TTC after MC#6 - the lucky one for all of us!

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Romeolovesjuliet Wed 13-May-15 15:22:06

New thread. Hoping for lots of lovely BFPs over the coming weeks smile

Nordicmom Wed 13-May-15 15:28:57

Marking my place

Mamama31 Wed 13-May-15 18:42:17

Thanks for the new thread romeo...hope it gets you upduffed! smile

Ladies thank you for all your words of wisdom, my d&c (erpc) was exactly 3 weeks ago so I'm not too concerned and the tests have got more faint. I've decided not to test again (see how long I can keep that up) and just to look out for ovulation signs. I always have a very obvious ovulation with cramps, no appetite and lots of cm about 4-5 days prior until ovulation is over. So hopefully I will know, but have ovulation tests here anyway if I do feel that I might be ovulating soon.

Kep of course you can hang out here, it's great to see how you are getting on.

CarrotPuff Wed 13-May-15 19:00:15

Thanks Romeo, marking my place.

daisyspice Wed 13-May-15 21:12:20

Hi guys mind if I join?

First pg ended in mc last month so back on the wagon officially smile

Mamama31 Wed 13-May-15 21:18:51

Welcome daisy, I am sorry for your loss I hope you find comfort here and get your sticky bfp very soon.

goneswimming Wed 13-May-15 21:36:01

Hi Daisy, sorry to see you here but there's a lot of support and comfort in hearing other people's stories and ways of dealing with it all.

MarysPrayer Wed 13-May-15 22:47:38

Hopping across from thread 5 smile

Welcome daisy.

Fizzie100 Thu 14-May-15 08:45:24

Just saying a little hello ladies and I am still very much reading everyone's posts here. I find it very comforting to be amongst lovely support as I am still very anxious. Hope everyone is doing ok x

driftingclouds Thu 14-May-15 08:45:59

Morning ladies, may I join in please?

currently ttc #3 following a miscarriage at 8 weeks in December. I have two DC aged 4 and 2 yrs.

Its been a rocky road since the miscarriage and only really just feeling like my body is getting back to normal. Although we continued trying straight away after the miscarriage. I've started temping this cycle which has helped as I did see a temperature shift (started to convince myself that I wasn't ovulating at all).

Currently CD22 but only 5DPO. Trying my hardest to put it all out of my mind until I can test end of next week (not very successfully!)

Romeolovesjuliet Thu 14-May-15 09:57:47

Welcom drifting, I'm also TTC#3 after a mmc in January (discovered at 12 week scan, baby measuring 8.5 weeks). I have 2 DC already aged 3 and 19 months. I am on CD21, 4/5 DPO so we are almost cycle buddies! I think there's a few of us around this point so hopefully we can keep each other sane over the next week or so...

DisneyMillie Thu 14-May-15 10:06:03

Hopping across from the old thread.

Welcome daisy and drifting - I'm sorry for your losses. flowers

How far gone are you now fizzie? I hope it's all going nice and smoothly xx

How old is everyone on here? I keep worrying at 35 I'm too old sad. I'm 1 DPO now (although it's the wtf cycle after mmc in April so I'm not holding too much hope).

Here's hoping for lots of BFPs by June xxx

driftingclouds Thu 14-May-15 10:54:59

Hi romeo sorry for your loss too - must have been a horrible thing to find out at the 12 week scan. I started spotting at 8 weeks - EPU scan first showed sac measuring 5.5 weeks but only a faint heartbeat. Later that night cramping got worse and I passed large clots. Repeat scan a few days later showed that mostly all had passed. The presence of a heartbeat and then not really distressed me for a long time (well it still does). I don't know, it feels like it should get easier as time passes but there are days when its just so painful still. I feel very conscious of my EDD approaching (would have been July).

But on a more positive note, I've not had a cycle buddy before! here's to lots of distraction and thinking of other things....

Disney I'm 34 - you are definitely not too old. When I had my first, plenty of my mummy friends were 35 and older. I'm sorry for your loss too - the first cycle is hard but keep the faith, you will get your bfp

Romeolovesjuliet Thu 14-May-15 11:09:13

Disney I'm 34. I do worry about age too and feel like time is running out but in reality it is far more the norm to have children in your 30s. I suggest steering well clear of any age related statistics though hmm

drifting it must have been so hard being given the hope of a heartbeat. I didn't have an early scan so didn't ever see anything but then finding out at 12 weeks was also truly awful so I think when (if) I get pg I will have an early scan - very difficult to know what to do for the best. My EDD was also July and I'm desperate to be pg again by then, it feels like the only thing that will ease the pain. I can't let myself think along those lines too much. Hopefully neither of us will have to wait too much longer flowers

kep1979 Thu 14-May-15 11:15:42

disney I am 36.... and took 29 cycles for first BFP, then first proper cycle after mc for this one. So I am old AND fertility-challenged grin - you are definitely not too old smile

Welcome drifting and daisy - sorry for your losses, but these ladies are such lovely support. flowers

ninjabeer Thu 14-May-15 11:33:19

Hi ladies. May I join you. I had a mc a couple of weeks ago and am just getting my head around trying again. The nurse at the epau said wait one cycle but the doctor said wait 3 months. Want to get going straight away to be honest. Any advice?

