Thank you bebe, I think mine is about 27 (a bit higher? I don't really want to know... Always found it really hard to lose weight - except the time I stopped eating, but that's not a place I want to go again - and find it a really emotive issue. Perhaps if I know I'm doing it for a real reason (for health, not to conform/be more "attractive" etc, ugh) I could do it sensibly...perhaps

I have an office job so the choice to wait is more due to not wanting a summer baby, but I have been feeling guilty about the fact that next Autumn would be the time I would apply for promotion - something I doubt they'll give me if I'm just about to bugger off for a year!

I feel torn between my dh and family's desire to see me do well (plus the temptation of a bigger salary!) and the fact that I really, really want a baby

Anyone else a bit torn between ttc and getting that job/house/holiday/whatever?

I think I have decided to come off the pill at the beginning of Jan. Really have no memory of what my periods were like. I have been with my husband since I was 15 so started on the pill when I was 16. Only started my period 18 months before being on the pill! Been on it 10 years now so good to get it out of my system! Going to tell my parents tomorrow night of our plans as if I am going to train as a childminder they will ask what is going on anyway and can't really keep a whole career change from them. Not going to tell them when we are going to start ttc just going to say preparing for the future getting everything setup and it will be a while don't want them looking for a sign I am pregnant everytime I see them!
Tiffanys glad you are using the waiting time positively. You have done amazingly well with losing weight. I am doing that too (but not lost much yet ). Plus putting more effort into the gym and cutting down a lot on alcohol. Hope you find out about the job soon the waiting is the worst. In the end with mine his job was safe but everyone got a 5% paycut but that was a lot better than losing his job.

Also a teacher so we are also going to start trying at the end of december.

Welcome to all the newcomers!

Kawaiiko we're also adament that we don't want a summer baby too. We're going to TTC in Dec, but I've already worked out my OV dates and worked out that if we were lucky enough to conceive 1st time we'd then have a baby with a late August due date. So we're going to got for it at the end of Dec/beginning of Jan. Ideally I'd love to have the summer hols off, paid for (I work in a school) and start mat leave shortly after.

I've done the estimating the due date thing too, DH would die of worry if he knew!

Florin Hi and welcome, I stopped taking the pill in June with a view to starting TTC in Dec, after 15 yrs on it my periods returned to a 30/31 day cycle straightaway, I was amazed as I can't remember how regular they were before taking the pill. Its each to their own really about coming off it, I just wanted to get it out of my system really well before TTC.

Hi all,

I am glad to hear your experieneces. florin ....im really glad your dh kept his job! Its such a stressfull time!

Dh and i agreed to stop trying but got to carried away ifswim, however we have sat down since then and decided we defo have to stop for now - its just very hard!

I was made redundant when i was off on maternity leave with my dd, although I dont remeber it being quite this stressfull!

On the positive side i am using this time to get my body in better shape, managed to lose 8.5 lb in the last 2 weeks so very pleased with that

Who is due to start trying soon?

One loney sock- haven't looked too long into childcare to know we can't afford it! My friend pays out so much a year I was shocked when she told me and on that on that basis not worth me working so thought if I got registered as a childminder could look after baby and bring some money in! I keep telling my dh it will all work because it has to but he likes to see solid figures as proof!
Tiffanys- fingers crossed about your dh's job we were in the same situation a while ago but luckily mine kept his. It was a sressful time though hopefully u can be back ttc very soon!

Hi all, tiffanys, with my dd (4.6) we were ttc when my dh was made redundant, so we decided to stop trying only to find I was already pregnant! DH was out of work for a couple of months but then found something else, although he didn't qualify for paternity leave though, we would've waited if it wasn't already too late though.
I was on the pill for 11 yrs, when I came off I had regular 26 day cycles, didn't ttc for the first month, but did from the 2nd, and got pregnant in the third.
Still haven't heard from the hospital. If things are ok, would like to ttc straight away, but don't want to get pregnant jan-April as I want to make sure my maternity leave will cover dd's school summer holidays. The hospital may tell me to wait 6mths anyway, or may do treatment that could cause problems - I'm currently trying to distract myself while I wait for the phone to ring! And I'm off to help with dd's school welly walk in a minute. Thanks for the support, nice to know others are in a similar position and can empathise.

Hi

onelonelysock - Dh found out earlier this week about the threat but has to wait about 2 weeks before we know anymore - then another two weeks for it to be confirmed. If everything turns out ok we can start ttc again in about 2 weeks if not it we would have to wait until he finds something else could be up to 12 months

Its been very hard knowing that we have to stop ..... i was / am so excited at the thought of adding to our family!

How long have you got to wait??

smiles to all.

I came off the pill in September, bled as usual, then AF came 28 days later, but don't know if I am actually back to being regular yet or that was just luck! No sign that I've ovulated yet though. I needed to get my cycles regular because I'm planning on starting ttc as soon as I will be eligible for my works maternity pay, so don't want to find baby is due earlier!
I'm not sure if we're going to have to put things back though. The plan was to move house before starting trying and yesterday our buyer dropped out Now it might be ages til we move, but I think I'd like to start trying anyway. I suffer with anxiety anyway, so worried being pregnant when moving won't be good for either of us!

Brandishes a sparkler

Hello Tiffanys waves back! Terrible to hear about your DH's job, how long are you going to have to wait before you get any kind of confirmation about it?

Hello too to Florin, Another first timer! When looking at those finances, did you also get the shock of your lifetime when you found out how much childcare would cost?

Hope everyone got to enjoy some fireworks!

(I'm so sorry, in so many ways for the silly cats, they just make me snort-laugh.)

Glad I have someone else to ride the wait out with bebejones! Trying to keep myself busy with preparation. Tonight sat down with the finances I know everyone says you just manage because you have to but it is a bit scary. Looking into training as a childminder as that should mean I could stay at home but still earn some money! Thanks pidgin about thought on coming off pill I'm thinking of coming off pill in jan.

welcome to Morosky, tiffanys and Florin, lovely to have so many new recruits recently.

Florin I was also on the pill for ten years before coming off recently in preparation for TTC. I wanted to give myself a few months to get used to being without the pill and to let my periods get back to normal, so by the time we start TTC it will be about 6 months since I stopped it. But advice seems to vary on how long you should give it - for some people there's a spike in fertility immediately after coming off the pill, so you could start straight away, but for others it takes a while to get back to normal cycles. As far as I'm aware there's no risk to the pregnancy if you get pg straight away. Hope that helps.

Kawaiiko, sorry to hear you were foiled! I've had similar thoughts about accidents - funnily enough I've found I'm most tempted to forget about contraception around the time I'm ovulating (even when it really was too soon for us to get pg), whether it's a coincidence I don't know!

Kawaiiko - For my unit I was told BMI of 35 (pre pregnat, ie what it is at booking in) was the upper limit. For the record I was 31, which I know is high and why I don't want to be that heavy this time. It's to do with 'larger' ladies having more complications (supposedly) , I was in labour for 64 hours, but DD was back to back & no one had worked that out!! Don't know if that's due to my size or her being an awkward little so and so!

Florin - welcome!! I am having to wait til May/June so I will ride out the waiting with you! Driving me bonkers waiting! No advice on pill I'm afraid. Think mostly people say to wait until you are 'regular'!

Tiffanys - must be awful to be TTC and having to stop. Welcome to the thread!

Evening all,

Slightly frustrated kawaiiko here. Was having a great time with dh last night when all of a sudden he stopped and said, "We'd better stop, don't you think? Better not risk getting pg this month!"

Foiled

I had to pretend that the 'risk' had slipped my mind...

Bebe, do you mind if I'm really nosy and ask what bmi would be considered 'too high' for a midwife-led unit? I too am wondering whether I should be trying to lose some weight before ttc and this might be the motivation I need

Hi
can I join?
I have been married for 16 months but been together with my dh for 11 years since I was 15. Been so broody for so long but finally talked it through and decided to start trying in April. Seems ages away but been on pill for 10 years so want to come off that a few months before to let my body return to normal-anybody got any suggestions on how many months before I should stop pill? Plus for my job I have to have a free holiday every year sailing a yacht (it's a hard life I know!) that is booked for June so also a reason to wait for April as don't want to be to pregnant to fly.
I can't wait to get started not sure how I will wait till April!

not sure why the wave has a link to it????? sorry

Hi [waves]

Cn i join please? I was previous on a ttc thread but my lovely dh just found out that his job is at risk, so we have had to stop ttc for a while

We are not sure how long we will have to wait but im finding it hard already

Im hoping to lose a bit of weight wilst waiting as well, so at least i feel like im getting prepared

looking forard to talking to you all.

tif

x

Onelonelysock - I might join you! Although I was thinking of putting it off til new year (TTC being delayed and all) so at least I can have a guilt free Christmas! I am eating sensibly though, but I do like puddings!!!

Is anyone else dreaming of babies? Can't remember the last night where didn't have a baby dream!

Okay, after a thread snorkling I'm going to brave the fatties to fabulous thread I just hope that I can now find the energy to start actually doing something.

Heehee, Is dp complaining about this leaping?

Maybe we ought to prod each other into weight loss, or does anyone know of a thread here already that'd be perfect for us? (Seemed to have gained some extra heavy wobby dimples on my body over the two years that weigh an extra two stone,keep telling myself the fat blitz will come, never does)

Thanks all for price checking the Sanatogen!

And many zen hugs to you LittleB, all the best for tommorrow as you must be sick with worry, I really hope it's going to be fantastic news for you.

Thanks, I am also losing weight before TTC, it is hard making yourself wait though, I have to stop myself from leaping on dp.

This is picking up now! Welcome Morosky!!

I really need to lose weight even though I know I will put it all back on agin when PG! My BMI was highish when I was PG last time which meant I nearly was denied the choice of our lovely midwife unit (ended up in big hospital being induced anyway but was nice to have options), I am hoping it will be lower next time around so I won't have mean midwives referring to me as 'big'! I know I am a bit overweight but that is just mean, especially 2 days after giving birth!!

Keep eying up the Pregnacare but think it might be a bit lot ridiculous to start it yet!!

Ooh can I join, dp and I are going to start TTC in December, our dd is 8 although she is not dps. I am so excited, I never thought this time would come.

Thanks for welcoming me, sorry to hear you have health problems too bebejones. I'm glad to join a thread with others who can empathise, we can all understand each other! It only took us 2mths to conceive last time, so hopefully not too long this time, but that was over 5yrs ago, I'll just have to wait and see what the consultant says. Have been looking dreamily at gorgeous little baby gros in the shops though, and eyeing up pushchairs!

welcome LittleB and I'm really sorry to hear you've had a hard time with the abnormal smears - I hope the treatment news is good and doesn't delay your TTC too much. Fingers crossed for you.

And Verso really sorry to hear you might have the dreaded flu, hope you are able to get some rest.

Agree Pregnacare is v pricey, although it's also on offer in Sainsbury's at the mo, sounds like everywhere is trying to shift it! I have also been telling myself I should lose half a stone before we TTC, but then think I'll just put it straight back on anyway so what is point ... although maybe I should stop eating for two already!

Welcome LittleB, so sorry that things are not good at the moment. Have got fingers crossed for you. I keep having to remind myself that I am not well enough at the moment to have another baby and it is SO tough so I really feel for you. Hope that they get you sorted out soon and that everything is full steam ahead so to speak! But for the time being you can count down the months (weeks, days, hours, minutes) with us broody lot!

Hi can I join this thread?! I'm really broody, dd 4.6 has just started school and I'm missing my time with her, so now desperately broody. But I've just had an severly abnormal smear, although a colposcopy looked normal, so can't TTC yet, I should hear tomorrow or Friday what treatment they want to give me, I'm worried that the treatment could affect my fertility, or they'll keep telling me to wait and not TTC yet. I had an abnormal smear and colposcopy and biopsies back in March and they were hoping this would've done the trick but it hasn't worked. I'm trying not to worry about it, and focus on nice things - so I keep thinking about babies - which also makes me worry that we won't be able to have another. I shouldn't have left it so long before we wanted to TTC again. At heart I am an optimist though so I hope it will all turn out ok, I just need to be patient. I'm already taking pregnacare conception (1/3 off in Waitrose for 30 pack), in case they say I can start TTC and trying to eat really healthily and get fitter, loose a bit of weight so I'm well prepared - just worried and impatient!

November is an excellent time for a baby indeed - my DD2's birthday is in November . You're all very (I hate this word but will use it anyway, excuse me) proactive, with your book-reading and supplement-taking. Mind you, I can talk as I've gone back to temping the past few months .

Agree it doesn't always take ages to conceive. With my DD1 we decided to start trying. Month #1, I temped and we tried to time things, but didn't work. Month #2 (yes, really) it worked!

On the supplement front I took folic acid while TTC both of mine (and - sadly - for my two that were not to be) - and then low-dose aspirin prescribed by a consultant after I'd had the two mc's, before I had DD2.

Sorry, don't mean to bring the thread down! Am feeling sorry for self today as have suspected swine flu (yes really) and am achy and feeble. Bit better that yday though.

kawaiiko standard multivits are fine when TTC but remember to switch to a pregnancy one when you do finally get pregnant. Normal multivitamins can have too much vitamin A in them.

Novemeber is a great time for birthdays (mine is the 8th )!! Checked the box of pregnacare and it does reckon it's veggie. Pregnacare conception tablets are a little tiny bit more than the Sanatogen ones according to boots website, but I don't think there is masses in it, talking pennies really!

My EEDD keeps changing every months as I keep re working it out based on cycle length for that month! It's becoming an obsession, this cannot be healthy?!

Yay and thanks BebeJ! - I'd be looking at Nov 7th!!!

Sure hope pregnacare is veggie! it seems to think it is see waves packet in the direction of the monitor. But they sure are ludicrously expensive.

Onelonelysock - to work out EDD you take the 1st day of your last AF and go on 40 weeks from there. So to work out when you might have baby, if say you were starting in Jan, work out when your last AF is due before you start TTC (based on usual cycle length usually assumed to be 28 days) then plus 40 weeks. Example: if your last AF is due 5th Jan your EDD would be 12th Oct, assuming you fell pregnant that cycle obviously! Does that make sense?!

Re vitamins: I'm not sure if pregnacare are veggie suitable and from memory they are more expensive than the sanatogen.

Must...get...baby...books...

As I'm sadly lacking in baby facts and have
no actual idea how to work out EDD. Nine period cycles??!? I'm guessing that would mean I'd be aiming for 3rd oct I think.

You guys are making me feel very under commited to the whole broody, baby needing thing! I'm too much of a wuss to buy a book as I'd be too scared of someone seeing me.

Got the pregnacare thing happily wrapped up, although if the sanatogen are cheaper I might give them a try? Do you remeber if they expensive? (And are they veggie suitable?)

about the pregnant ladies everywhere.

I am just moving in to provide maternity leave cover at work and fatherhood is imminent for two males colleagues! Grr. Still, maybe her old seat will be lucky?!

I am just taking a standard multivitamin plus extra folic acid at the moment. Should I be taking a specialist supplement? Seems like lots of people here favour Pregnacare?

I tried to get dh to believe that there was no way in hell that we would get pregnant the first month of trying...but I think he saw the crossed fingers behind my back. Mm, and the copy of Hypnobirthing in my handbag?!

