Totally's GRADS...lets handhold thru this....

[boodleboot]

Ok girls....time to get started....

lee stressy amyboo totally

and of course any other ladies who have recently had a Big Scary Fat Positive and will now literally be counting the days to healthy babe in arms, welcome y'all

i have no idea how i am going to make it but i know that i will need handholding....and knowing lots of you already i know you will too ha ha

{Totally's conception thread got me thus far with lots of handholding and i love them for that....}

BRING ON THE BABIES.....

I'm in!!

As per other thread had mmc on 25th may and fell pregnant after first af am now 7+1 and knicker checking, boob prodding and symptom spotting to beat the band..

Let's all try to be happy for this bean and be glad for every day of morning sickness, bloatedness and hormonal breakdown ;-)

ooooh and since x- factors back it'll be good way to get a bit of hormonal crying out of the way (i always cry when Cheryl cries) (I also hate Cheryl for being pretty and thin)

all aboard

Meant to mention that my parents came to visit and had inlaws over.. I made mutterings of a kidney infection and drank one glass of non alcoholic wine (sneeeaky!) and hope I managed to pull the wool over their eyes tho my mum was looking at ne funny sometimes.. Roll on scan time :-)

Good luck girls, have bookmarked you to spy and hope to be joinging you soon xxxxxxxxx

i am going to speak to my midwife friend today who coincidently will be part of the team that will be to do with my preg and find out when i can get an early scan booked in. i will try and leave it til end sept when 8 wks ish but eally don't want to stress out about bean not growing probably. Apparently according to a friend of mine who knows about such things, cortisol that is released in to your system when stressed is a major inhibitor of bean growth so quite am going to really really practice being carefree and lighthearted about this pregnancy....what a contradiction that sounds, practicing to be carefree ha

ok girls....what should i be avoiding then really....caffeine? and whats this deal with baby asprin? are you guys going to take it?

omg.....i am so excited to be on this thread but soooooo nervous. When we see others on the other thread we going to have to make sure they aware their is a grads bus too.

i am glad that this isn't a thread confined to pregnancy months....those big buses sometimes get a bit impersonal don't they....

Hello! I thought I'd come over here and join you all, as I don't really like going on about pg on the other thread, and am way to scared to join any busses just yet.

I'm 8+3 today, and am off to see the gynae after work for another scan. last scan at 5+4 showed everything to be pretty much as expected, but I'm stressing aout today's appointment. I don't really get any ms, just nausea, so I keep panicking that my symptoms have gone away. My boobs are huge, but I just wish I had ms in a way, so that at least I might know if I'd miscarried again. I'm taking it 2 weeks at a time at the moment (will have gynae appointments and scans every 2 weeks until I'm past the 13wk mark where it all went wrong last time). It's still stressful though, and hard not being able to get too excited about it all.

Anyhoo, so happy to see that you got your bfp boodle. I was really hoping this month would be your month!

Hello
I hope you don't mind me posting on your thread, as it sounds like you all know each other from another thread and I'm wary of butting in but equally shy of those big buses. I am guessing from the title it's a thread for women who have recently mc'd and have recently had a BFP? If so, please could I join you? I mc'd on July 7th - tested positive on Aug 21 - no AF in between - absolutely terrified. Can't get through this alone! Help!

Gulp

So, tested +tive again this a.m. but still v feint. Only explanation (other than low hcg which I'm hoping isn't the case) is that I ov'd really late (last bd on CD21)

Thanks for starting this thread boodle had huge wave of guilt this morning about moaning and knicker checking on the other one.

In my head, assuming was on really long cycle am saying I'd be 4+1 though by dates would be 5+1 but as no real symptoms 4+1 makes me feel better.

God I wonder how much cortisol is washing round my body at the moment.

Here's a big hug to you all and welcome sunny this is like knicker-checkers x 1000!!

