March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

[StormyBrid]

Reckon you'd be best getting your coil out after March is over and done with, Plonk, if he doesn't want a Christmas one and you're partying in February. That might cock up your plans for Something's wedding though. And add in the inability of most people to conceive on demand... Good luck with your timings conversation.

[Plonkysaurus]

Hmm partying 7th Feb. I'm mid cycle now, so even if it was taken out ASAP there's very little chance of having a BFP before then. I think it would just be taken out and then we'd see what happens tbh. I'd only get serious about trying if there hadn't been a BFP by the end of the summer.

Last time, I stopped taking the pill in April, had a period in May, and a positive test at the end of June. Not saying that things will happen the same way this time, of course it could take months, but I'm not currently having hormonal contraception, so am as fertile as a fertile thing. Whatever we decide, we're going to keep it between us until a scan has happened regardless.

[StormyBrid]

I'm tempted to say race you. . Last time I came off the pill on the tenth of May (early birthday present), clearly didn't hit the first cycle, conceived around the seventeenth of June, and got the BFP at the start of July. For a repeat performance I'd need to conceive, er, end of next week I think. Which will mean kidlet probably sharing a birthday with the littlest niece. There was a lot more shagging possible past time though. And if I get another BFP there is no way I'd be able to keep it quiet!

[Plonkysaurus]

The race would be on if I didn't first have to source a participant who is willing and able to remove an IUD

And I'd tell you lot, I wouldn't be able to keep such a big secret!

We also need to extend our house at some point to accommodate dc2, but that's an incidental.

[SomethingBeginningWith]

Thanking you for the new thread!

I no longer have a coil in due to wanting to start TTC last month so DP and I are being verrrry careful. But we were verrrry careful for 4 years prior to being not careful when we moved into our first house around the 1st/4th June which resulted in DS. So, come on plonk get de-coiled and be not careful! There will be a nurse on hand at the wedding but she'll be in a pretty dress and might not want any blood on it so if you can either make sure there is a gorgeous, squishy newborn for me to squeeze or a big ole bump for me to prod. Ta.

[WottaMess]

Wow, so many prepared to start taking steps toward no 2! Exciting. Is it just Betty and me not convinced yet?

Currently being classy bird grabbing lunch at drive thru navy d's ahead of next meeting... Only 15min time gap of non driving time so only option really. Still twice a year doesn't hurt.

[StormyBrid]

An extended house sounds lovely, Plonk. Bigger upstairs and downstairs out the back? We have no space to potentially increase downstairs (teeny tiny yard) but whacking another bedroom on top of my bathroom would be lovely. Shame it'll never happen! People used to bring up a dozen kids in these houses though, so I reckon two is do-able. The only real issue is sleeping arrangements when the prospective kidlet is a baby - it can either disturb my sleep or Fartypants's.

Wotta are you in a "Definitely not again now or ever!" place? Or is it just no more for now? As for Betty, I wouldn't blame her if she didn't fancy taking a chance on another non-sleeper!

[Plonkysaurus]

wotta a bi annual Maccy D's sounds about right. Just often enough to remind yourself why you don't regularly indulge, and rare enough that it really is an indulgence. Their chips are my weakness.

Stormy considering a loft conversion, but it might be easier and cheaper to extend out the back. I'd rather a loft. I poked my head into it yesterday to have a look, and it's all properly boarded. It'd make a mahoosive master bedroom. Problem at the moment is that we have two good sized bedrooms, and then DS's room, which is a mere 7'x6'! The loft hatch is in his room, so we'd likely convert his room into a teeny office space come stairwell.

Something I'll endeavour to be either very fat for your prodding pleasure or with arms full of babe. Preferably the latter!

DH has just got in touch to say that he's out for dinner tonight. Lucky bastard. Me? Jealous?

[yummychocolate]

Just popped in to say hi! Now I must get back to tidying before the boys get home.

[worserevived]

Plonky thanks for the new thread. The title has me all of a fluster. Babax is almost famous, and he's not even here yet. Although I wish he was. Come on Babax. Hurry yourself up now.

Good to know there will be another couple of sibling Marchers on the way, hopefully soon. Stormy does this mean DP is allowed to move back in? You're a braver woman than me if not. I'm not looking forward to solo nights with two tinies myself.

Wotta an occasional Maccys sounds more than acceptable to me.... although I have to say that, given dinner came courtesy of the fish and chip van

Interesting development on the beaker front today. The toddle has a cold, and can't breathe through her nose. This means she can't suck from a bottle. So, for the first time ever she actually drank some milk from a beaker! Only 3 mouthfuls, but that's 3 mouthfuls more than she has ever managed before. I call that a success!

