I thought I was tougher than this, but I am so tearful

(200 Posts)
YouOldSlag Wed 20-Feb-13 19:35:10

Right away I know I am pathetic. I love Mumsnet and its a big part of my life. many posters have given me a spring in my step just by agreeing with me or quoting me, or just by being wise or kind. Or making me laugh until tears flow. Or outlining an opinion I hadn't considered before.

However, and I know this is stupid, but I am being fucking macerated over the manner of how I got engaged on the "People who plan to "Get engaged" thread.

I cannot believe how nasty it has got. I have got really good at hiding threads that upset me in the past, but this one has actually made me go shaky.

I just feel stupid and thought I was better at holding my own, but I feel outnumbered over something so silly. DH and I went to Paris to "get engaged" and that very act has been labelled pathetic and meaningless. It was such a lovely memory for us and it's had me in tears that it has been called "meaningless" and "pathetic".

I'll have to leave as it's actually made me jumpy and lose confidence about posting. Not flouncing, just feel so shaken and daft to even feel that way.

Growlithe Wed 20-Feb-13 21:07:53

Nah Brian he's from the Wirral. The ironic thing is we'd been to Paris that year, and had another fabulous holiday planned for later in the year, and he still picked that grotty little club.

He went to the bar to ask if they had some champagne. The barman said 'You are having a laugh aren't you?' and he came back with a couple of Baileys. grin

I'd known him longer than two weeks though, and we are still married. Never have been back to that grotty club. wink

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:08:24

Scottishmummy is just well jel cos she didn't get engaged winkgrin

Ah fuck em YOS. Don't flounce over a few opinionated twats.

Your engagement sounded lovely.

I got engaged in Paris too. Dinner in the Eiffel Tower. We were sat near a rather loud Texan couple who insisted on tomato ketchup with their meal. I cannot for the life of me remember what my DH said to propose but the tomato ketchup stuck with me.

elfycat Wed 20-Feb-13 21:08:57

I started reading that thread and soon decided it wasn't for me, and left quietly.

One time I started getting flamed in _chat and was told YABU... I ignored them as they'd obviously migrated to the wrong place and would soon starve on a poor for them diet.

We got engaged after several bottles of wine in my sister's flat in Hove (near Brighton). I asked if the hypothetical conversation we were having could be real.

We then crashed out and sometime after throwing up a cup of tea the next day I had a 'uh-oh' moment and asked if I'd proposed. He said yes I had and the answer was yes. So we went and had vodka-ice for hair of the dog breakfast.

Your proposal/engagement sounds a much nicer story! Don't let them ruin it. Miserable sods!

Umm, sm, we're not telling ourselves everyone else is jealous.

I'm sure there's an app or something so your phone shows all the posts in a thread, maybe you could look into it.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:40

There's nothing wrong with Crewe or Nantwich - with the exception that the ex was born and bred in Crewe. Which makes it top of my shit-list unhinged grin

scottishmummy France Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:56

Gosh I'm no upset,call folks whatever you want,But remember golden rule,no mn grudges

Heaven forfend, sm. That would never do.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Wed 20-Feb-13 21:11:48

Flouncers Corner <checks name of topic>

This is the place to come when you are feeling a bit battered and bruised, then go with the general consensus of "mind the door doesn't bash your arse on the way out" or "don't be daft, stay and take a chill pill".

Isn't it? confused

wink

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:12:17

In all seriousness I do actually think sm was being nice in her own way

TheNebulousBoojum Wed 20-Feb-13 21:12:54

I agree that one of the interesting things about MN is the window that it offers into other people's lives and what they find important. Sometimes I find it amusing, sometimes it's cringeworthy, occasionally I agree and sometimes it's just WTF?
It doesn't alter what I find important and valuable in my life, and yes, I had a romantic proposal with flowers and a special setting that is a special memory for me.
I think you should stay, YOS, otherwise this might continue to bother you more than it should, but you need to recognise when people are being arseholes and walk away much sooner.

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:13:09

I may have had wine

scottishmummy France Wed 20-Feb-13 21:14:31

Yea,keep telling selves all unengaged are so jealous.they want lizzy duke ring too
It's like housewife threads,any working mum is given the bet she jealous retort
If it's significant to you,then it's not going to diminish because others have snigger

TheNebulousBoojum Wed 20-Feb-13 21:15:30

Oh, I don't think the nasties were jealous or in denial either. I think they are narrow-minded bigots who can't imagine anything, other than the way they'd want things doing, as being acceptable.
Rather like my grandmother.

BrianCoxandTheTempleofDOOM Wed 20-Feb-13 21:15:36

<drags Fanjo off sm>

Really, some people have no decorum wink

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:15:41

Noone said that. .well I did but I was joking

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:16:17

Brian I just cant help licking her arse grin

usualsuspect Wed 20-Feb-13 21:18:46

Aww fanjo is all loved up with SM

Lizzy Duke? sm, you dreadful Snob. wink

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 21:19:34

<flings sm away and leaps on usual>

usualsuspect Wed 20-Feb-13 21:23:46

I was wel jel,Fanjo

IF it helps, I came out of hospital, pregnancy related and dh insisted on stopping at bluewater on the way home, disappered off leaving me with a toddler and knackered. Got home, huge row, he chucked a small box at me and said 'I thought I'd ask you to marry me.'
Paris has nothing on us.

harrietlichman Wed 20-Feb-13 21:25:06

I would suggest that there is no need for Flouncer's corner, BeerTricksPotter, since you ask. I have come and gone on MN, as the mood has taken me. Never felt the need to announce my proposed departure, in much the same way I never felt the need to announce my proposed engagement (see what I did!)

scottishmummy France Wed 20-Feb-13 21:26:04

,if we all took mn to heart it would be dreadful,be more stoic,less poor me
Pile in,no grudges, and log off - that's it really.And it's only words on a screen
I've had folk claim i Stalk them,pm enquiring after my mental health,poster who asks is you drunk (irrespective of time,day)

IF it helps, I came out of hospital, pregnancy related and dh insisted on stopping at bluewater on the way home, disappered off leaving me with a toddler and knackered. Got home, huge row, he chucked a small box at me and said 'I thought I'd ask you to marry me.'
Paris has nothing on us.

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