Oh and lee please may we start a new "I do like Cheryl Cole but hate that she's gorgeous, skinny and rich" thread. Only consolation is she has a dingbat for a hubby.

welcome sunny....we promise to be gentle with you....there is room on this thread for all who need to walk through this however many months/weeks slowly and carefully....

is it irrational to go and buy a new pack of pants that are only white??? i figure theres a better chance of scrutinising if its on a white surface (in my very paranoid point of view.....)

nice to have a thread that every minute obssessive thought can be analysed and contemplated without hurting anyones fragile TTC feelings.....i really hope we see some more BFP is the coming weeks tho.....DH won't even discuss the preg with me as he is trying to encourage me not to get hopes up in any way....

Hello again, and thanks for making me feel welcome. This sounds like my kinda thread!
Y'know the knicker-checking? Is it to check there's no... you know.... blood? (even typing the word sends a shiver down my spine). Because I'm worried you can miscarry without even having any blood. Is that true? I mean, if you have no cramps and no blood, can you assume everything is ok? I don't know what level of paranoia to be submitting to. I was so convinced I had no pg symptoms that I just did another pg test. It was positive again, but does that even mean anything? Even after a mc you can have a positive test for some time.
I bet you're already regretting me joining your thread
Boodle completely with you on the white pants. I'm only wearing white or nude coloured at the moment. Whatever it takes to get through the day!
Congrats to everyone else who recently got a BFP - looking forward to sharing the rocky road with you.

have just done a clearblue digital and that's saying 1-2 weeks so I guess that would coincide with late ov. Am already doing the paranoid calendar checking - why don't I feel any symptoms yet - thing. It's going to be a loooooooong road (well, at least I hope it will be).

Yep Sunny knicker checking is just that. Unfortunately some mc's are missed (mmc) because there's no bleeding - that's what happened to me but, as lee and boodle say (and am trying v hard to be like it too) we've just got to try to stay positive. I think it's gonna be one of those one day at a time things.

Were you far along when you mc'd? It can take a while for hcg to go down to the point where it wouldn't show on a test(took me three weeks) but I'd say you're beyond that point now so happy knicker checking!

May I indulge in my long list of stresses which I imagine some of you will share just to get them off my chest (not expecting answers!):

• will mc / mmc happen again?
• how far along am I?
• why don't I feel any symptoms yet?
• had wine, caffiene, aspartamine and used a skin cream which isn't advisable for use in pg before I found out, will any of those make a difference?
• Will I ever relax?
• Will my gp send me for an early scan or do I have to pay again?
• How do I make time speed up to get me to 20 weeks and beyond?
• Will I ever enjoy this pg?

You get the picture!! Sorry. And breathe.......

Sorry girls but just had to but in with a great big fat .

Have posted on the other thread but so, so pleased for you.

Don't leave us though - you are expected back on a regular basis!

Still smiling after reading your news earlier. Congratulations.

Thanks Stressy. Yes, one day at a time is the way to go. But god, the days are long!

My story: one DD, aged 3; one mc in July at 7 weeks. I went to the EPU after all my symptoms vanished (though I had no cramps or bleeding - just my intuition) and sure enough, a vaginal ultrasound confirmed my worst fears. Unfortunately, the sonographer was a veritable Simon Cowell: "there is no seven week pregnancy here", she said, and that was that. Tactful, eh. The scan was very rough and painful, because they thought it was an ectopic and so had to be "thorough". I mc'd the following day. I think the mc was brought on- or at least hastened - by the roughness of the examination, but that might just be me. The timing was rubbish, as my mc coincided with the day of my FIL's funeral: not ideal to have to get on a train with an overnight bag and travel 200 miles. I posted on MN at the time, as for obvious reasons I felt I couldn't tell my DH and so was completely alone with it. MN saw me through and talked me down from the wall.
Anyway, am extremely surprised to be pg again so soon, esp given age (am 39) but it was my age that made me want to try again so quickly. I did test negative 10 days after the mc, which was 6 weeks ago, so am pretty sure this is a new pg.
Sorry for the epic post.

oh dear...have been taken to my bed this afternoon with awful headache and throwing up....the latter i can assume is MS - yay {always get mine in afternoon never morning....} and it would seem that the headache can be attributed to caffeine withdrawal...i thought i would go cold turkey as i love Cafetiere coffee and having been drinkin bucket loads on holida but the withdrawal by stopping dead has been terrible....had a cup this evening and headache has lessened...will have to have cup tomorr and then go on to half cup next day and finally green tea fr the duration....

going to do my damned best to chill out tho like you have all said, this is a diff pregnancy and will have a diff outcome....lots of prayers for all our beans. DH still doesn't want to talk about preg at all and is really starting to get on my wick already with his 'lets just wait and see how it goes' attitude.....i know he is right but a little enthusiasm wouldn't hurt would it???