Lol at Pidgin and jennimoo...I've been reading all sorts on the tube too, trying to hide the covers and feeling really self-conscious when someone sits right next to me! It feels especially frowned upon during the morning commute

September baby would be great...oldest in the year at school! Father-to-be supplements sound great, may have to get those for DH make sure his swimmers are top quality!!

And my EEDD is 23rd sept!

I've been taking the santogen mother to be supplements. I bought them on 3 for 2 in boots and they weren't much more to get the double pack with father to be ones too!

Oh and I want to lose 2 stone before I get PG this time!

My EEDD is 4th March 2011 (unless I can convince DH otherwise) but like you Pidgin is only a rough estimation as AF is a bit wobbly!!

Last time with DD I had started taking Pregnacare 1month before we conceived her (Like I said before I didn't think it would be that quick). I also made sure I had as balanced a diet as possible & made a real effort to do my 5-a-day. I don't drink tea or coffee but also cut out any caffinated drinks (don't know why, just thought it would be a good thing to do). This is pretty much what I am planning to do this time, although will be taking the Pregnacare earlier. I am currently on prescribed folic acid tablets so think I will have to be quite careful to keep my levels up!

I have an EEDD too! Currently 6 October 2010, although my periods still vary a little so who knows. Can't believe I just wrote 'my periods still vary a little so who knows' as if that's the only factor that could affect my EEDD... There are many reasons why that's an uncertain piece of information!

OK, here's a question for everyone, which I might have asked before - what supplements are you taking/ will you take when TTC? Am already popping the Pregnacare "just in case" ... just interested what others are planning, but ignore me if I've asked about this before!

I have carefully been plotting to avoid certain people's Birhdays and 'heavy' event months! Tricky this EEDD plotting lark!

feels like she's been missing out, so trys to work out EDD on fingers

Yay! Hugs to both of you! You've just given me another reason to pursade DH to do the fatherly thing quicker, otherwise it's going to be close to his birthday! I might have to work this out more precisely.

Phew, glad I'm not the only one with estimated EDD (EEDD?) ;)

I had half a glass of bucks fizz and a sip of champagne during the speeches and gave the rest to my chief bridesmaid (who I had secretly told). I was so convinced we would still be TTCing 6 months later I never in a million years thought it would happen so quick. I wanted a baby so much and we thought it would be ages so didn't see the harm in TTC so close to the wedding! Bet it takes ages next time!

Jennimoo - I keep trying to do EDD based on when AF 'might' arrive, and not even TTC til next May/June!! My mum has told me that I should be stepping up efforts and getting pregnant now!

I'm also secretly reading What To Expect and have the iPhone app on my phone. I've even put in my predicted last period date and so it's giving me a due date!
My mum is visiting this weekend so everything needs hiding: books, supplements, ovulation predictor sticks!! She keeps talking about baby things, and I keep making out I'm not interested in babies to throw her off the scent, as I'm not ready for that pressure. Last week she was wanting to buy that rattle pooh toy as it is!
Nice to let off steam, and sounds like lots of us will need a 'ttc after waiting to ttc' thread soon!

I'm sure hoping its not going to take 3 months at all and I'm hoping that me and DH have super fertility! One shot + nine months = yay

Just trying to convince DH there's no need to wait Oooh, bad wedding timing though, seriously not even one little drink?

Maybe there was nothing exciting on the telly six months ago, or was it the raunchy tudors? blame the BBC!

Do not fall into the trap of it taking average of 3months to get up duffed! That is what we thought and I was PG with DD after having sex only 3 times! Not good timing at all. Found out 2 weeks before our wedding and then couldn't eat loads of the food or drink and booze and no one knew why!

Waving at all newbies let of steam here it's what it's for! Am so with you all on everyone being pregnant, do these people not have televisions?!?! (I'm just jealous really coz #2 keeps being delayed!)

Waves hello at Kawaiiko Good going on the worrying the husband thing! I keep on telling my DH: "oh, it takes an average of three months to get pregnant, then nine months to actually pop out, so that gives us almost a year to move house and get ready - so sod February, lets start now!"
And I think he was kind of getting pursuaded, until one of his work mates in a similar situation turned up one day in a panic going: "She said it would take forever! What happened there? I'm not ready!"
shakes fist and curses the un-named woman with the speedy ovaries
Well to all of us, here's hoping that we're as fertile when we're ready and hot to go.

I don't think it's you imagining things MrsP, apparently we've got a mini baby boom on our hands due to the credit crunch - I guess here in this thread we'll all just stroll along pregnant next year in a fashionably late manner.

welcome Kawaiiko!

It is indeed a relief to share the desperation with others. I think my husband might think I'm mad too. (To be fair, I am reading 'What to Expect When You're Expecting' on the tube, slightly hidden inside my bag in case I see anyone I know, o he has a point.) Anyway, it helps to come on here and let off some steam!

Is it just me or are there pregnant women everywhere? I saw at least four on my journey home today ... either the broodometer is high or they are following me round for some reason.

It's starting to feel like quite a few people are planning to start Dec/ Jan, is that right? How's everyone else doing?

Hello, can I join in?

I need another outlet before I drive my DH mad. We agreed to start ttc in early December, but then as soon as we finally set a real date I was swept away on a wave of broodiness and started thinking 'Well, if December is ok, why not November...or...October?!' and I think I've scared him. He's probably wondering where his wife went

What's worse is that I've always been adamant that I didn't want a summer baby. I mean, really against it (saw how it affected my sister). If I got pregnant today I'd be due in July. And yet I'm desperate.

It's nice to have a safe space to say that

It's so nice that this thread is starting to pick up a little bit!

Onelonelysock - DD was conceived with very litttle effort & DH still said I scared him! #2 will be far far worse poor man!

Verso - my Godmother was 42 when she had her DD and she is probably one of the best & most patient mothers I know! 40 is NOT old!

just re-read that and wish to add I do not think being 40 counts as an older mother these days - just that it did when my mum was doing it, if that makes sense!

Verso, considerLuisa Dilner! She is 47 and having another one. My mum was nearly 40 when she had me so I am biased in favour of older mothers (and their offspring, obviously ).

onelonelysock and pidgin many thanks for the much-needed slaps. Am still broody, but you made me laugh . Also pidgin I think you are my new best friend - I'm going to go around quoting you: "40's not exactly over the hill, is it?" >preen<

I think I need to start doing the lottery though. How else are we going to afford another maternity leave?! DH works part-time and I work full-time (long story) - so going down to SMP for a few months really hurts. Am sure there's a way though... >sharpens pencil<...

Hi all and welcome to Jennimoo, Spudmama and webby. Verso, consider yourself slapped, although it's comforting to think there are people out there with two who want another! On the less practical side, 40's not exactly over the hill, though, is it?!

My broodiness is continuing to shoot upwards, now have a (small) collection of pregnancy books hiding under the bed. DH spotted the last arrival from Amazon and asked me suspiciously whether it contained, and I quote, "fertility books" - he knows I am researching hard as I keep trying to get him to take a vitamin supplement and eat zinc-rich foods.

We have now decided to go for it in January, largely on the basis that we are going away for a week together over New Year and the prospect of being stuck in tiny cottage with me stone-cold sober was too much for DH. So I will be joining the others on this thread who are planning a last hurrah over the festive period and then flinging precautions to the wind in Jan. So it looks like we might be starting around the same time as you, OneLonelySock!

love to all,
the artist formerly known as MrsP

floats back into the thread after a long break.

Woah! Congrats to yourself Kaylo - Huge hugs and mini muffins!
And thank-you for giving us all an excuse to console our inner little green envious pixies with big bowls of raspberry ripple. Actually, sod it, don't know about youse but I'm having the tub, a celebrations in order!!

Hello to everyone! Especially to the most recent Jennimoo, Spudmama and webby!

I agree massively with MrsPigeon about broodiness coming and going, as for the last few months I've been floating on the wave between psycotically broody and trying to forget all about it - Still finally got a rough timescale - All our debts should be paid off in february, then we can look at buying a house big enough for lots of little pink wrinkly and whiney things. (Although just the one would be fab!)

giggles at bebejones and her military precision sex Really? Made me think of the M+S advert, this is not just any sex... this is (well you know)

oh, and yes slaps Verso with a wet fish. For trying to think in a sensible and practical way, and just because.

I really need to lay off the lunchtime wine. Going to lie down now. Love to all!

Hello, everyone! Am soooooooooo broody it's not true. Just can't have another as it isn't sensible or practical (pleeeeese tell me that doesn't matter lol). Sigh. I have two DDs so can't complain but I want another one! Aargh. Time running out - will be 40 next year - and just not practical to have another . Somebody slap me with a wet fish please.

Although my TTC has officially been put back (again) I think I am going to start charting properly in the New Year. I was pregnant straight away with DD & I only had a rough idea about when I was OV then. Gonna be the most military precision planned sex ever I think! Very exciting for all those who are starting now or only a couple of months away!

Hello
My first post. We're going to start ttc around the end of the year, as then I'll be entitled to my work maternity pay! It seems so far away though! I came off the pill end of September and started the supplements before that. Just waiting for my first 'proper period' and have been having pains for two days now but still no sign of AF! Secretly hoping I'm pregnant!
I've bought some ovulation and pregnancy test sticks online for not a lot of money, and going to start testing for ovulation next month.
It's great Reading all your posts and realising it's not only me who seems to think everyone around them is pg or has a new baby!

have been reading and felt the need to join in. Have finally talked hubby round in TTC2 but have promised to hold off so we don't have another summer baby. It's so hard as i feel like i could be missing out on conceiving by not trying now...

Webbby - hang in there, it'l work itself out, your body just needs to 'remember' what to do!!

Hello, I have been on the pill for 18 years solid! came off it after honeymoon beginning of sept had a breakthrough bleed couple of days after and nothing since!! bit worried i am so broody and have no idea when my periods are going to return!!

I had that same Christmas thought! But it may not happen that fast so need to be patient.

bebejones I'm so sorry to hear that, how frustrating for you. Hopefully the winter and spring will fly by and then you will be ready... sad news though

floweryboots I also keep having to remind myself that we won't get pregnant the first month we try! (I also share such thoughts with DH and get an odd look as though I am thinking of pregnancy on a permanent basis...)
And I know what you mean about broodiness wearing off, I go through stages of being v broody and then others of not being that fussed - especially when I get home from work tired and imagine having to entertain a three-year-old. But on the whole the balance is towards broodiness at the moment!

How is everyone else doing?

Haven't read through all the posts but MrsPigeon just saw yours about thinking it would be nice to tell people at Christmas. I had that exact same thought! I follwed it by telling DH, and got a telling of and reminder that it might not happen straight away! I really must not get my hopes up when we finally start it will happen straight away.

Hi, just thought I'd stick my head in here. I've been looking (secretly, te he) ast this site for a couple of months and thought I'd finaly brave making an actuall post! Husband and I keep agreeing to TTC and then it always get delayed, not my choice! We had agreed September and then DH was asked to be best man at a wesdng in May and didn't want me about to drop when it was the wedding, which is fair enough. So, supposed to be starting in November and can't wait. Mind you, slighlty worried that I am sure I used to be much much broodier then this, think I've been waiting so long i's worn off!

Oh and to make it worse really good friend of ours had a baby girl last week......I want another one!! <<<commence toddler type strop and wailing>>>

My health taken a downturn....now have begrudgingly agreed with DH to wait til next summer!!!

I want to start now too! Think broodiness is driving me a little crazed - at the weekend was discussing Xmas with parents and PIL and thinking it would be nice to tell them we're pregnant at Xmas... need to remember I can't plan everything that precisely!
Good luck to all - keep us posted Norky and Muser!

So have to wait until at least Jan Good luck to you both though!!

I'm starting this month. Was meant to be next month but MrM agreed we could go ahead now. Woo hoo!. Think I should be ovulating tomorrow, might need to go jump him now.

Feels like months since I posted on here (actually it probably was!) - we had to wait for some dodgy meds to get out my system before TTC but my final AF has just finished before we can get started!

So all systems go here - we fell pregnant on the first (and only!) attempt last time so fingers crossed things happen as quickly.

Off to read recent messages now - is anyone else starting this month?

All gone deathly quiet in here again! Hope everyone is ok and that everyone still waiting to TTC is hanging in there!!

I am currently swigging down my folic acid tablet with a glass of wine. At least I can still do that for now!

I know that feeling! My DD is nearly 14months, but since she was born seems like everyone we know has had a baby or is pregnant. Makes me want another one even more! She is great too and at such a fun age so that isn't helping either!

Oh and I know about the increased broodiness thing! Although my friends haven't started yet I swear everyone else in the world is pregnant or has babies! And our entire family keep doing the "nudge nudge, so...." thing. The pressure!

Hi MrsPigeon. I used to be on the pill but not for as long as you, it was nice coming off it but I miss the light periods and being able to skip them when I felt like it! I'm sure you'll be back to normal in no time.

Hi all and welcome redtent and Muser*.

*Muser I totally agree on the terrified/ exciting thing - I veer between being desperate to start trying and horrified I'm even contemplating something so grown up! I'm the same age as you and my DH is a bit older, our friends have started having babies in the past couple of years and now there are babies everywhere which increases the broodiness!

I would love to be pregnant for the New Year. Be odd to have a sober one though

Hope you're all well - I've finally got to something approaching a normal cycle after my 6-week ones which is nice - really odd having period pain again though, after ten symptom-free years on the pill. I feel like a moody teenager again, it's great

Wouldn't it be fab if we were all pregnant for the New Year? It's a very exciting time but I'm also slightly terrified. It's a huge step to take and none of my friends have babies yet (I'm 30 and was the first to get married, everyone else is now married or doing it next year, I'm sure babies will appear soon!).

Oooh we could all end up on the same bus!! I'm hoping to be TTC Jan/Feb (maybe Dec, depends on AF!!)

Hi and welcome Muser, this is definately the place for you my dear! I'm hoping to be trying Dec/Jan time ish.

Oh hey, this thread is for me! We're hoping to start next month. I want to start right now but no deal from the husband. He's said Nov/Dec time. I've had my coil removed and just waiting until we can start. Got my period now and feeling a bit sad really. I want to be trying!

I am still here, been on holiday!! Nothing to report though!

Hello all!

I see this thread has died! Am I the only one left ?

Not been on for a while because my laptop died.

ooh good News! He'll soon come round!

I think I might have nearly won my DH round, after all we already have pretty much all essential kit for a newborn/small baby already....only difference would be boys clothes if we have a boy that is! Plus I know that things will not be this bad this time next year which is when #2 would be arriving if I got PG straight away!! SIL has been nagging about having more this evening...maybe I can wear him down!!!

HoneyPetal yes...I have a namesake in it and it's one of my favourite books. I am however contemplating a name change as I think someone may know my username and I want to post some stuffffff......

argh..seems a nightmare to keep secrecy with the internet and all that!

We've had a chat today about the future, jobs, kids etc...was good.

As for waiting because of money issues- sorry to hear how frustrated you are bebjones. Clearly money is a worry I know. There is however no perfect time to have a baby and in my experience they get more expensive as they grow up rather than when they're little. The kit you actually need is really not that much.....whereas once they hit 2 clothes shoot up in price and then there's headphones for school and kit and trips (we had a load of letters home today....)