Night all. I'm off to bed, to lie awake until the wee small hours, upon which time the toddle will join me for a chat. I'm so bored of not sleeping now. It's tiring!

[Anypants]

Me too wotta - Given my current poor parenting/no sleep cycle, I think DH summed it up by saying 'another baby would finish you off'. So no, pretty much no DC2 for me for the foreseeable. Still love a newborn though and met one last week who was gorgeous

[ecofreckle]

A quick hello and thanks plonk for new thread.
I'm at sister's house doing a trial run of her putting ecotod to bed ahead of her having her for a long weekend in a couple of weeks. I made myself scarce. It seemed to go well. I'll post again when I'm home but I'm going to turn into a pumpkin soon so best away. Night all!

[StormyBrid]

worse not yet. He's demonstrated he can do his share of keeping the house running and the child alive, fed, and happy. Still no evidence of ability to hold down a job though. At the moment I'm unsanctionable, if he moves in it's joint jobseekers claim, and as soon as a sanction comes along we'd be buggered. But he's just moved from a room in a shared house to a flat of his own with more than one room, so as soon as he's rigged a travel cot Fartypants can do overnights there, which should help with the sanity.

Anyway, it's not specifically another baby I want, it's another child. The baby stage will simply have to be endured, with one slight difference: I won't be sole entertainer any more.

[ecofreckle]

Happy birthday young Betty!

[Plonkysaurus]

Second early morning in a row. DS woke just after 5 and we tried our darnedest to go back to sleep until 6 then gave up and came downstairs. He's wolfed down milk, a banana and toast already.

Goddamn these growth spurts!! He's eating more than me at the moment. I can be sure that when I have my breakfast in a couple of hours he'll steal half. When we finally put our dvds on shelves last weekend we hung on to a box. It's now ds's favourite play to hang out. And it contains the mess nicely.

However yesterday started with a 4 so this only feels slightly early, rather than completely unreasonable.

Did you have a nice birthday, Betty? I hope you got a lie in and properly treated like a princess.

We have (yet another) trip to ikea lined up for today, and a mission to finally buy and put up a few stair gates. What larks!

[Shatteredmamma1]

Belated happy birthday betty how young are you now??!!

Thanks the the thread plonk. I agree don't wait to TTC it might take longer than you think. Is it a Christmas baby DH objects to or a December baby? If the former then the odds are fairly low??
eco how are you? Did ecotod do well with her auntie?

I can understand the hesitation any/wotta/betty. I didn't want another until I suddenly did. 6 weeks later got a BFP! Seriously though it's hard work . We have had probably the hardest week since the newborn stage and I have no idea how we would have done that with another one too!!!

I am also not sleeping worse. It's a cruel thing when we should be sleeping as much as possible. And does worselet really only sleep for 6-7 hours at night? How are you coping??!!
When is babax due? Are you counting in days rather then weeks now??!!
Well frazzled brain from no sleep so can't remember much else. Where are gerry and rainbow these days?
Nearly the weekend ladies!!!!!

[BettysFestiveFrolics]

I lost you but I've found you again!

You are all indeed correct that I am still a long way off being ready for a new little person but never say never. It's very exciting for those of you who are though and Worse and Shattered it sounds like you'll be getting more sleep once the mini ones arrive!

Thanks for the birthday wishes! I was at Center Parcs with DH and madam and some friends and their two little ones and we had a really lovely week. It's nice now that madam's at an age where she loves her friends and going off to play, plus she's a much less fussy eater when there's peer pressure involved. It's been a fab week.

Plonky a couple of my colleagues have yanked their own coils out but it's not necessarily a method is advise especially as one of them nearly fainted halfway through

[Plonkysaurus]

Birthday shenanigans sound lovely Betty

Shattered we still need to have a proper discussion about when to stop being careful. Like you, it only took us six weeks last time. In case we manage a repeat performance it'd be good to have a few things locked down, I just know we're both ready in many ways. On the other hand I've started reading about breastfeeding so I don't f it up again next time!

I'm bushed. Who knew a day with 'no plans' could prove so exhausting! And I am never trusting DS with my phone again.

[worserevived]

Betty happy belated birthday. Sounds like you had a really lovely time. Tiny person peer pressure is indeed a wonderful thing. I have the toddle's nursery peer group to thank for her eating pretty much everything, and using cutlery.

