Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

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hopefulgum Tue 01-Jan-13 23:20:41

We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...smile

This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

Jbrd so sorry. Keep well and keep hoping.

If it is as you suspect, is this your first or second misscariage (or sadly more)?

The reason I ask is because there can be investigations after 2 or 3. Don't want to be morbid but if you wish to take a look at ...

community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a14766155/how_many_before_investigating...

Q "my hospital told me that they will only investigate why i miscarry after i have 3.. does anyone know if this means 3 in a row or 2 and then a healthy pregnancy and then a 3rd miscarraige?"

One answer

"I had my second recently and before my ERPC I asked if they could investigate to find out what had gone wrong. As I am 35 they agreed - although I had to tell theatre staff that the doctor I had spoken to had agreed to this just before they put me out as he had not informed them!"

Pixiedust1973 Thu 03-Jan-13 01:02:54

Thanks for the welcomes. smile Please add me to the ttc list hopefulgum smile Sorry to hear your news Jbrd sad

notsoold Thu 03-Jan-13 01:11:04

So sorry jbrd...sad
My heart goes to you...
Xxxxx

hopefulgum Thu 03-Jan-13 05:18:00

New List:

ttc
hopefulgum 46 years young ttc #6, 2mmc,1mc, ttc for 2.5 years DSborn@41
remnant 43 years, ttc #2 for 5 months (DS 1 born@40)
Isabeller ttc #2, IVF with DE, 1DD, ttc 5years
10000Fireflies
Morien 40, ttc #1, MC at 11 weeks
greenlizard 43, TTC #1, never coneived before, TTC 4 months.
Woolywomble 42 in Feb, DH 52, ttc #3, 1mmc at 11wks in Sep
Irishmammybread
Minneheehee
gothinrecovery
EchoAlone
runningtostandstill
isadorable
Geminita
Bronte41
bluebird68
mamaslatts a few months off 40 and starting to TTC dc3
notsoold 41 years young, ttc #3, 1mmc , ttc 9 months( including the mmc)
wylie05 44 years young DD8yr
DoctorWhoFan 45yrs young (ahem!) Ttc #1, currently in agonising 2ww
NewPatchesForOld 44 yrs and on cycle 3 of ttc baby #4
Soopermum1:40 next summer and am just finishing up cycle 4
Pixiedust1973:40 in February ttc #3

positive preg test:
lotsofcheese
Tina
somewherebecomingrain
knickyknocks
Calibee 42 years young,ttc 1st with DP,3 DC's,ttc 8 months
sparklysapphire 44.5, 1 DD 4, ttc #2 9 months
Jbrd

Babies Born
10000Fireflies
Deige
miasmummy
Jollster 44 years young
lolfactor 45 years young
Angelgeorgie

Not TTC right now:
Deige 42 years young ttc#6 last DS born at 41

No longer ttc:
Hippy

Adopting:
Italian

I think it is all up to date now

Diege Thu 03-Jan-13 08:46:25

I am so sorry for you jbrd. It is so cruel after getting your hopes raised. I too am surpised they didn't rescan; did they give a reason for that? Hope you are getting lots of rl support xxx
I am having to return to bed I'm afraid as on day 2 of a horrendous migraine. These have got more frequent in the last 3 mths, every 2 weeks minimum, so shall have to seek out some strong drugs I think from GP as my usual codeine stash isn't working.
Will be back when the letters aren't jumping about!
Love to all, and welcome to the newbies! xxx

littlepinkfizz Thu 03-Jan-13 08:52:23

ttc
hopefulgum 46 years young ttc #6, 2mmc,1mc, ttc for 2.5 years DSborn@41
remnant 43 years, ttc #2 for 5 months (DS 1 born@40)
Isabeller ttc #2, IVF with DE, 1DD, ttc 5years
10000Fireflies
Morien 40, ttc #1, MC at 11 weeks
greenlizard 43, TTC #1, never coneived before, TTC 4 months.
Woolywomble 42 in Feb, DH 52, ttc #3, 1mmc at 11wks in Sep
Irishmammybread
Littlepinkfizz 42 ttc #5 for 6 mths. Ds 22 mths . Mmc at 13.5 weeks
Minneheehee
gothinrecovery
EchoAlone
runningtostandstill
isadorable
Geminita
Bronte41
bluebird68
mamaslatts a few months off 40 and starting to TTC dc3
notsoold 41 years young, ttc #3, 1mmc , ttc 9 months( including the mmc)
wylie05 44 years young DD8yr