I hope that your dh has ore confidence that things will be doable- sooooon!

will post again...going to contemplate what I want to be known...given that someone knows my username!!

Hi all..its been a while since ive been on....i suppose im ofically TTC..But DH is away on a college orientation on other side of the country!!! and im beginning to wonder if we will have time for a new baby if we dont even have time to ttc..busy time of year i suppose, september..with DS1 back to school and DS2 starting playschool and DH

There is so much going on at the moment that I am trying to be optamistic about the 'state of things'!! He has conceeded that if he knows that things will be improving within the first couple of months then there is (and I quote) 'no harm in trying'! So who knows?! Think he changes his mind daily, and at least I have my DD to occupy me, just didn't want too big a gap!

sorry to hear that bebejones - it's so frustrating having to wait, but maybe a few extra months now will pass quicker than you think? It is really annoying for you though. Not much comfort to give but just wanted to say I sympathise!

Feeling a bit low as DH has said that unless our financial situation improves drastically (or shows signs of improvement) by Jan then we will delay TTC! I know he is right, but can't help feeling rubbish about it. And it's not like I can do it without him!! Stupid credit crunch!!!!

bebejones we might end up on the same bus, it'd be nice to be together, I find some of the TTC threads so scary and confusing!

MrsPidgeon I can't believe where this year's gone! Hubs and I decided on our TTC plans in Jan this year, it seem to have flown since then. When I started this thread I never thought that there would be so many of us waiting.

redtent hi and welcome! It is fine to feel broody, I am everyday!

I am also charting!! I like being super organised. DH always joked that when we were TTC our DD it was the most organised sex of his entire life!! TTC#2 will be worse, we are planning to gives Shettles a go & try for a boy! I am convinced already that it will not work! But hey ho, worth a try!!

Was told last week that I am vit B12 & folic acid deficiant so am on big dose folic acid tablets & B12 injections! Was planning on starting folic acid next month anyway but now it's all going to be monitored! Even though that isn't down to TTC plans it still almost feels like I am doing something IYSWIM!!

A bit off topic...but Redtent, are you named for The Red Tent? Its one of my favourite books.....

ps- have been using FF for years. Two of my pregnancies were charted and I knew I was preg because of the charts

Charting now but not trying

I'm tentatively poking my nose in here.

I've 3 kids and we're waiting to TTC for no 4. I feel very broody though! I'd love to be able to arrange things so that the Maternity leave falls at the least busy times of year for my job...however we've never fallen first try and it took 30 cycles the first time....so I dunno!!

Anyway..Hello and gosh someone tell me it's okay to feel broody and not throw the plans to wait out of the window!

(There's some Study ongoing here too that we'd like to be mostly completed...!)

hi, I'm still here, but because I'm not actually doing much about TTC haven't got much to post. I have started keeping a record of my temperatures though, hoping that by the time we start TTC I'll have an idea about when I ovulate. Also makes me feel like I am actually doing something. Am reading up on it and doing FF, it is fascinating stuff. (To me, anyway. DH? Not so fascinated tbh.)

Hobnob: sorry to hear things are on hold for a bit longer. It's so frustrating not just to be able to start. But the months will go quicker than we expect - after all, this thread started in Feb and now it's September!

Bebejones: looks like we'll be TTCing at the same time too, I think we are also going to start in the New Year - Sept 2010 would be nice...

Glad I am not alone!

Honey - We are waiting to the New Year to start. For many many reasons! But if not pg in first 2 cycles I have to 'wait' until May to avoid very full months (birthdays/anniversarys/events etc).

Hobnob - sorry your plans have been delayed! You never know we may end up on the same bus together!! Hang in there!!!!

I'm still here and might be here longer than I planned as Hubby isn't sure whether he'll be finishing uni in Feb or May now. So that might mean putting TTC plans on hold

Im still here...kind of! Does it count that IF we finally decide to go for it, next year would be the best time to try?

Lame, I know.

Anyway, hope this helps reduce the echos. I normally just read, rather than post.

Gone all quiet again, think so many people have graduated!! IS there anyone out there still waiting to TTC? <<<<<helooooooooo>>>>>> <<<<<<echo, echo, echo>>>>>>

Congratulations Kaylo!

THANKS EVERYBODY!!!

It's still sinking in - I've done another ClearBlue today - (just to make sure) and there it was again - "Pregnant 1-2"

I smile everytime I see it.

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OMG Kaylo thats fab news, I'm so pleased for you!

Congratulations Kaylo!

YAY! for Kaylo.....fab news!

we've been invited to a wedding next August.....so now i'm thinking oh christ! how am i going to cope with that if i'm heavily pregnant. Last time i could barely walk. It's not local and will involve camping. Think we may have to have a back up plan of B&B or hotel if i do get pregnant.

Oh my goodness Kaylo! congratulations! Hurray for you!!!

OMG!!!!! I have been lurking as we decided to wait until next year!!

KAYLO!!! Congratulations!!!!!

Blimey you guys are quiet these days....

Hope you're all well!!!

BFP

Goodness me!!!

Tested this morning (at 5:30am as I woke up with period style cramps) CB conception indicator told me it's a BFP 1-2wks.

Still a bit disbelieving as was only my first cycle of TTC#3. I keep checking the test making sure I haven't misread it!!

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hello everyone.

i've been absent too, house-moving and holidays has meant that i've just been very busy.
I went to the GP today for a repeat on my pill and now have my last 4 months worth which will take me into the New Year and then we'll see what happens.

Hi all and welcome to new people! Sorry for long silence from me too, not much to update on. Getting used to having a looooong cycle - 35 days this time and counting! Hope you are all well. Good luck with the testing Kaylo, fingers crossed for you!

Hello Everyone!!!!!

I'm sorry if you thought I'd abandoned you all but my laptop decided it was time to melt the wires and we're still waiting for a replacement 3 weeks(ish) later. Just signing on from work now in a rare moment of availability.

How are you all? Who has graduated from this thread now? I know I'm not waiting to TTC anymore but I love this thread
I'm on the 2ww - testing on the 10th September so will let you all know how I get on.

I don't have time to read through all that I've missed at the moment but as soon as my laptop is my friend again I will and will aslo update you all as to whats been happening in Kaylo-land while I've been gone.

Take Care everyone - I've missed you all!!!! (like literally pining for MN!!!)

Hi and welcome nymphadora, you've not got long to wait now!

Hi Can I join in?

Dp is insisting we wait until we get married so just 8 weeks to go!
It seems such a long wait after being broody since I had dd2 who is now almost 8 (been divorced in the meantime!)

Thanks hobs and hi bebe still watching the thread, despite not waiting anymore. Really is quiet - but then, I was one of the gobby ones...

All gone very quiet on here again!
(wave back at Pigley and good luck again!!)
Hope everyone TTCing is lucky this month!

Sorry I've not been on for a while , not much to update from me.

Good luck to Curly and Pigley

Hope to be joining you soon!

Hollyoaks- Well depending how quickly i fall preg but DD will be around 2yrs old.

Sometimes i think im mad to have another so soon!

I think its becaus she has grown up so quickly that I miss the little baby stage. DD has been walking for almost 2 mths now and says alot of words for her age. She says her name, mummy, daddy,teddy, ball, Digger,car, picture, baby, bubba, dirty, Ta, mmmm ( for nice dinner!).
Her understanding is amazing! She very independant so already feels so much more grown up.

Im sure it will be tough to start with with 2 but be nice for them to be close in age and play together. Plus as DH says.. Gets the baby stuff (ie sleepless nights) over and done with!

pigley just wondering what your age gap will be between your 1st and 2nd dc. My dd is 19mo and sometimes think shes still a baby and other times look and shes suddenly so grown up.

Thanks for the good luck messages

hollyoaks- DD is 13mths old today! Its gone so quickly!

Curly- Ive not offically joined ie added my stats and all that,but think ill make more of an effort to post more more regularly.

With DD I was on the TTC threads regilously but obviously with her i dont have as much time. Its amazing how quickly you forget all the TTC stuff second time round. Ive found myself researching to refresh my memory!

Good luck to everyone when your time comes!

curly sounds like fun, keep us updated.

hollyoaks I've been inducted into the 30s Gin Palace, so I won't be in the 20s and my own thread is redundant - past it now!

Welcome back pigley are you on the May bus?

Curly when I hit 30 (which is not all that far away) I will still be sqeezing myself onto the twenties ttc thread so feel free to join.

Pigley good luck ttc, how old is your dd? Hopefully we'll have lots of +ve tests come mid-september.

Hi everyone,

I joined you all as while ago but was very bad at posting reguarly. The thread moves too fast for me and DD has been keeping me busy!

Well DH and I are "officially" ttc now

Hope to see a few familiar names on the "bus" soon!
[waves] at Bebe!

Thanks bebejones can't wait to have that feeling with my own child for the first time x

I know I'm new...but still very excited for all you TTC'ers!!! Good Luck Curly!

Had a cuddle with DH's Aunties newborn today! Made the brrodiness even worse! Seems so long ago since my DD was that small, and it's only been a year!

I'm 30 - so guess I won't be joining you! Going to keep this thread 'watched' and drop in on you all - you're great company!

Good luck Curly, me and Kaylo are on the 'twenties ttc' board if that applies to you, but good luck, bet your excited. Keep us informed and enjoy.

Numbers crunched, meds researched and well, we're not waiting any more!!!

Came off most of my meds start of July, but had already been off the worst one (in terms of getting PG) several weeks earlier for other reasons. So this avo we decided we were cool to just get on with it - and we are. It's very exciting to be joining kaylo and hollyoaks Gues I'd better go and find the right 'bus' to get on

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Curly I'll keep you updated, just may not be as regular as I'm going on holiday in one week and then back to work the week after . Starting to feel slightly nervous now, exactly the same way I felt first time round. I couldn't believe I was actually ttc and then the shock when I found out I was pg! Strange to feel shocked when your actively ttc but still very shocked.

Hope everyone else is well and hasn't got too long to wait. Kaylo how are you getting on, tired yet .

Hello all

Hollyoaks , thanks for getting this thing moving again - been a bit lazy recently TBH.
Are you going to stick with us and tell us how you're getting on TTC?

welcome bebejones we all feel the pain of waiting together here - so you should be right at home x

Hi all, this thread has gone very quiet of late. I hope you haven't all left in fear of the DM publishing you posts!

Anyway, thought I would let you know that af arrived today, (one day early) and I guess I have graduated from waiting to conceive to ttc . Hopefully it won't be much longer for most of you and you'll be on the due in 'insert month' threads before you know it. I'm hoping to join the June 10 thread all going well.

bebejones welcome to the thread, if your really broody heres the place to talk baby names and clothes.

Curly I bet your pleased you can ttc that month earlier, and extra 31 days would have been torture.

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Just started my own thread then discovered you guys!! Can I join?

DH and I are planning on TTC very early in the New Year (sort of depends on AF!!). The wait is killing me! 4 1/2 months and counting! Everyone we know seems to be having or have just had babies! Our DD just turned 1 and we want to have a couple fairly close in age, just personally I could not cope with 2 under 2!! Not told anyone we are planning on number 2 at all, probably won't tell at all in RL! Not entirely sure how it would be met IYSWIM!

Good luck to all those TTC or starting to now!

Good morning and welcome to hefner and mumandlovingit

As a first timer I cannot relate to any of the stories/fears about kids getting on except to say that my gran told mum to have my bro and I close together cause we wouldn't fight. We're 18months apart and that was a nightmare! Small town, small school shared friends - not great as we'd end up 'with' each other's friends! Don't really speak much these days, but birth of nephew helped a lot. It's not that we hate each other or fight or anything, we just don't keep much contact, but it's improving through SIL, who I think is ace! But then again, other siblings with the same age gap get on like a house on fire, like DH and BIL.

kaylo don't you dare leave us!

how do hobnob, thanks - I can't wait to get started now! Keep dangling the "I should get bigger boobs" carrot in front of DH at the mo!

Second period off the pill just finished. and I'm on my last full cycle before TTC - wwooooo hooooooo!

Hi and welcome hefner!*

*Kaylo you're welcome, be nice to know how you're getting on

Curly how annoying about your doc appt! Glad you don't have to wait the extra month though, means you'll be able to get started sooner!

Well, I've got my 2nd period, I think from my dates, I'm on a 32 day cycle, yay!

Hope everyone is well.

Thanks for the welcome queenrollo, Hollyoaks and Kaylo. Good luck to everyone planning to TTC soon, I'll enjoy popping in to see how everyone is getting on. Can't wait till it's my turn!

Kaylo I'm jealous and I'm only a couple of weeks behind you. I hope the ttc rollercoaster is not like the one at Blackpool Pleasure Beach and is a smoother ride for all on board.

I have now started reading baby names threads and have found the perfect name for a baby girl, I'm sooooo broody.

Kaylo I'm jealous and I'm only a couple of weeks behind you. I hope the ttc rollercoaster is not like the one at Blackpool Pleasure Beach and is a smoother ride for all on board.

I have now started reading baby names threads and have found the perfect name for a baby girl, I'm sooooo broody.

Hello everyone

welcome hefner and mumanlovingit

Well it's my last day of AF today, so next week all being well we'll be TTC.
Only thing is, dh's Nana is really ill and they're expecting her to pass away today so don't think dh is gonna be up to doing anything as theres likely to be a funeral at some point next week[ish]

mumandlovingit I'm having similar worries to you [my dc are 3 and 4] with getting children to/from school between feeds and naps etc. But the good things outweigh the bad things I think. (or maybe my sense is clouded by pretty baby thoughts...)

Anyhow - I hope everyone is well. Can't believe theres a few of us actually starting to TTC in the next couple of weeks!!!

And so starts the rollercoaster of TTC.....

Queenrolo You never know your ds and new dc may be best friends no matter what the age gap, you'll just have to wait and see. My dm and her sister are 9 years apart and best of friends now, just not so much growing up. Saying that m and my ds are 14 months apart and we hated each other when we were kids and have only really got on in our twenties since having our own dc. Maybe its more of a personality thing then an age gap thing IYSWIM.

Hefner welcome to the thread, I dont know if it alleviates the broodiness or enhances it, but its nice to talk babies, ovulation, af, cm etc and not be boring the pants of someone.

Mumandlovingit your feelings are absolutely normal. My af is due in 12 days so we will be ttc at around the same time and I am so excited to have another dc but terrified of morning sickness again, labour and another assisted delivery and how crap I felt aftrwards but I am so excited to get that 'feeling' that comes when you fall in love with you LO. So I to will have really mixed emotions when it comes to taking the pg test. You also have a small age gap between your first two which must have been scary for you at the time but you got through it. Also if the oldest two are at school that might make juggling three dc easier than if they were all much littler.

excited as we're ttc after my next period which is due in 7 days.im so nervous at the same time though. our dcs are 7 and 8 and i dont carry babies very well (mc and early labour) and also dont labour very well (both babies in distress and one shoulder dystocia) so im trying to stay positive but there's an ache in my heart worrying that something will go wrong.

i know the children will love having a brother or sister but i worry about how i will cope with three of them.school holidays and even getting them to school on time inbetween feeds/changing etc!!

probably things you've all worried about yourselves. we both really want another baby but i know once we're actually trying i will be so nervous to be pregnant again and so scared when i take a test.is it just me or does anyone else have those feelings?

welcome hefner! this thread is great isn't it, i haven't told anyone in real life our plans to ttc next year so it's great to come in here and be broody!

