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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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A gentle thread for those starting again after a difficult pregnancy, miscarriage etc.

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 14:19

I've just discovered I am 5.5 weeks pregnant.

In the last 2 years I have had 2 mcs and our dd2 was stillborn at term.

So I don't feel like I fit into the antenatal threads, and don't want to frighten anyone with my experiences.

Anyone else out there who needs a gentle thread?

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Habbibu · 13/10/2009 14:28

I'm at the end of this process, woollyjo - dd1 had anencephaly, and then I had a molar pg after dd2. ds was born 2 weeks ago, and we only ever wanted two children - had no idea it would be so hard to get here.

It's been a real roller-coaster road for us, and ds's birth has made me reflect a lot on the past 4 years. But we are still here, still happy, with our two beautiful children asleep just now (!) - missing our lost wee ones, and almost bewildered to be where we are. So I've been where you are, and hope very much that in 30-odd weeks you'll be looking at your new baby, and coming to terms with all that's happened.

illuminasam · 13/10/2009 14:51

I know how scary it is becoming pregnant again. I'm 22 weeks now with my second baby. I lost my first at 22 weeks in 2007.

This pregnancy has had it's ups and downs. I had an SCH in the 1st tri and still have the cervix issues that caused my first loss.

I know what you mean about not fitting in to antenatal threads.

hairyclaireyfairy · 13/10/2009 16:16

I need a gentle thread too. I have 2 children my eldest has a severe disability so society and our family don't really match to well.
I have had 2 miscarriages 13 weeks and 11 weeks and am 8 weeks pegnant and absolutely terrified and finding it very difficult to see that I will actually have a baby!!(hopefully)
Good luck to the others on here and I would love to chat toyou more ..

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 16:18

Congratulations Habbibu

Right now we are taking it a week at a time.

The doctors have no idea why dd2 died a few hours before she was born so we won't believe this is going to be ok until we have baby in our arms.

I hope you are getting the best care illuminasam and taking it as easy as you can.

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 16:22

Cross posted with you hairy - I knew there were others out there.

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ILikeToQuickstepItTangoIt · 13/10/2009 16:44

I am at this Woollyjo, your news has made my day.

Wishing all you ladies peaceful and calm pregnancies.

What a great idea for a thread. After we lost ds1 I really felt out of place on the ante-natal thread so I lurked for months but finally joined about a week before ds2 was born.

Herriot · 13/10/2009 17:02

Hi... Can I join?
I had 2 mc last year at 5 and 11 weeks, ERPC for 2nd one. Now currently 8 weeks but has been stressful so far...
Had a scan at 6 weeks, couldn't see anything. Then had scan at 7 weeks to be told there is a baby, might have seen a heartbeat, but measuring small for dates.
Got to back next Thursday for another scan... So we're in limbo too...
So a nice gentle thread is very welcome... x

joesgirl · 13/10/2009 17:54

I would like to join as well if I may, although I don't dare compare my (relatively common) experience with some of the very tough experiences mentioned. Nevertheless I am extremely anxious and really welcome this thread.

We have been TTC for 3 years. First mc was at 13 weeks with partial molar pregnancy and followed by half a year of chemotherapy. Second mc was at 5 weeks earlier this year.

I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I had a scan today, could hear the heartbeat and saw the fetus moving. Everything (knock on wood) looks ok so far, although I had quite a bit of bleeding until a week ago. However, given my experience and worse ones of some of my friends I am so anxious that I am starting to worry about everything. I guess it is part of the process, and as hairy said I will only believe it once I hold this baby in my arms.

hairyclaireyfairy · 13/10/2009 18:44

Joesgirl, excellent news (knocks on wood for you too) Sounds like you so need a gentle thread
Wollyjo, such a good idea todo this thread, have tried to join ni on others but tbh it did'nt feel right. Are you really exitedor just simply terrified?
Habbibo, so pleased for you that you have your little ones after a tough time x
Herriot, we sound quite similar in terms of experiences, it's just the waiting game now...

We have another scan next tues will hopefully be 9 plus 3 then. 
Have told very few people and so need to be more positive but finding it hard, does anyone else feel like that?