positive preg test:
lotsofcheese
Tina
somewherebecomingrain
knickyknocks
Calibee 42 years young,ttc 1st with DP,3 DC's,ttc 8 months
sparklysapphire 44.5, 1 DD 4, ttc #2 9 months
Jbrd

Babies Born
10000Fireflies
Deige
miasmummy
Jollster 44 years young
lolfactor 45 years young
Angelgeorgie

Not TTC right now:
Deige 42 years young ttc#6 last DS born at 41

No longer ttc:
Hippy

Adopting:
Italian

littlepinkfizz Thu 03-Jan-13 08:54:56

Sorry no time ti add anyone else as ds roaring !

jbrd so so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and know what a terrible time you are having. It's all confusion and so difficult to make sense of anything. Mother Nature canbe so cruel. X

TinaO99 Thu 03-Jan-13 09:15:04

Jbrd so very sorry to hear your news, sending you lots of hugs

sparkly hugs for you too, I'm glad my mil lives in France! I get on well with her but I must admit I wouldn't be too keen on her spending an extended period of time in the same house with me!

welcome to the newbies, great to have you on the thread, sooper there is also a big gap between my dd (aged 21) and my twins when they are born! Luckily she is now coming round to the idea and I think is getting excited to be a big sister!

I spent yesterday afternoon in the maternity assessment unit due to some spotting, they didn't do a scan but examined me and said it was probably old blood and could possibly have been from where the placenta attached to the wall of the womb, they told me not to worry unless it was fresh blood and/or I had pain. It was a ll a bit embarrassing as I was in a room with another couple so although there was a curtain inbetween I had to tell the Dr all the intimate details with them listening!

Pixiedust1973 Thu 03-Jan-13 14:08:44

That sounds feasible from what I remember Tina O99 so try not to stress about it. Same happened to me with my eldest. The entire pregnancy with her was a nightmare of tests etc but all was well & she is 13 now & a complete pain in the bum lol.
I have been looking into how likely it is for me & dp to conceive & im quite worried now that it wont happen. Dp is 15 stone overweight & has an under-active thyroid gland which is not yet stabilised with medication as he is still putting on weight. sad I read that both things cause low, even infertility in men. sad Has anyone else conceived with these issues? Tbh if we can't conceive I will get over it as I have my 2 already, but dp has no kids of his own & will be devastated. At my age we simply don't have time for other issues!

Morien Thu 03-Jan-13 15:12:12

Oh Jbrd, I'm sorry. After getting your hopes up again as well...

woollywomble Thu 03-Jan-13 15:20:34

Hi everyone and Happy New Year! Sorry to hear your news JBrd, when I miscarried at 11 weeks I didn't have any further scans either, just had to wait for a negative pg test. I was quite surprised to be honest as expected to be scanned again. Take it easy and hope to see you back when you're ready.

Thinking of you too CaliBee, hope you're Ok.

AF turned up for me today, so no new year BFP for me. Perhaps a good thing though as if I had, I would have been due the same week my eldest sits her 11+ exam in September and would have been really unfair on her. Have decided if it doesn't happen for me this year, then will accept that it's not meant to be. (Please remind me of this, this time next year). Must try even harder this month for an October baby!!

