. Now currently 8 weeks but has been stressful so far...
Had a scan at 6 weeks, couldn't see anything. Then had scan at 7 weeks to be told there is a baby, might have seen a heartbeat, but measuring small for dates.
Got to back next Thursday for another scan... So we're in limbo too...
So a nice gentle thread is very welcome... x

I would like to join as well if I may, although I don't dare compare my (relatively common) experience with some of the very tough experiences mentioned. Nevertheless I am extremely anxious and really welcome this thread.

We have been TTC for 3 years. First mc was at 13 weeks with partial molar pregnancy and followed by half a year of chemotherapy. Second mc was at 5 weeks earlier this year.

I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I had a scan today, could hear the heartbeat and saw the fetus moving. Everything (knock on wood) looks ok so far, although I had quite a bit of bleeding until a week ago. However, given my experience and worse ones of some of my friends I am so anxious that I am starting to worry about everything. I guess it is part of the process, and as hairy said I will only believe it once I hold this baby in my arms.

Joesgirl, excellent news (knocks on wood for you too) Sounds like you so need a gentle thread
Wollyjo, such a good idea todo this thread, have tried to join ni on others but tbh it did'nt feel right. Are you really exitedor just simply terrified?
Habbibo, so pleased for you that you have your little ones after a tough time x
Herriot, we sound quite similar in terms of experiences, it's just the waiting game now...
~~~ to anyone else I'v missed
We have another scan next tues will hopefully be 9 plus 3 then.
Have told very few people and so need to be more positive but finding it hard, does anyone else feel like that?

I hope I'll join you before too long. Dd1 is 3, mc, dd2 stillborn at 32+5. Very recent but age is against us so ttc. Like you woollyjo will be terrified for every moment of pregnancy if we get there. Losing dd2 was sudden and traumatic and there appears to be no reason why it happened to her. And consequently there appears to be no clues we could look out for again.

Oh ladies, you have all been through so much!

hairy I am relieved more than anything.

dd2 was born only 15weeks ago (That is the first time I have had to think about it rather than know it)but similar to lunatic if it is going to take a while I didn't feel that we had time on our side and I desperately want a sibling for dd1 (nearly 3).

I don't think we will be able to keep a lid on it for long as my recovering abs have already given up. I was in sainsbury's last night buying bigger trousers so I can sit comfortably. If it comes up and seems appropriate we will tell folk - who knows we may need their support if it all goes wrong again.

Hello - just wanted to say what a wonderful idea but so sorry to hear of all the saddnesses you have had to face. I wish I'd had a thread (or thought to do one!) when I was pregnant with DD after 5 missed miscarriages (with 4 d&c's because of them) resulting in an incompetent cervix and 26 weeks bedrest!

But my point is that although I worried through every single day of my pregnancy and didn't enjoy much of it - now that DD is safely here it seems like such a distant memory - I hope you will all be feeling the same way in the months to come (the distant memory bit NOT the worrying!)

I wish you all a safe and happy pregnancy and try not to 'worry about worrying!' I worried that my worrying (!) would harm DD but she is the most chilled out, happy little thing.

Oh woollyjo, sorry to hear it was recent too. It is just so hard. We are keeping going because of dd1. It seems like madness to ttc already but at least I'm not the only one. Good luck. I'm on here a lot at the moment so if you want to wibble then I'm sure I'll pick it up. And if it helps, you are younger than me

oh I am so sorry woollyjo, no wonder you need this thread, here for you if you want xx

Gently does it ladies, lovely title caught my eye. DD1 was stillborn, then four months later I was pregnant with DS1. He's asleep upstairs age four next to DD2 Wishing you all the very best of luck

Awwww Woolly - I am delighted for you. xxxx

Also wanted to wish everyone the absolute best of luck and offer hope (NEVER thought I'd be in a positon to say that). We lost dd1 to Potter's syndrome, and had 2 miscarriages after dd2. Ds is now 4.5 months and I'm just starting to feel as though my two healthy children are for keeps.

brilliant news Woolly - many congratulations

And lots of luck to everyone else.

I will pop in from time to time if that's OK - I haven't joined any antenatal threads either. Am 25 weeks with DD2 - have DS, 3 next month, and my DD1 died aged five days in August last year.

I have to echo Olissa

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, and i've not joined any antenatal threads either, but if it's ok i'll pop in here every now and again.

I lost my firstborn twin son just over five years ago now, and as well as my survivng so i have a dd who's 17 months.

hi all, hope you had nice days and managed to distract yourselves a bit.

How are you doing Illuminasam? I'm guessing that this is a particularly difficult time.

I have been booked in for an 8 week scan on the 2nd Nov. If we get that far it will be a relief but we know dd2 had a normal pregnancy right up to the day she was born .

Woollyjo - just seen this and want to wish you all the very best with this pregnancy. You and your baby and all these other ladies are in my prayers.

Urgg, feeling so hormonal and weepy today, keep snapping at hubby and feel so sick...but cannot believe that all is going to be ok and also took a very hefty kick inthe stomach this morning from my son.
hope you have all had better days today x

Hope you have had a better day today Hairy.

Another day ticked off .....

Woollyjo, just saw your thread and wanted to say how pleased I am to hear your news and wish all of you sharing this thread the very best.

I'm 8 weeks with my 3rd pregnancy (1st mmc at 10 weeks and, fortunately, one healthy one year old boy) and I feel petrified even in my situation. So anyway, like Hellsbelles says, I hope all the worrying will soon be a distant memory.