Hi everyone,

I'd like to join your thread even though we won't be TTC for quite a while yet. We're both incredibly broody but to fit in with my job it would be best to wait until about April/May 2010. Don't know how we'll manage to wait that long, and I need an outlet to let the broodiness out, so this thread seemed perfect!

Hollyoaks - ds turned 4 last week. I always wanted to have my children close together, but life didn't mean for that to be, there is a 4 year gap between my and my sister and we don't get on. Similar circumstances in a way as we have different dad's but my dad was no-where to be seen......

i have to buy a new car this weekend, mine failed it's MOT and not worth getting repaired really. It's a pain though as i really need a vehicle so i can collect and drop off ds so i have to get something this weekend.

There goes the savings

Hi everyone - AF is here - bizarre to be looking forward to it I know but this is the last time I'll be happy to see her because I will be starting to TTC next week! OMG next week!!! One week tomorrow to be quite exact - which by my studies (errr.....one month observation) should be the week before ovulation. So yes MrsP I guess I am officially TTC

Hobnob Thank you so much for letting me stay - this thread has meant a great deal to me and would love to keep you all updated as it seems I'm one of the first to 'graduate' to TTC.

Curly at your surgery - hpow incompetent. But great news all in all - no having to wait an extra month which can't be bad.

Kalo12 Who are you? Didn't realise Kaylo was your name mwa ha ha ha....and now it's mine

Hi to everyone else - hope everyone is well.

Ooooh, I forgot to tell you all - my cousin had a baby on Monday night - a boy named Marcus Jemal (her dh is American) 8lbs 10ozs, in the end by c-section as she wasn't labouring well, or he wasn't descending - something like that. Just thought I'd share that baby related news with you - it made me exceptionally broody so I apologise if it does the same to you.

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Evening! TTC date returned to late sept/early October - so happy!

Turns out I am immune to rubella and was called back for almost no reason because the stupid nurse failed to note that my liver function test results are always wonky because of the meds I was on. Get to the doctor and say 'i'm here about my rubella' and get this blank look as if to say "and...?"

Very happy about the result (and not having to wait an extra month) but very peeved with the surgery. This is the second time I've been called back for no reason

anyway, hope you are all well. I'm at CD 28 and pretty much on track for another 34 day cycle - I think!

Hi queenrolo, how old is your ds? I'm sure he will come around to the idea of a new baby in time but it must be a source of worry for you.

Your ovulation signs are exactly like mine, pain in one side and lots of cm, once my cycle got back to normal after coming off the pill I was pg within one month. However like you my cycle didnt get really regular till after dd was born.

hello all

i've been absent because of a house move. This has been the 4th move in 18 months but this time we have bought a house and we're staying put for a very long time!

I'm getting impatient and don't want to wait until December to come off the pill. I can remember how frustrating it was last time waiting for my body to fall into a cycle. It didn't do that until after i had my son. I did take a herbal remedy to help my body along and the change in my CM was very noticeable, especially the month i conceived when i also felt a cramping pain in one side which i presume was me ovulating. In the end i couldn't wait for regular periods so i just got on with it. It did cause some confusion over my due dates though......and ds was born 4 weeks early by the doctors dates and only two and half weeks early by mine.

I'm a little nervous.....unsure really how having a new baby will affect ds. He says he doesn't like babies, and i guess because i am with a new partner it feels strange in a way too. I share custody of ds and so i am anxious to get this right as far as he is concerned, i don't want him to feel like he is being replaced.
DP is very broody......which is making me even more impatient!!

Kaylo of course we won't kick you off this thread, we want to know how you get on

Hi there HoneyPetal, welcome! I've had similiar feelings and worries to you. I was on Femodene for nearly 15 yrs, I came off mid June, had my pill break bleed as normal, then 30 days later had a 'normal' period, which was much more painful than a pill break bleed. I should be due AF again this weekend by my reckoning, we shall see! We're going to be TTC around December this year, and I wanted to come off my pill earlier to get to know my cycles etc. I've found it very useful and feel like I'm really getting to know my body too.

CurlyCasper Hope your docs appt goes well!

MrsDmamme I know what you mean about taking the pill and taking folic acid, it felt really strange for me at first to be taking a pill to make a healthier baby and yet taking a pill to stop me making a baby, weird!

Thanks MrsP, Ive been alone in my head with all of this for ages so its great to talk to other people who understand or are going through the same things.

I really know what you mean about coming off the pill being a step in the right direction. The baby issue is such a big one that it helps to break it down into more manageable chunks, for me anyway. Im a combination of curious and nervous to see if I even function as a healthy woman after so long, IYKWIM.

Hi Honeypetal just to say there are lots of people on here in the same position. I came off the pill in June and had to wait a long time for my first period. It did turn up eventually though. I'm now halfway through the next cycle and really hoping AF turns up at the right time this time. I don't know if I'm ovulating but I sort of suspect maybe not yet (although I only have CM to go on).

I know doctors tend towards the position of your GP - but I really wanted to have a couple of months to get my cycle straight before TTC. It also felt like a step in the right direction, if that makes sense. Plus, I think there's a strong argument for getting a sense of your own cycle and when you OV before you TTC. OK, so 'condom babies' happen, but if you know when you're fertile, then surely you have a better chance of controlling fertility, iyswim? I was on the pill ten years and really ready to come off, so I feel like a couple of months of being really careful with condoms if worth it to get my periods back. Like you I was slightly worried my ovaries might just have disappeared given the decade out of use!

Mrs P x

Hi Hollyoaks and thanks for the info. Im on Femodette, a 'lower dose' version of Femodene, I think. I havent ovulated for 16 years so am quite worried that AF may have given me up for good! Six months seems a hell of a long time to wait when you are ready to start TTC, must have been hard for you.

Im seriously considering coming off the pill to see if I even have any ovaries. My regular doctor has warned me that he has seen many 'condom babies' as he called them, so I take your point about an unexpected pg! As to whether it would be that bad, my head says 'er, yes' but my heart says 'perhaps not'....

Morning, honeypetal it took my af 6 months to return after coming off microgynon but then I was pg within one month .

I didnt come off the pill until I was ready to get pg which made the 6 month wait very frustrating! Ihavent gone back on it since and my cycle is now usually pretty predictable. My advice would be to come off it now and get your cycle into a regular pattern before ttc just in case (but thats just what I would do). Would an unexpected pg be that bad?

Morning!

Thanks for all the welcomes!

Went to docs yesterday about an non-TTC issue and casually mentioned making an appointment to discuss TTC. She said 'For Gods Sake dont come off the pill unless you are sure you want to get pregnant' and then outright asked me 'Do you want to get pregnant?' to which I just made weird squeeky noises. Need to get this sorted!

She did say it doesnt matter how long Ive been on the pill, AF could return in a month or in 6 months, it just depend on the individual rather than the duration of pill-popping - anyone with any experience of this?

Morning, and welcome to honeypetal*

*Mrsp I'm temping - has been a bit wonky, but slowly seeing a pattern when combined with monitoring CM and taking other factors into account.

Off to the docs today for the follow-up to my rubella test. Will reveal all when I get back...

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Hi ladies and welcome to Honeypetal.

Glad AF showed up Medee! I read somewhere that apparently 40+ days is totally normal for first cycle, which reassured me.

And very excited for you Kaylo! Are you off and TTC'ing now? (Not right now maybe, but you know what I mean )

I met a friend who is TTC'ing the other night and she told me about a book called Taking Control of Your Fertility - helped her start charting temps and so on, I have a copy arriving via Amazon today, plus a thermometer! Anyone else been taking temperatures?

Hope you are all well.

kaylo, you've nicked my name

Hi everyone - hope you're all well.

Not much to report here - AF due tomorrow then just a week to wait til BD'athon commences

Hope you won't boot me off when I'm not 'waiting to conceive' anymore

xxx

Hi all, I thought this thread had died as its not appearing in the 'I'm on' section .

Anyway its exciting times for those nearly at ttc time, not long for me now . af due 22nd (I say with crossed fingers) and then off we go!

Welcome honeypetal All of those feelings you have are so normal, Ifeel the same and this is second time around for me. As for trying to find the 'right time', I don't know if it exists. We have financial issues as dh is self-employed within the building sector so work is slow, I will have to reduce my hours at work further, and two of my family members who are regular babysitters when I'm at work have changing circumstances which may mean I'll have to pay for childcare (eek thinking of the cost). However, we want a second dc and don't want the age gap to be too big so we're going for it and can't wait (but can because I'm terrified).

Do you know when you will begin ttc?

Hobnob sounds like you had a good weekend, very jealous

hey all,
bought my folic acid yesterday meant to get it weeks ago..but i felt funny last time i was in chemist..
i seen folic acid there but had my script for last month of pill before TTC time!! so i didnt get it.

Hi Ladies,

I hope I can join you - I recently posted a 'how do you know when the right time to start TTC is?' thread and got some fantastic advice and interesting stories, so Im sticking with MN! This thread seemed a good one for me, feeling possible broodiness but mainly fear and uncertainty and also a possible unhealthy interest in TTC stuff.

Thinking of going to the fertility/contraception specialist at my docs to have a preconception discussion, as recommended earlier. Been on pill for 16 blissful years so may need help for cold turkey....

Aww fab news Kaylo!

I've been away for the weekend too. Enjoyed copious amounts of alcohol, making the most of it while I still can!

Oooh good news Medee

evening all. Well first "period", if I can call it that seems to be at an end, so shall get shagging, and see what happens this month!

Been away for weekend.

So excited for you kaylo, not long now and you'll be unstoppable.

Nothing to report here. take care all
x

Hey where've you all gone?

I've only got 3 more days to wait til AF then only a week after that I'll be good to go!! 10/11 days til I can TTC!! I can barely contain myself

I hope you're all well and having a lovely weekend.

Cool thanks very much. I'll get it in the end I'm sure.

So when I get the eggy stuff is when I'm good to go..is that right

I will be watching carefully from now - hopefully I'll be able to spot some sort of pattern by the time we ttc

Hi ladies, I'm glad my cm information has been of use to some of you, it really is a clear sign of ovulation if you get used to tracking it.

Medee congratulations on af, mine was a week late last month and its so frustrating. We were 'practising' the rhythm method so wouldnt be devastated if I had been pg but it was nice to know that I predicted the safe parts of my cycle to do the deed.

egg white cervical mucus - the stuff that means you're fertile (provides a good environment for egg and sperm to hook up!) We're supposed to have a few days of it just before and during ovulation

what's ewcm?

Congrats Medee! Mine was 42 days I think, maybe we can start a long cycles club?! Are the OPKs easy to use?

just posted on the May thread to you medee xxx

I've got some I was given, so shall try them in a fortnight and see what it says. Hopefully the cycle will settle down to something more normal.

Hmmmm, not sure about that one medee....maybe do some opk's in a couple of weeks and see how it goes?

Tough one with such a long cycle.

xxxx

so, when do you reckon I might ovulate? 14 days time, give or take a couple of days?

Hollyoaks We're a little different I guess...my af due [if she's on time] on 12th which is next Wednesday, so am starting TTC the week before ovulation.

medee Finally! Day 43?!? Goodness me...heres hoping for a shorter cycle next time for you

I'll also second what hollyoaks said about detecting ovulation...I didn't want to buy a thermometer for temping as am totally crap and useless at stuff like that - same with opk's although I'm getting better. I tend to wait until I have the crampy sensation, then test, if negative I'll keep an eye out for ewcm which as hollyoaks said is a clear indication [usually] of ovulation.

Hope everyones well - nothing at all to report here

xxx

yeeeeeaaayyyy! About time too, Medee. Hopefully it'll get shorter from now on...

afternoon all! I have news, my period finally arrived last night, day 43!

hmmm thanks hollyoaks, plenty to look out for there. TMI much appreciated in this case!

Well curlycasper as long as you dont mind tmi, I start to get more and more as I get closer to ovulation until eventually there is quite a lot of raw egg white type cm. I wear a panty liner as it can get quite wet down there . So, I would say it was clear in colour rather than white but its more the volume that makes it apparent. This only lasts about 3 days and then reduces in volume until af arrives.

Hope that helps

Oh,I also get some lower abdominal cramping fora couple of days as well.

Thanks hollyoaks I am trying to do both temps and CM, but CM seems as wonky as temps. I've read that the grapefruit juice drinking helps with production of more CM, and I'm hoping if there's more of it, it will be easier to tell the difference!

Sorry if this is TMI, but I'm also unsure of the definition of EWCM. Cooked or raw? Clear, or actually white? Or a bit of both perhaps, like when the egg has just gone in the pan...

Not that mine is the same any two days running at the mo!

Curlycasper I've been lucky with my cycle since dd was born but the pill screwed my cycle up terribly when ttc her. On monitoring your cycle though, I dont check my temps but my cm. It becomes really obvious when I'm ovulating and maybe that would be more helpful for you.

hollyoaks it really does feel like code - but the message is clear! Lucky you, being so regular and organised.

My temps are so wonky I bought some OPKs on ebay last night. Problem is, I'll go through them at a hell of rate if I can't work out when to test! oh, the joys...

I've read something about grapefruit juice and CM, so might have to get drinking to get some better indicators. I'd just like to know if I am actually ovulating or if 17 years on the pill has screwed me over.

Happy sunny Weds from here!

kaylo If all goes smoothly with this cycle af should be here around the 22nd August and I will be ovulating at the start of September, roughly on my 5th wedding anniversary. So, I may get my honeymoon baby 5 years to late.

So, I think we are roughly at the same point but using an ovulation calculator puts my due date (hopeful) at the start of June.

Morning Ladies

Hows everyone?

Hollyoaks Are we strting to TTC at the same time - ish? Think you're just a couple of weeks after me....I'm 20th Aug?

2wks and 1 day for me I posted on the May2010 thread in preparation

Happy [rainy] Wednesday....

Dh has a Wii which is usually ok but as soon as we get company which includes kids or another bloke its on. Wouldnt mind if it didnt involve jumping round the living room so much .

Just did an OPK which I had left over from ttc dd and got a positive this morning exactly 14cd from last af. So if all goes well I'll get af in 17 days, have a weeks holiday and then be on the ttc wagon, wohoo.

I feel like I've just wrote in a secret code that only MNers will be able to crack

And that's why I've said there's no way a PS3 is entering our house! He's got a PS2 already, that will have to do. No greater distractions allowed

x

who invented playstation3's anyway?

A man no doubt!!!!!



Ok........ranty vent over

pfft!

no chance of enticing dh to bed tonight...he's playing pro-evo on some talent building football contest...thing

no pouncing happening tonight!

MEN!!!!!

He says maybe after this game....GRRRRRR!

Hope everyone has had a nice day - I'm gonna hit the chocs in a last indulgence before I join you ladies in a weight loss group Nee to really now even though I'm not too bothered, pregnancy is uncomfortable enough without being a bigger than normal bird with zero energy. I'd settle for just having energy!!

xxxxxxxxxxxx

OLS thanks, might have to have a look at some of those threads.