I totally understand how you feel with your list of questions *stressy - am right there with you, especially the one about will i ever enjoy this preg....i hope so at some point. My midwife friend said that she expects it shouldn't be a prob to get an earlier scan but if not we have a place near us that does them for about 70 quid...the twelve week mark seems about forty years away doesn't it....

hello peeps, can I join? I had MMC in May and have made it to 8 weeks 3 days.......m'c at 6.5 weeks last time.......so it looks like bean is holding on

I have had a couple of early scans and both times have seen a fluttery heartbeat so feel good......

I have had a lot of bleeding this time though and it is so scary....the doc I saw said that it looks like I'm going to an unlucky one that bleeds right through....

I have been feeling very worried over the last few days cos my symptoms have all gone my boobs are still big but everything else has gone.....another worry I could do without!!

How is everyone else?

Hello Hoops, nice to meet you. What is everyone else's mc history, or can you post a link to your old thread?

Boodle, the ms is a good sign. Wish I had it! Nada for me - not a good sign at all. Hey ho. Trying to be positive anyway, and eat well etc. It's all I can do. My DH is prettymuch ignoring that I'm pg at all - mind you, he did this last time too. No "how are you's?" round our way. So I sympathise with you about your DH's laidback approach. They're probably just sick of us getting our hopes up and then having to deal with the fallout. I don't think a baby is "real" for my DH until it's in his arms. Though obviously he is still coming to terms with the loss of his own father, too, which feels much greater to him than a foetus (well, actually it wasn't a foetus, it was an empty sac, according to the sonographer). Like that makes a difference to me...
Hope you feel better soon anyway.

Hi girlies!! Can't believe I only just arrived

So how is everyone?

I'm so proud of us all.. and now we have to hold hands for another 9 months and beyond

I've seen baby on 12 week scan. gorge little thing with frog legs and DH is getting me one of those 4D scans for xmas if we can stretch to it... and my symptoms have been horrible- sickness, dizzyness, etc.

BUT I still don't feel pregnant. As in can't really imagine having a baby in 26 weeks time. I need to get my head round it. Feeling very hormonal at the moment.

So shall we start the how many weeks list? I'm not on my antenatal thread as it was already very much established by the time I got there and I prefered you girls since we'd done the TTC together

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb

Sorry I don't know anyone else's number of weeks

cool....best stick on this thread seeing as it has your name on it...

I'll put my stats as i know them on it - the due date calculator on MN gave me a rough due date.

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb
Boodle - 3-4 weeks? - DC#3 - due 30th April

hoops - our old thread was called

Just MC'd. Starting it all again.. Come and join me for the long haul.

but i am shite at doing those link things...its a great thread and really helped us all, might be nice to read if you get a chance....we are all on there in all our glory {sometimes not so glorious actually...}

totally name changed from mumofbaby to avoid any confusion...

oh and it was in conception topic

hi all!

hi totally thats great your frog has legs

hi hoops! boodle sorry you not feeling well.. re your caffeine question, ive cut down to one cup of coffee a day and then some decaf tea..

stressy i got confused and wrote this on the due 2010 thread but i rang today and booked a scan with the early preg clinic of my hosp i just explained that i'd had a mmc in may and that i was very anxious. they've booked me in for tomorrow week by which stage i'll be 8+3 (7+6 by my dates)..

Re all your questions, i have all the same ones.. dont worry !

• will mc / mmc happen again?

We are no more statistically likely and i'd like to think we're entitled to a big break

• how far along am I?

Will have to check with himself upstairs and get back to on that one. More than 4 wks, less than 5?

• why don't I feel any symptoms yet?

