Live chat with Dr Tanya Byron, Thursday 6 September between 1-2pm

[OliviaMumsnet]

Hi all
We're delighted to announce that Dr Tanya Byron will be here for an online chat with Mumsnetters this Thursday, 6 September.

Tanya is a practicing consultant in child and adolescent mental health and has two children of her own. Her new parenting book Your Child, Your Way encourages you to really think about the kind of parent you are and the kind you want to be, but mostly to understand your child.

Tanya will be joining us for an hour on Thursday at 1 o'clock, so grab your sarnies, get your questions ready and join us then.

For those of you who have unavoidable lunchtime commitments, we'll let you post your questions in advance here.

Thanks, MNHQ

For the rest of you, we'll see you on the 6th.

[RubySlippers]

yay!
i heart dr tanya ...

[Slouchy]

Ooh how exciting!
Won't be able to participate (moving house next day) but will read the transcript with interest later.

[Piggy]

[LaCod]

OMG

opkease cna we be nice

[Fimbo]

Fantastic.

[Piggy]

Why wouldn't we be? She is fab.

[lulumama]

i also heart dr tanya

now, this will be a chat worth being a part of

[Fimbo]

But I don't want to ask her parenting questions - I want to ask about her clothes and make-up

[Gudgeon]

Fantastic!

[BandofMothers]

oh how cool. She is so good.

[saltire]

Ooh I like her. My mum likes her DH - him from the Bill.

Will need to go and compile my huge list of questions, hope no one else has any!

[LadyTophamHatt]

Blimey, where would I start???


How to parent an 8 yr old who disagrees with everything said to him, by anyone, could be a starter.
How to stop the constant lying from said 8 yr old before my head explodes....
How to stop stroppy 3(nearly 4) yr old from screaming blue murder at his older brothers....

How to stop them all bullying each other...




Jeeeeeez, can I have the hour to myslef???

[tortoiseSHELL]

Yay!!!! I love Tanya! Can't we have 6 hours instead of 1? Better still, can't she join MN and be here 24/7?

[ProfYaffle]

[LadyTophamHatt]

Actually, this is the one I'd really like an answer too is this.

How do you get a child to understand that good attention (ie praise and encouragment) is better then bad attention (ie shouting mad mum)??


because this one really puzzles me.


We/I can praise until we're blue in the afce, over the tiniest thing but he still seems to almsot enjoy the bad attention.


TBH I've near on giving up.....

[tortoiseSHELL]

I'm almost certainly going to be out at that time, so I'll put my questions below.

Tanya, do you have any top tips for getting a 6 year old boy to be less fussy? He eats no fruit/veg except fruit smoothies, peas and grapes, no meat except fish fingers, no potato. He does not eat sweets/cakes except as a special treat. In his ideal world he would live on cereal and bread. He is very bright and will argue the toss when given something - eg 'I'm having cheese instead of meat, that's protein'. We have tried everything, even letting him go hungry - he will go to the point of being physically sick through hunger, but still doesn't try the food. Any suggestions? This has gone on since he was newborn and refused to drink b/milk for 48 hours!!! He is very skinny, but growing normally in height.

(Sorry that's a long one, but he is extreme!)

A more general question - what is the best way to stimulate a very bright 4 year old girl, who is starting school? Should she have lots of 'chill out' time or extra maths?

Lastly, how do you stop a 16 month old shrieking? It is SO piercing, it is deafening.


Thank you!!!!

[DANCESwithDumbledore]

OH Tanya Byron I once wrote to her when (maybe she still is) she was doing her column in The Times.

Well done MNHQ !

[BandofMothers]

Lock him in the cupboard under the stairs LTH, if it was good enough for Harry Potter

(only joking Tanya, honest)

[lljkk]

How much time (daily) should I let my 8 yr old son spend playing computer games and watching TV?

....AND How do I persuade him to want to do anything else, that doesn't involve spending lots of money?

[sweetkitty]

oh I got one

How do you stop a 19 month old hitting/biting/pulling your hair?

I get down to her level say no but this just makes her laugh and hit me more, tried removing her from the room and sitting her on a chair she just comes back and hits me some more. Tried ignoring her that doesn't really work. I know it's a phase but it's driving me mad.

[2Happy]

I've got a question:

Dr TB, pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaassssssseeeeee could you come and live at my house for a while?

[lionheart]

Ooh, ooh, ooh. Dr Tanya is brilliant.

[yetihed]

If your partner doesn't get home til after 7 in the evening, and your child is as yet too young for school (so doesn't have to get up in the morning) do you think it's a good idea to structure their routine so they stay up later to see dad in the evening, and get up later in the morning- or are early nights more important?????

[DANCESwithDumbledore]

Oh I do have a question.

If your child (aged 2 1/2 yrs) refuses their meal do you say that they have to eat a small bit of it or give them something else?

(ended up in a mahoosive mexican stand off with ds at lunch time about a freakin piece of cheese )

[LaCod]

i have a q
do you htink there is any thing int he argument that our temrpeament is affected by wher we come in a family?