I know what you mean PrincessLilly, I can always find something better to do too! I've been watching what I'm eating since last week, trying not to eat stuff between meals at the mo.

OneLonelySock and Hobnob I need to get myself on a diet too. One thing that worked really well for me last year was WeightWatchers- I was doing really well on it, and was hardly feeling like I was on a diet- but then went on holiday and couldn't get myself into the routine of writing down what I was eating and counting points. I've been meaning to go to a meeting for a couple of weeks now- but I always get held up at work. Ahhhhh....my summer holiday is only 10 days away now- how am I going to fit into my bikini????

I thought the GPs might be too busy too, but with them trying to keep swine flu folks out, it wasn't a problem. Reckon my school rubella was about 18 years ago.

happy pouncing kaylo

Just found out my SIL is due to have her second in April. excited for her and just a wee bit jealous

It's 20 years since I mine, I think I might phone the surgery, though I guess they have more than enough to do at the moment with swine flu!

Kaylo enjoy your night of unprotected fun Who knows maybe you'll get a little surprise!

As for the rubella vaccine, DD is only 18mo so I would think that my immunity must still be sufficient from when I was pg with her. Does anyone know how long the vaccine is effective for? I only had mine () 15years ago, oooh maybe I should get it checked.

Kaylo - that was my plan last night but Zzzzzzzzz

curly

I'll pounce on him tonight maybe!

xxx

kaylo you say "there was no point" but surely if ov has passed there's no harm in have some unprotected fun? I think there's every point in doing that and you're right, it's neither here nor there... enjoy!

Morning all

medee can't believe AF still isn't here! Hope she comes soon!
Oh, and note to self .... BUY AND START TAKING FOLIC ACID!!!!

I know I'm up to date with my vaccinations as had them all done last year so am covered on that front.

I'm desperate to get started now - really starting to lose patience. Found myself contemplating how best to convince dh to start now and that a couple of weeks early is neither here nor there! Then realised that ov has passed and there really was no point lol Will have to learn to wait - not long now!

Have a good Tuesday ladies

Thanks OLS. Actually my doctor was a bit lost! I had never seen this one before and I went along because I had to come off arthritis meds. He confessed he was no expert in that area, but did look up various bits of info for me. He advised to take folic acid and checked that I had come off the pill too (and - shock - advised me to used condoms in the meantime!). Then asked if I knew if i was immune to rubella and said "well I suppose we could check for that and run some other bloods too".

Seemed to me he was just looking for things to do seeing as I had made the appointment! Even so, I am glad I went along.

Having now sneaked a peek at Emma's diary online, it says you should have a preconception appointment and this is one of the things they will check.

Welcome buns and big balloons to Princesslily, PigglyChez, Hollyoaks, Norkybutnice and AddictedtoCrunchies*!

*Hobnob I was wondering about trying to lose weight too - Joined some of the threads here on MN hoping they'll help. 10 portions of fruit and veg anyone? I can just about manage five at a push...

CurlyCasper Genius on the Rubella front, booking that pre-pregnancy appointment obviously worked for you - I'm guessing you have an amazing doctor - did they give you any other advice?

medee I had a similar experience when I came off the pill when ttc my dd. It took quite a while before I got my first af after being on the pill for about 8 years. Lots of plike symptoms though inbetween and no idea whether to test or not. Hope you not waiting too long.

Evening all,

on the rubella front, I have started a new thread, with an NHS link, to get us all genned up, it's here

medee poor you, what CD are you on now? I found myself desperate for AF to come last month - arrived at day 34. Hope it works out for you soon.

Have a good night everyone x

Thank you all for your warm welcome.

I like to ready the whole thread so I don't ask anything that's already been asked.

Hollyoaks - that would be good to have a pal going through the motions (so to speak) at the same time! We could have a big celebratory Christmas do!

Thanks for the warm welcome and great advice. I hadn't even thought about vaccinations. I only seem to think about all the cute outfits and fancy pushchairs I see mum's parading their LO in. I must live in Nappy Valley- there are babies at every corner- and they're all super cute!!!! I want one!

welcome to all the new recruits. I started taking folic acid around 3 months before I knew I would come off the pill - it will turn out to be 5 months before starting to TTC at this rate (yes, still no period!)

I asked my nurse at my last smear about my vaccincations and she went awful vague and said she would have to check my paper records (as it wasn't on the computer) and call me if there were any lacking. I'm going to assume it is oK as she didn't call, and I do know I had all the right stuff at the right times.

Addicted - my dd has just turned 18mo at the end of July, looks like we'll have a similar age gap (provided all goes well).

Wow, crunchies - you really read the whole thread? You must have patience beyond compare to do that I know I definitely don't!

Hoping you've all had a good Monday

Hi and welcome AddictedtoCrunchies *shakes Crunchie's hand to say well done for reading the whole thread!*

There are a few of us on here hoping to start TTC around christmas time. I don't really know much about ovulating and cycles either, have picked a bit up on here. I only came off the pill last month so I'm watching and learning at the mo. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

Would it be ok if I joined too?

DS is just 18 months and wasn't planned at all. Actually I'm still not sure when or how he was conceived but that's for another day.

DH has always wanted more than one but accepted that I only wanted one but on Friday he mentioned us having another and I thought 'why not?'

We're going to save like mad between now and Christmas and then ttc after that. But I'm 39 in a couple of weeks so don't know how easy it'll be but we won't know until we try.

I've just read through the whole thread (took ages!) and you seem a lovely bunch. I don't really know about ovulating and cycles and the like but thought I'd start monitoring mine a bit..when I've got a pattern I'll tell you all and then you can tell me when I should be grabbing DH and dragging him off to the bedroom..

Anywa, hope you don't mind me tagging along.

No time for big replies, so welcome all.

First-timers: see GP about your rubella immunity. Turns out school injection does not leave us all protected for life and you may have to have a booster - and should should not get PG while vaccine live virus is still in your system. they do a blood test to check. I've recently had mine and been recalled to see GP...

Catch up later! x

<<adds folic acid to next shopping list>>

lovely to "meet" you all!

That reminds me to get some folic acid, not very prepared

MrsPigeon and Medee thanks for you lovely replies. No I don't believe I'm stupid, you're right, that is much more offensive isn't it ?

Hi and welcome NorkyButNice! Not long to wait then!

PrincessLilly Hi and welcome. I started taking folic acid before I came off the pill in June (in case we have a little accident). We're going to be TTC in Nov/Dec time. I've read that you should take folic acid 3 months before you plan to TTC.

pigleychez sounds like your DD had a lovely 1st birthday! And yes I will ignore the crap that comes out of some children's mouths from now on!

Kaylo I'm feeling much better how thanks I'm with you on the Asda buying, I love the baby clothes in there. Ooh not long now!

Hollyoaks Hi and welcome! Another one with not much time to wait!

I'm with you on the excitement - I cannot wait - have repeatedly had to restrain myself from the baby section at ASDA. Which is where I intend to get my baby things from as so cheap and wonderful...

2wks and 3days to go.....[grins impatiently]

[smiles proudly that we have already created thread too long to read]

welcome Hollyoaks!

Its so exciting, my sister is pg so really broody. Also really anxious and nervous about going through the whole pg and labour thing again. But its worth it in the end

Hi Hollyoaks Welcome to the thread

We're starting at around the same time, so maybe testing at around the same time?

xxx

Hi ladies.

Hope I can join though haven't got a massive wait like some of you. I have an 18mo dd and my husband and I have decided to ttc in three weeks so I wont be early pg when we go on holiday.

Sorry I havent read most of the thread apart from the first couple of pages as its too long.

durrrrr.....end of page 16 and didn't read page 17.

What's wrong with me

OHMYGOD!!

I'm so sorry to have ignored Princesslilly and pigleychez I never meant to - I think I must have just read to the end of page 17 and didn't check for others...I'm sorry and WELCOME

Welcome Norky and PrincessLilly and hello again pigleychez - that sounds like a brilliant series of birthday parties, would you consider branching out into adults' b'day parties, too? I quite fancy trip to sea life centre myself!

PrincessLilly, the advice generally seems to be that if you are planning TTC you should start taking folic acid around three months before. Maybe you could go and see your doc and mention it if you are concerned? I went to mine to check vaccinations (rubella mainly) were up to date, and he arranged blood tests that checked my folate levels too. Some practices offer a general 'pre-pregnancy' check-up. So maybe your GP could advise if a longer period of folic acid is still considered a good idea.

Hi all!

Welcome to our humble thread Norky - make yourself at home

10 weeks will fly by - I'm down to 2wks and 4 days and have been counting down since February! It's amazing how not being allowed something either creates a desire for it, or intensifies it!!

hobnob hope you're feeling better.

How is everyone - medee, any sign yet?

xxxxx

Hello all,

I join a few weeks ago but not been posting as ive been soo busy.
It was DD's first birthday last week so hugely busy on the build up to it then busy tidying and geeting back to normal afterwards.

On her birthday we took her to the sea life centre whisch she loved then the day after(sat) we had a family party of 25 people which took plenty of organising. Then on the monday I had 6 of her little baby friends over, all under 2 so that was rather manic!

Anyway now i can relax and get back into normality. And waiting to TTC

Hobnob- Ignore that child.. Ive worked with kids for 9years and they tend to have phases of words they use. I remember one child calling everyone ugly for a while which changed to PooBumHead! lol

Hello everyone,
I feel a bit silly for joining this thread since its a bit premature, however my dp and I have been thinking about starting ttc just after we get married in June next year. Would anyone have any idea when I should start taking folic acid before ttc? My mother always had a weak placenta with her pregnanices and had a premature baby at 26 weaks who didn't survive and 2 miscarrages due to a weak placenta. The doctors advised her to take folic acid for a year before ttc because of this- however this was 27 years ago so things might have changed. I hopefully won't have the same problem as my mum, but I guess there is always a chance, and if I need to think 1 year ahead, then I guess I should strart thinking now. Does anyone know what doctors recommend now?

Hello ladies - may I join your thread?

I've been banned from TTC for the last 8 months due to medication I've had to take - I'm on my last 2 weeks of pills now then it's a 2 month countdown till we're allowed to get down to business...

I wasn't broody at all until I was told I wasn't allowed to get pregnant - then I really wanted to have DC2 straight away!

Anyway, 10 weeks and counting!

good point, MrsP - it's funny how we would take offence at the fat bit but not the stupid bit, which is actually a worse insult, imo.

ps - you don't believe you're stupid just because he said so, do you? Well then!

Hobnob just to say please don't pay any attention to that horrible child, kids say all sorts of things like that and it doesn't mean anything. I remember being totally mortified years back when a little girl I was babysitting refused to believe I wasn't pregnant (her mum was at the time, it was obviously on her mind!), repeatedly asking why I had such a big tummy then! That little boy was just cross. Hope you don't take it to heart.

Hope you all had good weekends xx

Thanks Kaylo, trying not to let it get to me.

Well its lovely and sunny here today! For a change!

I wish I was a size 16! I'm a size 20 and couldn't care less right now - when this forthcoming pregnancy is over and done with....then maybe I'll lose weight. I just don't have the push to do it yet - the way I see it is it will all go back on in pregnancy anyway, which I know from past experience.

I DO NOT care what rude little children say at all, makes me sad they haven't been taught manners! Hobnob Please don't let it get to you - some children are just prone to saying things that aren't true and some words are intended only to cause upset.

Medee Sorry it was a neg result for you! I wonder what else it could be tho...

To everyone I haven't mentioned - hope you are well and you're having better weather, it's been drippy and miserable all day here!!!

xxxxxx

I must admit my trousers have sneaked into the size 14 after being a 12 for years, so I perhaps need to prevent a further expansion. Saying that I have a Nigella New York Cheesecake in the oven so it ain't happening soon!

Nope, I agree but I feel heavy iykwim. I would like to lose it for me and also so that my clothes feel and look better on me as at the mo they don't.

as long as you are doing it for yourself, go for it. 16 isn't too big, really.

I'm prob about one and a half stone overweight, his comments might just have been the huge push I needed tbh. I'm a size 16, would feel happier if I was back at a size 14

sounds like a charming child, Hobnob! I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if you felt you needed to lose weight to conceive, I suppose it might be the incentive. Are you much overweight, if you don't mind my asking?

I'm only slightly disappointed by the neg - I would rather it came after being sensible and not drinking cocktails!

MrsP hurrah for AF finally turning up!

Medee Sorry it was neg, hope the witch turns up soon for you!

I'm really crap at the mo. Might have to delay TTC so that I can loose weight. A 7 yr old called me 'a fat stupid cow' yesterday at the playscheme I work at! I went home in tears, maybe he's right, they do say children tell the truth I know I'm overweight but didn't need a bloody child to tell me!

Definitely not pregnant!

same here - and to be honest I don't think testing really brought my period on, just a coincidence...

hurrah for your period, MrsP. I really don't think I am pregnant, no symptoms whatsover, and we were pretty careful with the condoms - still I should rule it out.

Medee - I ended up testing and then AF turned up a couple of days later - looks like it is actually here now, fanfare fanfare - so maybe that does work? mind over matter and all that...

well, preg kit bought in Sainsbury's this afternoon (buried in the rest of the shopping) for testing tomorrow morning - hopefully the purchase alone is enough to bring on my period. I haven't even broken out the OPKs yet!

Maybe you are right, Kay...!

Hi everyone - how is everyone doing?

Medee nice to see you back, do you think maybe you should test....just in case or if nothing else then to rule it out?

To everyone else - I hope things are going well with everything.

Another rainy day here....fingers crossed for a better weekend.

Take Care everyone xxxx

Hello all, been away with work for a couple of days. It's very kind that you are wondering where my period is, but it still isn't here! No idea what is happening, but I am now on day 38! It has crossed my mind that maybe the condoms weren't sufficent contraception, but that seems very unlikely! And I hope not as I got drunk on cocktails last weekend!

Thanks Mrsp and CurlyCasper! I'm with you two, hope AF sorts herself out for everyone.

that would be complaining, although compaining could also work...

I'm with you on the AF judgement CurlyCasper - mine seems to have lasted one day and now gone away, grr [thinks to self, now I'm compaining about one-day periods?]

glad to hear you're better Hobnob

have a good day all, it looks like there might even be sun here! (London)

xx

Morning morning!

Glad you're feeling better hobnob and re poop in bath!

kaylo thanks for all the nice things you said here and on my other thread. Feels a bit nasty though, every time you say 'no' to a name. at least I look for reasons though, but there have been many I just do not like. Thankfully a few beauties too! V jealous of your three weeks...

To everyone having AF troubles, let's just accept that she's an awkward bee-atch who very much suits herself. Having said that, I'm hoping she comes along a little sooner this month.

Bought my second jar of Sanatogen folic acid etc - another little thing that makes it seem closer.

Mum says SIL is still TTC, if she doesn't catch on soon, we could be having a birth race next summer and the grandparents won't know which way to turn!

Have a lovely day x

Hi all!

Pleased to say that the sore foof is much better , not sure what it was that caused it though. It def wasn't thrush though. I suspect that it might have been some new tampons, maybe the bleach in them didn't agree!