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woollyjo · 13/10/2009 20:04

Oh ladies, you have all been through so much!

hairy I am relieved more than anything.

dd2 was born only 15weeks ago (That is the first time I have had to think about it rather than know it)but similar to lunatic if it is going to take a while I didn't feel that we had time on our side and I desperately want a sibling for dd1 (nearly 3).

I don't think we will be able to keep a lid on it for long as my recovering abs have already given up. I was in sainsbury's last night buying bigger trousers so I can sit comfortably. If it comes up and seems appropriate we will tell folk - who knows we may need their support if it all goes wrong again.

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hellsbelles · 13/10/2009 20:05

Hello - just wanted to say what a wonderful idea but so sorry to hear of all the saddnesses you have had to face. I wish I'd had a thread (or thought to do one!) when I was pregnant with DD after 5 missed miscarriages (with 4 d&c's because of them) resulting in an incompetent cervix and 26 weeks bedrest!

But my point is that although I worried through every single day of my pregnancy and didn't enjoy much of it - now that DD is safely here it seems like such a distant memory - I hope you will all be feeling the same way in the months to come (the distant memory bit NOT the worrying!)

I wish you all a safe and happy pregnancy and try not to 'worry about worrying!' I worried that my worrying (!) would harm DD but she is the most chilled out, happy little thing.

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hairyclaireyfairy · 13/10/2009 20:28

oh I am so sorry woollyjo, no wonder you need this thread, here for you if you want xx

Beanie4 · 13/10/2009 21:47

Gently does it ladies, lovely title caught my eye. DD1 was stillborn, then four months later I was pregnant with DS1. He's asleep upstairs age four next to DD2 Wishing you all the very best of luck

shabbapinkfrog · 13/10/2009 21:54

Awwww Woolly - I am delighted for you. xxxx

Rosebud05 · 13/10/2009 22:30

Also wanted to wish everyone the absolute best of luck and offer hope (NEVER thought I'd be in a positon to say that). We lost dd1 to Potter's syndrome, and had 2 miscarriages after dd2. Ds is now 4.5 months and I'm just starting to feel as though my two healthy children are for keeps.

Olissa · 14/10/2009 12:03

brilliant news Woolly - many congratulations

And lots of luck to everyone else.

I will pop in from time to time if that's OK - I haven't joined any antenatal threads either. Am 25 weeks with DD2 - have DS, 3 next month, and my DD1 died aged five days in August last year.

Deemented · 14/10/2009 16:04

I have to echo Olissa

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, and i've not joined any antenatal threads either, but if it's ok i'll pop in here every now and again.

I lost my firstborn twin son just over five years ago now, and as well as my survivng so i have a dd who's 17 months.

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woollyjo · 14/10/2009 18:41

hi all, hope you had nice days and managed to distract yourselves a bit.

How are you doing Illuminasam? I'm guessing that this is a particularly difficult time.

I have been booked in for an 8 week scan on the 2nd Nov. If we get that far it will be a relief but we know dd2 had a normal pregnancy right up to the day she was born .

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Northernlurker · 14/10/2009 18:49

Woollyjo - just seen this and want to wish you all the very best with this pregnancy. You and your baby and all these other ladies are in my prayers.

hairyclaireyfairy · 14/10/2009 22:56

Urgg, feeling so hormonal and weepy today, keep snapping at hubby and feel so sick...but cannot believe that all is going to be ok and also took a very hefty kick inthe stomach this morning from my son.
hope you have all had better days today x

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woollyjo · 15/10/2009 19:28

Hope you have had a better day today Hairy.

Another day ticked off .....

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MiniMarmite · 15/10/2009 19:43

Woollyjo, just saw your thread and wanted to say how pleased I am to hear your news and wish all of you sharing this thread the very best.

I'm 8 weeks with my 3rd pregnancy (1st mmc at 10 weeks and, fortunately, one healthy one year old boy) and I feel petrified even in my situation. So anyway, like Hellsbelles says, I hope all the worrying will soon be a distant memory.

Lilyloooohhhh · 15/10/2009 20:37

Wooly so pleased to see this remember your thread about your dd2

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