Shattered 38 weeks so it could be days, or weeks, depending. I'm hoping for days. I feel like I have been pregnant for really quite long enough now! Apparently I look well on it though (!), according to someone I have never met before, who seems to know me. The joys of small town living. Because I walk everywhere, I get seen, so people feel they know me. It's most odd. Anyway, to cut a long story short(er), someone told me today they were so pleased to see me with a bump again, and that they were a midwife, and just wanted to say that I 'did pregnancy very well'. So that cheered me up a bit. Last time round I'd have agreed with her, but this time has felt a tad more of a chore. Didn't tell her that though .

Betty fully agree I'll get more sleep when babax is here. That's what happened last time anyway. Bf-ing at night is very soporific. None of this lying awake waiting for dawn malarky. I can't wait.

Plonky don't pull your own coil out. Please. The very idea makes me squirm. It also reminds me that I'm going to have to start thinking about contraception again in the not so distant future. Ugh. Wonder if I could persuade DH to have the snip? Probably not. We've both agreed we're done at two though, so it'd be the perfect solution... for me!

Going to be a tough weekend, as DH has flu, so instead of his help (which at the moment consists of doing pretty much everything for the toddle except her food and clothes), I have no toddle help, and an extra ill person to look after. He's run himself into the ground doing childcare, hotel stuff, tax, building stuff, his various London work projects, and supporting his mum after his granddad's death. Stressed doesn't even begin to cover it. Oh, and then there's me looking like I might pop any moment. Can't be helping! Flu will probably do him some good. At least he'll get some enforced rest.

[Plonkysaurus]

Worse no danger of me pulling it out myself! I can't feel the strings in spit of having quite long fingers, so I couldn't even if I was mad. But as I say, we need to discuss it properly. Although I'm now in the properly broody territory, and it's on my mind A LOT. I'm mostly looking forward to having a valid reason to ignore the litter tray.

I hope DH feels better soon. Poor love, it sounds like he's been a trooper lately. Is your MIL still intent on staying with you after the arrival of the Babax? I haaaate the small town everyone knows everyone thing. At the end of my pregnancy I bumped into chemist in the street, who said that as I'd not been in for my weekly quota of gaviscon she thought ds must've been born!

[StormyBrid]

I actually quite like the small town feeling round here. It sounds slightly better if you think of it as a sense of community. I like the way Fartypants charms the same grumpy butcher as I used to nearly thirty years ago, for example. On the other hand it did prove troublesome finding someone to father my child who hadn't slept with any of my friends (and I didn't entirely succeed - his ex used to be best friends with an ex of my brother's).

When did they move the EastEnders omnibus to a Friday night? I was all set to jump on the man after a night out last night and got sucked into two hours of doom and misery instead.

[yummychocolate]

Happy belated birthday betty.

worse wow 38 weeks. Babax could come any time. I am so excited for you. Stay away from fluey dh though. You definitely don't want to be ill with flu.

stormy I have no idea about Eastenders I haven't seen it in years. I see it is still full of doom and gloom.

I miss dh a lot. I can't wait for him to come home next weekend. Yes he drives me up the wall sometimes but he is great. The solo parenting has been ok so far, well he only left yesterday so I am sure my views will be different by Monday.

[WottaMess]

I've had a couple of tricky nights with a snotty DS and am rather worried it could be chicken pox. Nursery have had 2 cases and today he has some red spots on his face... timing is horrendous though I guess there isn't a good time. Fx it's just affect of all that snot!

[StormyBrid]

Oh dear, Wotta. I'd be hoping he doesn't suffer too badly with it if it is chicken pox, but I only ever had it mildly and it took my immune system three attempts to learn to deal with it. So hopefully it'll be moderately grim and then he'll never get it again.

Belated happy birthday, Betty! 82 birthday wishes on fb when I scrolled past yesterday, you're a popular lady!

We've had 5am wakes the past three days. Hunger related, I think, because she's gone straight back to sleep after milk. And someone appears to have hollowed out her legs.

[yummychocolate]

wotta ds getting chicken pox now is a good thing but is grim. The older he is the worse it will be. Buy some calamine lotion and piriton for the itchiness.

It seems like increased hunger isn't part of ds growth spurt. He has such a small appetite compared to when we first weaned him.

I am going to whisper now so ds don't hear me but we had 6hrs of unbroken sleep. When he woke at 4ish I gave him milk and he slept in til 9am! That was amazing.