Just had my lovely 9 month old nephew and my sis to stay, was just lovely to get loads of baby snuggles (until he pooped in the bath one night and I had to scoop it out!) I didn't realise just how tiring LO's can be though!

MrsP welcome back! Did you have a good time? I've never been camping so am well jealous!!
Strange about AF tho - she's a funny creature in general tho, does what she pleases most of the time just to upset us!

I worked out exactly how long there is left to start TTC and it's actually 3wks and 1day!!! Even more excited than I though possible cos it's closer than I thought! Even dh is looking forward to it now - although I suspect he wants the whole pg/birth ordeal out of the way sooner than later....wish he'd thought of that 8months ago!!!!!! Grrrr...still smiling tho

How is everyone - I'm sorry to go on so much about me, I'm just so excited that it's just around the corner.
Medee any sign yet?

God I wish I didn't have to go to work!
Cya later everyone - love and hugs to all!!

p.s Curly have posted on your name thread about your suggested names - there are some fantastic ones!!!

hello ladies! wow, this thread has really taken off. Hello to all the new people .

I'm back from a couple of weeks away - we were camping most of the time so I was grateful when my period didn't turn up. Although by the time it had got to 42 days yesterday I was starting to feel a bit anxious ... I'd done a test so knew I wasn't pg but worrying that periods gone for ever ... then this morning, there it was! Can't quite work out if I've got an extremely short or extremely long cycle at the moment, given that I had some bleeding halfway through, but hey ho. Medee have you had anything yet?

decaf I am just the same with vitamins and things - just started taking a supplement for hair and nails which just happens to have 400mg of folic acid...

wow Kaylo only four weeks!! Hurrah!!

Helloooooo...

yep OLS just 4 weeks! Got my first +OPK y'day - felt like thats another big step forward - am hoping the next time I get a +test - it will be a different test And at your toy-buying antics They were definitely an investment!!

Curly My dh is mortally afraid of baby websites and MN. I've been watching a thread for the July09 mums and I tell him each one of them has their baby (or babies!) and he just grunts at me. lol.

Decaf Your secret is safe with us I have the last mothercare catalogue and also babies us! Haven't gone for magazines as I've never read them before now apart from the hospital waiting rooms for scans, gtt (glucose tolerance test) etc.

Has anyone else thought of names they would consider naming their baby? My dh has to be convinced of a good name otherwise he's end up with football stars names or something lol

4wks 4wks 4wks 4wks!!!!

Actually I'm not excited at all.......yeah right! Am wishing the time away til next AF cos that will be the last one before babydancing commences!!!! WooHoo....

How is everyone? xxxx

I LOVE that you have toys in the loft! You can always say a friend 'donated' them if your other half finds them, looking for the xmas decorations!! I have to confess I have bought a gorgeous sleepsuit and matching hat in the last month or so!

CurlyCasper I'm not a first timer this would be our 2nd go at TTC. It took us a year to get our lovely boy so I'm not anticipating an easy ride this time round either...the friends I've met since having him are all going to be trying for #2 in the next 6 months or so too - we're hoping to all be on mat leave together again! Sadly, they all seem to be part of the 'got pg on the first go' gang so knowing my luck they'll all be back at work just as I conceive!

Aaagghh!! xx

re the stock in the loft OLS !!

OLS not sure, hunting for something not too crazy but with a river/water meaning at the mo. Not keen on suggestions such as Thames and Oxbow! It has to be subtle, but have the meaning there IYSWIM

So far I have Mara, Clodagh, Isis, Nixie (and poss Tallulah/lula, if we are brave!) for girls

Innes (pr Inis) for a boy. Douglas and Abhainn (pr Avin and gaelic for river) discounted by DH

DH not really had a say on many so far and I should say that I've only been looking since Sunday evening!

My thread is here

<<Waves to everyone she hasn't said hello to yet>>

Decaf I'm with you all the way on feeling psychotic and baby magazine shopping. My DH found out though, he discovered me with a magazine when he came home early one evening. Still it's just nice to find that we're not alone Curly what are your naming front runners so far?

Also, um, about a year and a half ago my old employers went down the tube and I ended up redundant, and well, they were selling a lot of stock off cheaply. It was very, very cheap. And all great quality and wooden. And well I had got my knowledge of what the parents loved to buy. And, um, well now I'm sure that the box of toys in the attic will last any child until they're about 3yrs old. So really they are an investment....Did I mention they really were stupidly cheap?

Wow Kaylo 4 weeks???

hello, hello, hello and welcome - you busy bunch!

Interesting to hear your tales of different (or not) rates of conception.

As a first-timer I cannot compare. decaf are you a first timer too? I'm pretty obsessed now. It's been on my mind for a while, but it was only in June that we had the conversation and decided to go for it - and now all guns are blazing in preparation. I've even started a names thread cause I knoe DH and I have very different ideas! Also gives me something to focus on.

I have bought a book and the old folic acid/vits, but no magazines or catalogues - that would terrify him. Mind you, MN and store websites do the trick anyway

x

I'd like to confess that I'm started to get excited about TTC WAY too early...

I just happened to pick up the new autumn/winter mothercare catalogue yesterday

I just happened to slip a copy of Pregnancy and Birth into my trolley at Tesco today

I've been monitoring my (very umpredictable) cycles for 4 months now

I'm taking a multivitamin to help my cycles...they just happen to have a large dose of folic acid in them

I don't want to get pg till FEBRUARY!!! How can I be this obsessed already! I did not realise I was this broody!

Oh God, no one tell my husband!

Wow after Christmas...plenty of time for your dp to get used to the idea!

new year, new plans...

I remember when I was counting down the months - from 7 months before TTC, and now it's only 4 weeks away!! Am soooo excited - just can't wait!!!
My dh still hasnt got his head round it fully - kind of in acceptance stage at the mo. Don't think he's put it on a time scale like I have so doesn't see it as close as it really is, my theory anyway

xxx

evening all - have decided to stop taking my pill after Christmas and see what happens. Hoping it doesn't take as long as last time for my body to settle into a cycle, but this time i will only have been on the pill for two years (last time was 12)
DP says it still hasn't sunk in that we're really going to try for a baby! Not sure how ds will feel about it, he doesn't like babies...when i asked him why he said 'they're noisy'....which in view of how noisy he is made me really laugh

OOoooh - congratulations to friend of Medee!!!!

Hoping AF turns up soon for you medee - she's being a pain in the arse isnt she????

Evening all! My friend had her baby today - #3! Nothing to report for me, still no period. Grr, I want to get going now.

Hi
welcome sleepless - loving the name!!!

Can't really play when it comes to large age gaps - my dc's are 3 and 4, so technically the biggest age gap I'll have with my kids is 3 years (assuming I fall pg fairly soon after starting TTC).
I was the youngest child in my siblings tho with my brother being 13 and sister being 17 when I was born - they are now 37 and 41!! My sister is older than MiL's mum!!

With regards to falling pg quickly - I guess I do - with dd I wasn't trying, just young and careless. With ds we decided early on to start TTC #2 but seemed to take ages - in fact was about 4 months! Which feels like forever when you have a stash of home testing kits tempting you!

Is everyone ok? I'm practically sleep-walking lol!!! Sooooo tired.

Catch ya laters girls xxx

the 4 pregnancies i have had have not been planned. my last pregnancy last year happened when i was breast feeding AND on the pill...unfortunately it didn't result in a baby. i worry that if i actively 'try' iyswim i will be disappointed, that said we absolutely can't have another one really until late summer/september onwards so being lacksadaisical is not really an option either just in case it happens immediately! i am nearly 37 now though so maybe things will slow down?

Hi mrsDamamee and sleeplessinstretford i usually am able to conceive easily, while trying for our last dc we thought it would happen quickly but it took us a year - the longest ever, even when we tryed to concieve no 1 it didn't take that long!! You could casually try but not if that makes sense so if things don't happen you won't be to gutted untill the time you really want to try - if that all makes sense!!!

snap..i concieved way too easy with my 1st and 2nd, so im guessing now that im in my 30s it will take a bit longer. So im not getting my hopes up for anything to happen this year.
cash wise, im resigned to the fact ill have no foreign hols for the next 4 years anyways..

i seem to conceive easily (some might say miraculously) but am worried that now i actually want to have a baby i'll struggle.I also think that if i've not conceived by summer time 2010 i might not go for a third-have been a bit spoiled in the past.We're not using anything now other than condoms so can just go for it as soon as we want-only thing stopping us is cash!

sure why not, welcome sleepless
i know what you mean by the huge gaps

ive a 12 year old and a 3 year old...so fingers crossed baby #3 appears in the next year or so

*sticks head over parapet*
can i come late to this party? i have had confirmation dp that i can definitely have another baby but he's not going to get me pregnant until after Xmas.
Have 2 dd's-one will be 15 and the other will be 2 by then meaning she'll be at part time nursery when baby 3 rocks up...
my best mate also has plans for her next baby at the same-ish time,i don't work so no problem re career-i just hope it happens soon though as i don't want another honking great gap between babies,so,am i in or what?

finished my last pill in pack on friday(last pack for the foreseeable future)..now its time to play the waiting game

um, that should have been breathing on his neck (not berating or beating)

I'd def get it looked into Hobnob, If it's thrush it'll be easily dealt with. Tight trousers + Bike riding + Tampons = always used to do it for me. So no more Olivia Newton-John style trousers for you Hobnob!

I'm grand, had a huggge lie in this morning, (slept through a golf lesson) and was bought breakfast in bed. Think other half is a little grumpy though as I continually woke him up by breating on his neck all night.

How's you?

(Crossed fingers for your AF Medee)

erk, Hobnob, it is a long time since I had thrush, but I remember a nasty discharge with it.

I'm fine, had lovely and tipsy night out with husband last night (so much for giving up alcohol!) Still no period.

Hobnob Thats not sounding like fun!!!

How is everyone? xxx

Massive Congratulations Angelfif! Sending lots of sticky vibes your way.

Nothing much to report here. Only that I have an itchy foof! I'm wondering if I might have thrush but I've never suffered before, it just feels swollen and a bit irritated. Sorry if tmi!

Hehehehe - thank you onelonelysock!!

Excellent news Angel, I'll raid the kitchen later tonight and have a celebratory drink on your behalf! (Seeing as how you ought not to now I think someone needs to )

great news, Angel!

Still no period here, despite lots of signs two days ago. Oh well.

OMG - congrats Angel, and hello as well! Look what happens when you resist MN for a couple of days to get on with work...

Nought to report here. Just temping and CM checking with some very inconsistent results, and awaiting rubella blood test results.

hugs all [squeeze]

I have to keep looking at the test to make sure the line hasn't dissappered!!! Still can't believe it!!

congrats angel. i am sure you will be our good luck cgarm!!

WOW!!!!!

Angel that is fantstic news - I'm sooooooo pleased for you, you really really deserve this. Massive congratulatory hugs to you Sending sticky-bean vibes to you!!

LonelySock yeah, my mum comments without fail every month between 10-14 days after AF that I smell different, I was like at first and I was quite offended but she said it isn't a bad nasty smell, just different - I can't think of anything else it could be as I always use the same perfume. SHe is the only person that notices tho - I asked DH casually one day and he laughed at me! Afterwards tho he said I smelled the same to him - maybe its a mum thing?

medee pickles about the period - hope it's not too bad for you

Love, bubbles and hugs to all.
Conratulations again to you Angel
xxxxxxxx

Hi all,
Thank you so much for all your hugs it's such a lovely thread.
I did a fr test today and can't belive it came back a BFP i'm still in shock, can't believe it, just as i start this lovely thread - lets hope it makes it a lucky thread for all of you. Although i am scared now of mc'ing again so hope all goes well.

kaylo Your mum can smell you ovulating??!?Fantastic! I never realised that smell might factor into this fertility lark, although I'm not sure how DH will take it if I start asking him to point out if I smell wierd.

Love to all, hoping that work and achy periods aren't bringing you down.

(Specially large zen hug to Angel --;-{@ )

hi Angel, sorry to hear about your troubles.

I've got all the signs of an impending period, with pains in my lower abdomen and back, but no sign of it yet. It would be bang on schedule if it came in the next couple of days, my cycle always used to be in the low 30s.

Hi everyone - hope everyone is ok?
Welcome Angel I'm sorry you're so low - I really hope AF stays away and you get your reward for the nastiness mothernature has put you through.

The light really can be difficult to see so I know what you mean however can't imagine what you're going through - big smiles coming your way

I think I'm just gonna muddle through with the opk tests - I still don't know if theres a certain time of day to do it but never mind. It's not gonna make any difference to when I start TTC so will just see how it goes.

Cyber hugs to all x

I knw what you mean Angelfifi I've come off the pill in preparation to TTC in December, came off early as I thought it's take ages for my periods to come back. Came off in June and had a period 30/31 days after the pill induced period, we'll see what next month brings as I daren't say I've gone back to normal just yet!

Thanks hobnob76 never rains but poors - hopefully it will all be worth it, but sometimes you just can't see that light at the end of the tunnel.
Are you ttc now, and come off the pill? or are you waiting until later in the year?
Will catch up with some posts on here.

Hi and welcome Angelfifi, so sorry to hear about your CP and MC you've been dealt a rather crap card haven't you. I can't even begin to think what you are going through. Hope AF stays away and takes a nine month hol for you

Hi all,
can i join here to? I am soooo broody you wouldn't believe. I have had a cp last sept, managed to concieve again in dec but had a mc at 12 weeks (march). A friend that i was pg with has just gone into have her babes and i'm feeling gutted as i was meant to have mine after.
Have been ttc since but with no luck. Was due af last mon but had a really bad sickky bug when it was my 'fertile' time so don't think it's happened this time round either.
Am feeling so low at the mo and just want to be pg again - it's taken us a year and it's been so up and down, and i'm getting frustrated with it now which doesn't help!!
I haven't really got any signs that i'm pg this time round so just waiting for af to arrive. xx

Thanks Kaylo, sorry I've also no experience of OPK's etc, having only just come off the pill myself. It could be the sticks they do sound very cheap, maybe try a different brand ? I knew I'd ov'd last month (or guessing that I did) because I had pains etc. Hope you get an answer.

kaylo- no experience of this i am afraid, its all baffling to me. i am not looking forward to not knowing my cycle etc, esp as been on pill for 14years. very very good luck to you though !

Hi hobnob hope you're feeling better!

Bit of help needed please if possible - I'm gonna post it as a separate thread as well but thought I'd ask you ladies as well.

I've been trying to work out my cycle for the last few months and have figured out that it runs 28 days one month then 29 days month after, then 28, then 29 etc. My problem is I'm also trying to test to see when I ovulate but I just keeping getting negative tests? I usually do the Ov Test between 10am-2pm depending on when breaks etc are at work and if I get a minute at home from a week after AF to a week before next AF. Admittedly some days I've missed but surely in 4 months I should have had a positive OPK by now?

I know I definitely ovulate - possible TMI but my mum always picks up that I smell different at around ov time every month (not bad btw, just different) Still negative tests tho?
Could be dodgy tests I guess as they're eBay bulk cheapy specials - think I got 20 for £2!

Any help/advice muchly appreciated girls xxx

Hi Kaylo I've been at work too (I work in a school, am off for the summer hols, and I've started work at a playscheme). Like you say its all money towards babies . I feel like rubbish tonight, have a hell of a headache, early to bed me thinks!