Oh you will, and you'll be sorry! your hcg level only produces ms etc from 6 weeks according to my doc

• had wine, caffiene, aspartamine and used a skin cream which isn't advisable for use in pg before I found out, will any of those make a difference?

I went on a three day/night drinking binge while pregnant with DD and believe me she is the most intelligent, cheeky and precotious madame you'll ever meet. Also i read that all that stuff you do is before egg has implanted so no damage!

• Will I ever relax?

Yes!! prob when you see a heartbeat - which you will

• Will my gp send me for an early scan or do I have to pay again?

Make an appointment with the GP, tell her how awful its been and you're worried the stress will affect the baby and can you pretty please have an early scan. or ring the hosp directly they might help..

• How do I make time speed up to get me to 20 weeks and beyond?

Watch a lot of star trek and hope for the best..

• Will I ever enjoy this pg?

Yes I promise!!

So glad i have you all to talk to...

Hi - can I join you lovely ladies please? I joined the scary large bus that is April due dates, even though I felt I was tempting fate. I've even posted on there - but it's such a huge crowd. You ladies are exactly who I need to be with, although I never spotted your conception thread.

I had an early mc in July (5+3) and like Sunnydale it was a suspected ectopic so I had quite a viscious internal scan and it was all a bit unpleasant. Anyway I then obsessed like a woman possessed about taking advantage of the fabled fertile time that some women have after mc. I feel incredibly lucky to have got a BFP without waiting for AF. So here I am. Delighted and terrified.

Counting the days. Trying to hang on in there until after 8 weeks and then go to the walk in clinic at the EPAU at St Georges hosp in London.

Today was 5+3 of this preg so I feel like I've passed my first hurdle. Took another HPT today, which is silly really but it made me feel better!

Oh yes - I have a ds of 19 months who is a gorgeous but willful rascal.

Very interesting about cortisol and stress - my last mc was at a time I was overwhelmed by stress - makes you wonder doesn't it. Trying to be calm - but it's not really in my nature, sadly!

Good luck to all of us xxx

Oh and to add myself to the list...

Totally-14 weeks- DC#2- Due 24th Feb
LeeWT - 7 weeks- DC#2- Due 10th April
Boodle - 3-4 weeks? - DC#3 - due 30th April

OOh - nice to see lots of new people on here.

Great news about your bean with frog's legs totally and hello to hoops - I'm not sure but I think we might have been on the mc thread around the same time?

I'm not going to add myself to the list yet, as I mc at 13 weeks last time, so am not relaxing until somewhere around the 15 week mark! Still, had another gynae appointment last night, and am measuring exactly right for my dates (8+3) and we saw/heard a strong heartbeat, which is a relief. Another appointment in 2 weeks time. Fingers crossed.

Good luck to everyone. x

Hello ladies, can I join you here please. I am also on the April thread but terrified to post in case of jinxing! [dramatic emoticon]

I am 5+3 today and have very sore boobs, although the soreness isn't consistent causing me to prod and poke the poor things. .

I had two miscarriages last year, one of which was a chemical pregnancy and the other at about this time so very nervous. I have two sons already, my youngest has a chromosome abnormality and I can't help wondering if there is something wrong with mine and DH's make up iyswim. We have had tests and been assured that we are at no greater risk than anyone else, so what will be will be I guess.

Good luck to all the other nervous ladies, how I wish we could fast forward a few weeks.

x

Morning ladies. Feeling v rough today but unfortunately not with pg symptoms - have tonsillitis - hardly slept a wink last night.

Phoned NHS Direct in a stress about it and mentioned that have had some cramping like period pains (which I thought was normal) and woman just said "oh, that's not normal - make an appt to see your GP" I wasn't worried about them before but now I am (Grrrr)

Hi Hoops I'm fairly sure we crossed paths on an old thread when we were in the middle of our mcs (same time as Lee and amy i think). Great to "see" you. Thanks for the answers lee Like you say, it's so good to have people to talk to.

Welcome to helpet and draughts. You have come to the right thread. I'd have been lost without all these lovely mumsnetters (wipes emotional tear away)

So am seeing doc tomorrow and am basically going to beg for an early scan as there's no way I can wait until 12-13 weeks.