Wishing you all BFPs as soon as possible.

DisneyMillie Thu 14-May-15 12:04:11

Hi ninja sorry you find yourself on here. I got told that waiting for first AF was just for dating purposes by my EPU (they told me wait one but I asked why!). I also spoke to the miscarriage association and they said no increased risks of miscarriages from trying straight away. So we're trying this month but realising it might be a bit soon to get a result!

Do you know why the doctor said wait 3? Were there complications? If not I think that's old advice?

I know what you mean about seeing a heartbeat being distressing drifting - we also saw a heartbeat at a 8 week scan (although measuring smaller) and got told it all looked good so then when a follow up scan 2 weeks later after just a little brown discharge told me otherwise it really hit my partner and me. I think I had an inkling it wasn't right but he was so sure it would all be find after seeing the HB

Lilliana Thu 14-May-15 12:15:12

Thanks mega didn't seem right waving a Bfp around on the mc thread while other were losing theirs. Was a bit of a shock and not feeling anything atm so constant knicker checking and tests. Really hope you get yours soon.

Lilliana Thu 14-May-15 12:16:37

Ninja as you can see we didn't wait but as to whether it was a good move I can't say. Fx it was

Lilliana Thu 14-May-15 12:17:46

disney I'm 35 too. Def not too old!

driftingclouds Thu 14-May-15 14:31:54

Hi ninjabeer I'm sorry for your loss - its a horrible time. We started trying again straight way (although have now been trying since December). There is no medical reason just to wait - the doctors like you to have an AF so they can date a new pregnancy, but that can be done with scans. I understand the need to get going again - I felt the same. I would say that the first few AFs post miscarriage were really hard emotionally - almost felt like I was reliving it. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to conceive straight away, it can take time - good luck.

Disney I'm sorry you had a similar experience. I think it is really hard on our partners, maybe more than we realise. Its difficult for them as they are not the ones experiencing symptoms. I know my husband was reassured by our first scan (I was worried about the size) and was really shocked when I had to tell him I was pretty sure that I had lost the baby.

romeo I've already decided that if/when I get pregnant again I will pay for an early scan maybe around the 8-9 week mark, just after when it happened last time. I know there are no guarantees but I will be a wreck! Fingers crossed we both get our bfps before July

DisneyMillie Thu 14-May-15 15:47:57

I agree - although now I know it's not a guarantee I'll also try and get / pay for an early scan if I get pregnant again - prob around 8 weeks as I think if dates matched up it would stop some of the nerves.

Fizzie100 Thu 14-May-15 16:04:19

Disney I'm 9+1 now and clinging on! I had a tiny bit of spotting one day last week when I had carried a very heavy bag through Gatwick airport for half an hour but it stopped the next day and I have been feeling very sick since then so hopefully all is still well with little bean. I called the doctor who also said spotting v common at about 8ish weeks as it is when AF would normally be due. It is scary though reading that heartbeats seen at early scans can still mean bad news later on. We saw lovely strong 171 bpm heart beat at 7+6 and I read somewhere that the risk does drop dramatically after 8 weeks but I've heard loads of scary stories on here re the 12 week scan so me being me, I'm still anxious. Argh! I hope everyone else is doing ok. Lovely to see some more BFPs. I'm 31 and I waited for 1 AF after MC then conceived after that. I was told too though that there is no risk of Mc by starting straight away, I just wasn't quite ready myself. Love to all xx

Nousername2015 Thu 14-May-15 17:10:45

Afternoon ladies, just checking in. Hello to all the newbies, and sorry to see you here.

ninja when I was discharged from hospital I was told to wait 1 AF for dating reasons by the nurse who had looked after me, and then told to wait 2-3 AF by the doctor who discharged me. He said it was so I could get an idea of my cycle again. I'm glad I waited for 1 AF as mine was very heavy and painful but that doesn't happen for anyone and also doesn't pose any medical risk if you don't.

Hope everyone's had a good day.

megarobotdiscoparty Thu 14-May-15 17:20:20

Hi everyone... I'm the doofus who kept posting in the old thread after most of you had moved over!

I'm still on the WTF cycle after my MMC (discovered at 7 week scan, lost at 8 weeks). Was waiting for AF to start clomid again and got a miracle line on an OPK last night and went for it..now on 2ww. Trying to keep my expectations in check! This is only my 2nd natural ovulation (that I know of!) and last one ended in MC so nerves all round. I have 1 DS, 2 next week. I'm 34 too. Nice that there's lots of us around the same age!

Good to meet you all, Fx all round flowers

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