Welcome tobago How are you?

Had my first day back at work y'day after 6 weeks off and it was actually ok - would def have preferred not being there but still, it's money towards my maternity leave I guess. That thought is keeping me going with it.

How is everyone? I think I'll be on here a lot less now I'm back at work but I'll still try and catch up as often as I can.

Hope you're all well xxx

Thanks hobnob,the last test i did was yesterday so you'd think it would show up by now,but then again,i just got out my test from dd2,it was one where you take a sample to the pharmacy,it says i was 10 days late and i also remember doing a test the day before at home and it was really really faint
Just been to the loo though and there was a tiny tiny little bit of blood,to be honest by now i don't care either way aslong as something happens soon!!

Hi tobago04 I think when it comes to to periods after the pill, everyone's different. It'd be great if we knew what our bodies were going to do wouldn't it ? I suppose I was one of the lucky ones, where I had a period after 30 days. Have you tested ? I'd have thought if you were on CD 37 you'd get a result either way. Good luck!

Hi everyone,hope you don't mind me joining,was just reading through your thread and and realised a few off you had come off the pill and had to wait a while for periods to resume,i'm on cd 37 and still no sign,is this normal? i'm ttc no3 and on cycle one,did'nt have this problem last two times

Ok I meant "where my body's at", I do not have two bodies (or more for that matter)
x

welcome pigley and mrsD and thanks kaylo and Hob for the nice wishes.

Period from hell was indeed short and is over woo hoooo! No additional drugs taken, but then I'm pretty dozed up anyway. Found out last week I can take my regular ibuprofen right up to TTC so no need to be in pain until then, and I'm not feeling any worse yet from having come off the other arthritis drugs. I'm afraid I cannot join some of the others in the medication-free club, although I have lavender heat bags that do provide welcome additional relief.

Had bloods done today to check where my bodies at with it all, plus to check my rubella status. All the little steps that make me feel I'm at least doing something towards the TTC effort.

happy Monday all - back to work now...

xxx

It means Big Fat Positive pregnancy test rimmer

You're welcome! MrsD

*thanks all* for the warm welcome.

quick q - what does BFP mean?

Welcome MrsD I agree its nice to have a little secret. Hope its not long til you get your BFP!

Kaylo I know what you mean about the medication thing, I hate taking tablets at the best of times, have probs swallowing them, so if I can avoid taking them I do. The wheat bag has been an absolute god send! I love it! A little boy in my class bought me it as a thank you present at the end of term, thank god he did!

Curly Hope your periods manage to sort themselves for you, there's nothing worse, I feel so miserable when they're painful.

Welcome to pigleychez too! Aren't they gorgeous at this age though, my friend has one at this age, she's just lovely and so interesting to be with too!

MrsD Fingers crossed we'll all be on that bus before long

Hi pigley nothing like a baby growing up to make you broody! Thats what happened with me - my kids are 3(ds) and 4(dd). I've been broody for ages but have only recently bribed forced convinced dh that sometime soon would be a good time.
So September it is for us

Hi medee, Hi rimmer
Hows you guys?

Wheres everyone else I wonder...

ooh its like a club!! i love this.

Can I Join you ladies...

DH and I have agreed that we will start TTC number 2 in a few months.
We have just moved house and need to get a few things fixed/sorted before we think about anything else.

We have a DD who is 1 on Friday!! So mega broody. My little baby is growing up To make things worse she learnt to walk last week and now toddles around the house making her look even more grown up!

welcome MrsD!

Thanks Kaylo! im good, feel relived that we have finally decided: why not have #3 as we /mainly me, were back and forth with the idea over the past year. SIL is pg with her 1st(14 weeks) , so i hope i can join her on the pg bus soon!!!

I totally made that sound wrong in my last post re medication.

I'm not totally opposed to it - I just don't like using tablets to ease an achy foot, mild headache, splinter etc. My brother does - he can go through a box in 2-3 days (another story - he has a thing for tablets and it's not good! He's an idiot! and a waste of space at times!!!)

Anyway.

Whats everyone up to? I'm trying to enjoy my time at home today as I'm back at work tomorrow so will be back to working 12-9 every day

Wish I could be a stay at home mum. DH won't let me. Don't suppose anyone knows of work from home jobs that aren't scams??

xx

HI everyone Welcome MrsD How are you?
Very exciting stuff happening for you and I agree - a bfp would be a fantastic celebration gift for you!

Hobnob - those wheat bags are worth a million!! All our family has one each because we're almost all opposed to medication (I refer only to optional medication here such as paracetamol etc).

Even in labour I had only gas and air, didn't even use that until I was 8cms!!

Curly Hopefully your cycles will settle into a nice normal cycle soon for you. I know exactly what you mean about the whole new month thing - it really makes it sound another lifetime away!!

xxx

*new to*

Hi all need to mumsnet... DH and I have decided to have DC#3, but as yet have to wait to TTC , so i can come off pill, get up to date smear and stop anxiety tabs too, so at this stage it could be 3 or 4 months before we actually get down to to actually TTC-ING!! but its is exciting anyways to have a little secret!
We got married 8 months ago and have a DS(3 yrs old) and ive a DS(12 yrs old). And we celebrate 10 years together early 2010 so a new baby will be a great present for us both!

Yup - swine flu will not stop me (I hope). I was immuno-suppressed, but that was because of the meds I have stopped taking in order to TTC, so at least I should be able to fight it better if it happens.

Hobnob Mine were horrendous before the pill (heavy, painful and full 7 days) and still not pleasant on it ( a little lighter and only about 5 days). This one has been weird by contrast. Excrutiating/heavy-ish for 2 days, now faded to no pain and v little flow. Bizarre! Shame there's no way of telling if there was actually an egg in there...

If my next couple of cycles are as long as the last. I'm now looking at TTC in early October, cause won't have had three months off meds in the early sept window. It's only a few days later than expected, but moving my TTC date into a whole new month makes it seem so much further off

x

rimmer My periods were actually quite heavy and painful whilst on the pill anyway, they've got worse with age! I was in alot of pain last night, 2 lots of paracetamol throughout the day didn't help one bit. I put a warm microwavable wheat bag on my tummy last night and that had an instant effect, felt so much better after that. I have to say I only seem to have light flow atm, whereas usually on the pill it'd be so much heavier for the few day or two.

Swine flu isn't going to stop me TTC when the time comes either, like others have said we don't know how long it will take to actually get pg, I'm not going to waste time worrying about it!

Hi

It's not going to put me off TTC - I hope that doesn't sound irresponsible but I agree that a lot of the info floating around is there to scare us - the fact that there is a treatment in place for pg women definitely settles me a little. And like rimmer said - who knows how long it's going to take to catch on anyway.

Hope you're all well xx

me too hobnob (love the name btw) if i get it i get it, the media does scremonger. the only reason i worry is because i work in a school. i didnt have the winter flu jab, didnt think it was worth it as have only had flu once, generally people thinkthey have flu when all they have is a cold. also hobnob, i hope i am as lucky about my periods too but from what i remember used to get horrendous period pains and heavy flow (TMI?)

good news, Hobnob, re your period, less so about the flu-infected husband!

My personal views are that I am generally quite healthy, had the winter flu jab last year (though I know it is different strains), it's not hit too hard where I am yet, and who knows how long it will take to get pregnant anyway. I think there is an element of scaremongering, and this vague "underlying health conditions" statement is less than satisfactory.

I personally think the media has been massively scaremongering with this swine flu story tbh. Having said that my DH is currently on the sofa fast asleep, having been this morning diagnosed with suspected swime flu! He's had aches and pains, a bad sore throat, headache and sore chest. His symptoms matched a few on the NHS website, so when we rang the out of hours doc they've prescribed a 5 day course of Tamiflu. If you're pregnant as you say *rimmer088, there is an inhaler called Relenza to take. DH works for the NHS as has been told to stay off work for a week as a precaution, they're not testing anymore round here, just go by the symptoms. He doesn't seem massively ill with it (but being a man, he is of course dying!).

I have asthma too, but I'm of the opinion that if I get it, I get it tbh. I'll have the flu jab that I normally get offered in winter too.

Well my news, after a 30/31 day cycle, first off the pill my period has arrived! I'm quite pleased really as I thought I'd be one of the unlucky few who's periods take ages to return after being on the pill!

i just looked it up on nhs direct and it says that there is an inhalant med that preg women can take. however, it says that it is bnot recommended for people who have breathing problems. this prsents 2 difficulties.
1. what if u have athsma?
2. heavily preg women can experience shortness of breath.

interesting- what do others think?

about swine flu, what u said medee has made me think- especially as i am a teacher. i dont know if u have seen the news today but they are warning that the pandemic may peak in aug/sept when students go back so the gov are putting out a warning that hols may be extended by a MONTH if it gets worse. i personally think this is scare mongering but when u consider that in the space of a week two sixth formers i work with have been v ill with it is makes u think. i dont think it will put me off but i will see what happens re, new development as workng in a school does make u vylnerable to catching all sorts. dont even know if u can take the swine flu meds if u are pregnant - does anybody else know this?

Well nothing exciting here.
AF has just about finished, so short and light.
DH was sent home ill on Wednesday and has been shut in the spare room or the loo ever since. Actually had doc out to him yesterday but seems a bit better today

Glad you enjoyed the HP film, would love to think we could get out in an evening to see it. DH is trying to convince me that DS is old enough to go to see Ice Age3 with us!

kaylo- yes it is an option so i think i might wait till end of pill packet, use other protection and wait for thing to settle.

really stupid question, but is anyone considering delaying TTC due to the extra risk to pregnant women from swine flu?

Hi Hobnob damn was hoping for some gossipy story ah well. Hope AF arrives soon chick, shouldn't be too long hopefully

Kayzr Forgot to say I was looking though the pics on your profile and I discovered that we had the same wedding dress! Mine had a burgandy trim and train though. Lovely pics of your kids btw too.

Kaylo nope nothing to report here, I'm still waiting for my period to arrive! First month off pill so not sure what to expect. I tried using the conception tool on here and if I was to have a 28 day cycle then my period should have arrived yesterday, but nothing!

Curly Deary me - just read my last post...well done for deciphering it all pmsl. Sooo many sp mistakes I'm terrible at typing!!
You've got me wondering now about the bit that should have been in last book!! It's been a while since I read them and all the story has kind of blended into one now so I can't distinguish between the books anymore (apart from the obvious bits) I agree tho that thay could have explained the title a bit more since theres a story behind that as well.

How old did Maggie Smith look???

Am kind of glad you got AF but I'm sorry you're in so much pain - anadin works a treat for me, maybe it will work for you too? I'm on CD3 and AF left yesterday so I feel quite lucky - my cycle is only 28/29 days long and AF only stays 2-3days

ONLY ONE MORE CYCLE TO GO
YIPEEEEEEE

Where is everyone???

Rimmer I agree with Curly about perhaps considering others contraceptive methods to give you a chance to work out your cycle pattern again - is this an option for you?

I hope the lack of peeps on here is cos you all have exciting stories to come back and tell us Have fun everyone, hope you're all well - xxxxx

kaylo I loved the film. However it did lack the whole explanation of the half-blood prince, which is pretty poor considering the title. and they made mission at the end a bit short and there's something else that I'm sure didn't happen till the final book, but i'd have to check. But otherwise loads of laughs and a few tears! I just love the whole thing

I'm excited for your for August! About to try and work my cycle out. Finally got AF after CD 33. And now wish I hadn't wanted it so much - in agony!

rimmer if you are worried about getting back to normal, you could stop pill at end of current packet and use other protection. That way you'll know your natural body better when trying. In a way my three month wait for other reasons had been good, cos I've got time to get to know my cycle. (and God knows I need it! x

Hey everyone - all ok?

Hi queenrollo welcome to the WTC thread.

Curly How did you find Hsrry Potter - I went to see it last night in Wakefield and Chanelle Hayes was there from BigBrother. She's soooo small!!

Thought the film was god but cos I'm a book freak I thought it could have been better. Thats just me tho - I was the same with Twilight

Sounds like quite a few people are close to getting started with this TTC business - I'm hoping to start around 20th(ish) August so only about 4 weeks to go Am sooooo excited. Hoping to catch on first month so can go to Barcelona for anniversary with a big huge secret

Catch u all later xxxx Hope everyone is well

thanks all two and a half packets to go!!

I know 3 people who got pg first month off the pill! but drs and mws like you to give the chemicals time to get out of your system, and when you've got a regular pattern they have a better chance of working your dates out!

hi all

i'd been on the pill for 12 years when i came off to TTC my ds. I stopped taking it in the March, no period until the June and i was panicking that my body was broken! My periods never settled into a regular cycle but i got pregnant that December. It was the uncertainty about what my body was doing that led me to mumsnet.

I'm back on the pill now, with a different DP and DS is nearly 4. We're hoping to TTC at some point in the near future but not sure quite when yet, maybe spring next year. I am very broody as is DP (he has no children yet but adores my son) but we're waiting for life to settle down a bit first. I'll probably lurk around here in the meantime.

rimmer been wondering all this myself, but from what I've read so far it seems like a very individual thing. Some girls not ovulating for a while after stopping pill, some OV but with irregular cycles so stuffed when it comes to pin-pointing fertile days, and some who seem to get a BFP before even really thinking about it. Well, I suppose some people get PG while on the pill...

Looks like the key message is to just keep doing it no matter what!

BTW, when I mentioned to my mum that I'd been on the pill for 13 years, there was silence on the phone and I could hear her mentally counting back...

CD33 and still waiting... but at least I'm seeing Harry Potter tonight!

thanks for the feedback!! also wondering on average how long does it take peole to get pregnant when they have been on the pill for that long and also do you have to have a period first and get your cycle sorted out? sorry about all the q's but am new to this!!

rimmer08 I was on the pill for over 14 yrs and wondered too as I was only 18 when I went on the pill, I can't remember what periods were like before I went on it!

Medee Glad I'm not the only one recording every ache etc Hubs thinks I'm mad! I think its very sensible, so we can work out what's normal for us. I think my period should be due any day now as had OV pains about 2 weeks ago.

it was 10 years for me - still waiting to see what my cycle is. Every little squeak and creak is being recorded.

rimmer I've got that feeling too, after 13 years. CD 32 and I'm still waiting for a period to arrive. god knows what will be going on.

saw GP today. all sorted with coming off the meds, having my rubella etc checked and was told to use condoms during the wait till meds out of system. at least two out of three were useful

Don't worry rimmer, I had the implant in and hadn't had a period for about 5yrs! How much did I want to get pregnant, they never bothered me before but then I realised how much I enjoyed not having them!

i have just realised thati have been on the pill for 14 years and have NO idea what it is like to have a normal period!! how will i know??

only child myself, but i am sure i will get the 'it'll be lonely ' speach from mil!

me too!

medee- think just the one!!

Just realised how patronising that last post sounded, I'm sorry Imogen. You do say your periods are irregular which makes it much harder to work out when is the 'right' time which can get really frustrating. There are lots of threads on here about temperature charting and watching cervical mcus so you can tune into your bodies natural clues of when is a good time
HTH

Hi Imogen, I really don't think you're pregnant given the dates you've said. The 1st day of your cycle is when your period starts (CD1) and the average woman ovulates 14 days after that, give or take. This is your most fertile time. So unless you are very unlucky and, like my friend did, have an ectopic pg which she didn't discover until after her period which had come, so she thought, as normal. But if you have already done a test which is negative, thats very unlikely. I found I had loads of symptoms about the middle of the month, but when I was actually pg I would never had noticed if I hadn't been watching for my period to start - not a symptoms to be seen! Good luck and keep chatting!

Curly we enjoyed it until the red arrows came in low and loud from behind DS and scared him! DD slept through them!

imogen, Unless you ovulate very early, i would say you haven't ovulated yet so can not be pregnant. i wouldn't be testing until 1st Aug.

Hi Imogen! Fingers crossed it is the good news you are hoping for. This is the waiting room here on this thread, none of us is actually at the same stage as you yet. But some of our residents are on #2 or #3, so might be able to help. Also, if you explore the rest of "Conception" folder, you'll find other people more knowledgeable with the symptoms of being pregnant.

hi guys,

help, please! i've never been on this site before.

my partner and i have been trying for several months now, and i'm addicted to these kind of sites, reading other peoples symptoms etc. this is the first time i've posted on one tho.

every month i talk myself into "symptoms" and every month i am dissapointed.

this time though, it does feel different. i'm having the most vivid and random dreams, about people and places i havn't seen for years. i'm out of my mind horny, and for the last few days, had a strange ache in my tummy, like a tugging feeling, that today has spread right across my back, and sides. i have a kind of wave of nausea every half hour or so, though only mildly, and i havn't been sick. my last period began friday 3rd, and ended thursday 9th, so i have quite a while until my next period is due, and i have irregular periods anyway, so i wouldn't neccesarily know i'm late. have had neg test yesterday, and again this morning. does anybody have any advice for me? when should i be testing?

EBitS How rude of me. I forgot to say hello! so hi, and welcome (pretty new on here myself, but chatting plenty to make up for it!)

Yorky pretty good idea where you are now. Did you catch the air show last month? we're Telford way too.

we'll just have to see with the number of kids thing. Sure it will change my priorities, but with my health I suspect less will be more x

Hi hobnob, we're off to my nephew's 1st birthday this weekend coming!

We're between Telford and wolves curly, have been since Dec last year. And starting at 30 isn't a reason to limit your numbers, I was 31 last week an have plenty of time to increase the family!

DH away for a fortnight now and today is CD1 - could be an interesting reunion!

Wow, you lot have been chatty! I go away for a weekend and there's pages to read when I get back!

I've spent the weekend with our 1yr old nephew to celebrate his birthday. Now DH and I are more broody than ever! How on earth are we going to wait til Dec to TTC ?

Welcome to Yorky and EyeballsintheSky!

Morning

So at those of you who didn't have MS - I was green in the face for very different reasons through mine. Never mind tho.

Found another box of baby clothes last night in the bathroom - it had DD's coming home outfit in there - that was it then, tears rolling down.

Yorky I also haven't made 40 completeted weeks yet although ds was close at 39+6. DD was 35+4.

Curly My ds is 3 and dd is and I can't wait to have another! Seriously having babies done funny things to you. It makes you want more... For me now its seeing the independence shown by both of them and yet seeing how loving they are to eachother. I've told them there might be another baby soon and they're very excited.

Hey Yorky - forgot to say welcome to you! I'm in Shropshire too - have been for about five years.

I'll count my blessings then re not having a toddler. Think SIL is planning another and I seriously wouldn't fancy that while my dear nephew (think three-year-old whirlwind) is under her feet!

Thanks kaylo, kazyr and Yorky for filling me in re following your mums' PGs.

Medee I have no idea! Think two would be plenty, seeing as I am only just starting at 30. Depends how PG goes really... will stop at one if it means we're all happy and healthy.

for those of us TTC the first, how many do you think you'll have? (assuming the choice is yours and not mother nature's.)

Thanks all for the welcomes

Kaylo - baby clothes are great. I had a lovely time going through DSs and remembering Oh he wore that to..... and so and so gave us that....
Mum and Dad are in Leeds, but we're now in Shropshire

Kayzr, no MS and I've got one of each! How to confuse an old wives tale! Did lose interest in food early on with DD though, and went off meat slightly

Don't know how mum did with pregnancy, but she seemed pretty good at giving birth and so far I've done OK. Hoping that I can follow birth weight patterns too, her 3rd as lightest and after 9lb9.5oz DD I don't want them much bigger! Think all of hers were late though and I've not quite made it to 40wks yet

Caspar, I'm jealous of you doing it all for the 1st time, no toddler to run after, and sleep when it suits you, not when it suits a small person!

Reading further back on the thread v of Ladybee's NZ wedding. We went there for 1st anniversary as my Godmothers eldest son was getting married a year and a day after us! It was great

OhMyGod..I almost forgot to tell you.

Yesterday whilst trying to get my bathroom after a year long improvement (still not finished and fed of looking at boxes...) I started to unpack some of the boxes so I could have my towel rack back and my loo roll holder (windowsill not cutting it anymore!) and I found loads of dd's baby clothes.

There were vests and sleepsuits, dresses and pretty pink things, socks and bootees... I was almost crying, felt very exciting - almost like a sign that it's coming soon (I hope). I didn't even know they were in there - I thought they were in the loft - or at the charity shop!

Had to tell someone! xxx

Hi everyone - Kayzr - I've only just noticed that I spelled your name wrong both times on my last post am really sorry! Maybe I had lazy typing syndrome this morning.

rimmer HOW EXCITING!!!!!!!!

yorky Hi middle-name twin Weren't you scared driving home from appnt? If you're not in N.Yorks anymore - are u still round and about? I live in W.Yorks - only reason I'm asking.

Curly We don't really know what to expect as literally each pg is different and just as exciting/daunting - I know that sounds cheesy! But it's true. I had M/S with both my kids but was definitely worse with my DS, little bugger gave me horrid heartburn as well (but so did dd - just not so bad)
Also - the baby smell really is something to breathe in deeply when you have it - it smells of innocence and trust - to me anyway

I haven't a clue if I followed mum - I think I kinda did as she had an early baby, her first son was born 6weeks early but died after 3 hours. My dd was born 5 weeks early but thankfully just needed an incubator for a few hours and was jaundiced - otherwise ok.
I think she was induced with either my brother or sister and I was 2 weeks early. Weights I can only guess - apart from mums first - he was 3lbs?oz, my brother was over 8lbs and my sister was just over 6lbs.
My babies were heavier than that DD was 7lb3oz and ds was 8lb6oz.

Is everyone having a nice Sunday?

x xx x

I followed my mum. I was 7lb 2oz and so was DS1. My brother was 9lb 2oz but DS2 was 10lb 5oz!!!! So I followed her by having a bigger 2nd baby.

Happy Sunday all,

A bit jealous of those of you who know what to expect. But then again, first time is exciting!

Just had to look up SPD - ouch! Sounds a bit like my arthritis pain, which I'm hoping to say goodbye to during pregnancy.

Told mum that we're planning TTC this afternoon. She sounded happy, but not carried away which is good. Told me her pregnancies were pretty much a breeze and she conceived almost right away when trying for both of us. And we were both small babies born happy and healthy 3 weeks early. I so hope I take after her (I do with everything else womanly - the good and the bad)

Has anyone on here had similar PGs to their mums? [hopeful face]

Rimmer muchos respect. I could not handle teenagers!

kaylo on the baby smell info. Sounds like something to really cherish.

Right, ironing calls...

My name is Kayleigh so that is where Kaylo comes from.

Yorky, another one that hasn't had morning sickness! Most people say to me that I must be the only person that has never had it. Though I have 2 boys and a lot of people tell me that if I have a girl I will have ms.

Wow, Kaylo, middle name twins!
Afraid I'm not in NYorks any more (must update profile) we've moved twice since then!

The point of the driving story was that I had to drive home from the appt! kind of forgot to finish the tale

I had heartburn with DD but not too bad, definitely worse than with DS, but am as yet a stranger to morning sickness, fingers crossed

just calculated when my ppill pack will end- middle of sept so thats ttc time excited, nervous, feel clueless- bu nevermind!!

Morning Kazr

My dad used to call me Kaylo too as my middle name is Lorraine (first name Kaye)

Ugh! Heartburn - has to be the most repulsive pg symptom there is!!! I'm like Kazr, I had it all the way through both my pg's. Am also expecting to get SPD with DC3 as had it quite bad with ds (although not so bad with dd?)

Hope everyone is well
xx

Oooh Yorky I'm in N.yorks too!!

Morning,

Hello Yorky Welcome!

Kaylo Your name always makes me smile. My aunt has called me Kaylo since I was a baby!

I got quite mild SPD with DS2 so I am expecting it with number 3. Never had morning sickness(touch wood) so not sure if I should expect it next time.
The worst thing about pregnancy for me is heartburn. I got it form 20 weeks with DS1 and had it all day everyday until he was born. With DS2 I had it from 10 weeks and again all day everyday until he was born. But not everyone gets it.

Hi Yorky [welcome wave emoticon]

Sounds like you're as 'forgetful' as I was after my first baby. Low and behold DS was conceived (although in the end we did decide to scrap any ideas of contraception anyway] am now hoping to start TTC in 4-5 weeks (mid-end August) was gonna be September but due to ovulation dates it's gonna be last half of August!!

I see what you mean about driving while pg, I had SPD with ds and could barely fit in passenger side let alone drivers side - I was huuuuuge and very very painful getting in and out of car.

xx

Hello everyone, can I gatecrash?

I'm not sure I'm TTC yet, DD isn't quite 8months atm but I keep 'forgetting' to ring the med centre to make an appt about contraception
Also have DS 2.5yrs

I know what you mean about all baby food being orange - although DD had homemade leftover chilli tonight, not orange but looks the same at both ends [green but not envious emoticon!]

As for driving when heavily pg I went to my last AN appt and asked for a sweep, only to be told I was already 5cms! so I don't see pg as a problem when driving - on the other hands I have friends who have been virtually housebound with spd so its luck of the draw I suppose

curly and medee Kayzr is right - it does all seem to be orange tho...apart from boxed up powdered weaning food (baby rice/banana surprise/porridge...etc) Andit reallt is great fun but wear an apron - and cover the walls and carpet in a wipe-clean fabric as well

babies have a wonderful smell especially after bathtime and you've massaged them down in talc and lavender lotion - you just can't beat it. My 2 kids are 3 and 4 and they just can't smell like that anymore.

xxx

la la la la la la la laaaa [puts fingers in ears and repeats loudly] no such thing as puke and orange gunk. All babies are little well behaved darlings with no icky bodily functions and they smell of roses. That's why I want one x

Weaning is great fun. But all baby food seems to be orange!! I'm sure even if you made cauliflower puree it would somehow end up orange!!

morning all! You have been chatty yesterday. The orange gunk might put me off ttc!

Ugh! Orange Gunk...I remember weaning I agree it's no fun not being able to drive - I was the same as you - 2 children, 2 mat leaves, dozens of buses/taxi's/trains...etc with a double buggy I hate public transport with any kind of pushchair (and if you're pg cos no-one cares anymore - the just stare at your bump!!) Hope the weaning going well otherwise Kazr

Rimmer you're welcome Wow 14-18 - brave I definitely couldn't do that - I'd say you've definitely earned your 7weeks off!!!! Hope they're peaceful and relaxin for you.

Hope everyone else is well - take care x xx x

mrs pigeon- thanks
kaylo- also thanks and i teach 14-18!i have just finished for 7 weeks holiday today!
i think i will enjoy coming on here to talk as cannot really talk to others!! happy times for all i hope

Actually not sure if I want dc3. Now weaning ds2 and he threw the spoon at me and I now have orange gunk in my hair!!

We are going to see how my driving is going when we get to November. I'm not spending another 9 months mat leave not being able to drive.

Ok sorry - just wanted to mention it to you.

We're still not 100% about ttc this year yet so we're just looking at our options. Didn't know about emergancy stop. I know loads of people that had lessons while being pg.

Kayz sorry to be a cyber stalker but was reading your other threads and noticed the driving/passing test one?

I was just wondering how being pregnant would affect that? I know I sound like a nosy bugger and I'm really sorry I just remember you saying you were going to start trying in Nov and if you caught on practically straight away or in the month after then you would be due very close to next July - will you still be able to drive whilst that pregnant.

Also fingers crossed you pass before you get to big in pg but I've also heard the emergency stop can be dangerous to perform whilst pregnant.

I'm sorry if you think I'm being a cyber-stalker but I just thought I'd mention it thats all

Think we're body-twins Kaylo Pg last time was ok but they were testing for GD right at the last minute and it made a difference to their treatment of dd when she was born so any tiny thing I can do to lessen the chance of that again would be good.

And you can call me whatever you like

Sorry

I forgot to ask how you are Kayzr

I didn't mean to forget you - honest!!
Hope you're well hun xxx

Hi Ho Everyone - Welcome Eyeballs Love the name - very unique!! (can we call you EbitS for short?

I totally agree with you on the removal of limbs re weightloss - I mega need to do something as am a size 22 bottom and due to start TTC in Septemeber - maybe we could do it together, kinda?
I weigh about 18 stone, maybe a little more or less but roundabout that. I think I'm gonna start Slimming World as thats the easiest way for me to lose weight I think. (DH suggested me having gastric bypass )

Curly love what your Nurse said - nothing like saying it how it is - no sugar coating in those words Also it's a very good idea to know about prev family pg's [they didn't ask me about pg'd but they did about diabetes]

MrsP Hope you have a fantastic fortnight camping!! Wishing you sunshine and gentle breezes . When I was pg by surprise first time around (I was a young a naive 19y/o) and was advised by my mum to see GP(?) - who gave me a blank unsmiling look and said - think you need ante-natal clinic couldn't get out of there quick enough - although he did give me a prescription for folic acid and told me not to get it until my exemption cert had come thru - bless him.

Medee Think I agree about seeing nurse re being healthy enough to conceive. Could be why I haven't been to see her - last time I went she told me I was depressed and overweight so I don't think she'd like to know my TTC plans

rimmer HAPPY HOLIDAYS!! Am a little lol, but I think you've earned it - what age do you teach?

LonelySock You're definitely not alone!!! at your baby monster and moses basket location. We have no room at all for a moses basket (downstairs) so baby will have to sleep in a bouncer while downstairs (or pushchair carrycot? Planning on getting M&P Pliko Pramette) There I go again....

Hobnob Very wise to wait for DH uni course to end but I sooo agree with on the Lifes Too Short front. You only live once so you have to make the most of it!!!

I hope everyone is well...sorry for being AWOL yesterday - hubby surprised me with a trip Alnwick Castle in Northumberland (2 and a half hour drive from where we live!) It was beautiful - and we saw where the Harry Potter flying lesson was filmed (sorry I'm a bit of a freak with HP - I love the movies and books)

Love and cyber hugs to everyone xx xx xx

Can I join too? Have one dd who is 18 months and going to start ttc in the Autumn. Want to lose a couple of stone before then. Was v overweight with dd, still am and I want to be a little bit less - only removal of limbs would make a big diference to my weight . Anyway we are looking at starting around Oct/Nov and I can't wait