galwaygal Thu 03-Jan-13 18:31:55

ttc
hopefulgum 46 years young ttc #6, 2mmc,1mc, ttc for 2.5 years DSborn@41
remnant 43 years, ttc #2 for 5 months (DS 1 born@40)
Isabeller ttc #2, IVF with DE, 1DD, ttc 5years
10000Fireflies
Morien 40, ttc #1, MC at 11 weeks
greenlizard 43, TTC #1, never coneived before, TTC 4 months.
Woolywomble 42 in Feb, DH 52, ttc #3, 1mmc at 11wks in Sep
Irishmammybread
Littlepinkfizz 42 ttc #5 for 6 mths. Ds 22 mths . Mmc at 13.5 weeks
Minneheehee
gothinrecovery
EchoAlone
runningtostandstill
isadorable
Geminita
Bronte41
bluebird68
mamaslatts a few months off 40 and starting to TTC dc3
notsoold 41 years young, ttc #3, 1mmc , ttc 9 months( including the mmc)
wylie05 44 years young DD8yr

positive preg test:
lotsofcheese
Tina
somewherebecomingrain
knickyknocks
Calibee 42 years young,ttc 1st with DP,3 DC's,ttc 8 months
sparklysapphire 44.5, 1 DD 4, ttc #2 9 months
Jbrd

Babies Born
10000Fireflies
Deige
miasmummy
Jollster 44 years young
lolfactor 45 years young
Angelgeorgie

Not TTC right now:
Deige 42 years young ttc#6 last DS born at 41

No longer ttc:
Hippy
galwaygal

Adopting:
Italian

I couldn't leave Hippy feeling lonely on the list!!! smile grin

hippychick66 Thu 03-Jan-13 19:06:43

Ahh bless you Gallwaygirl - the original GG grin <Hippy snuggles up next to GG>

Irishmammybread Thu 03-Jan-13 20:38:13

ttc
hopefulgum 46 years young ttc #6, 2mmc,1mc, ttc for 2.5 years DSborn@41
remnant 43 years, ttc #2 for 5 months (DS 1 born@40)
Isabeller ttc #2, IVF with DE, 1DD, ttc 5years
10000Fireflies
Morien 40, ttc #1, MC at 11 weeks
greenlizard 43, TTC #1, never coneived before, TTC 4 months.
Woolywomble 42 in Feb, DH 52, ttc #3, 1mmc at 11wks in Sep
Irishmammybread 45 in Feb, ttc no. 4, 3 DC 19,13,9. 3 mc in 2012
Littlepinkfizz 42 ttc #5 for 6 mths. Ds 22 mths . Mmc at 13.5 weeks
Minneheehee
gothinrecovery
EchoAlone
runningtostandstill
isadorable
Geminita
Bronte41
bluebird68
mamaslatts a few months off 40 and starting to TTC dc3
notsoold 41 years young, ttc #3, 1mmc , ttc 9 months( including the mmc)
wylie05 44 years young DD8yr

positive preg test:
lotsofcheese
Tina
somewherebecomingrain
knickyknocks
Calibee 42 years young,ttc 1st with DP,3 DC's,ttc 8 months
sparklysapphire 44.5, 1 DD 4, ttc #2 9 months
Jbrd

Babies Born
10000Fireflies
Deige
miasmummy
Jollster 44 years young
lolfactor 45 years young
Angelgeorgie

Not TTC right now:
Deige 42 years young ttc#6 last DS born at 41

No longer ttc:
Hippy
galwaygal

Adopting:
Italian

Irishmammybread Thu 03-Jan-13 20:59:43

I managed to paste and copy, DD1 gave me a computer tutorial earlier!

Diege I get bad migraines too, I find Syndol is the only over the counter product that touches them when they're severe,I think it's got the highest dose of codeine you can get without prescription. I can only take them at night though or if I know I wont have to drive as even one tablet makes me feel woozy. If the pain is so bad you can't sleep they do seem to help though. Sometimes all you can do is lie completely still in a dark quiet room and wait for it to go, though with your 5 dc I'd imagine chance would be a fine thing!

Tina it certainly wasn't very considerate to have you in the same room as another couple while discussing your medical condition, must have felt a bit awkward, but at least it was reassuring to hear they don't think the bleeding is anything serious.

pixie I don't have any experience of hypothyroidism but you're right, you don't want any extra complications!

woolly sorry to hear AF arrived.

JBrd thinking of you, hope you're coping ok x

lotsofcheese Thu 03-Jan-13 22:05:23

Just a wee hello from me - I don't post often but do follow the thread & enjoy hearing your news.

I had my 20 week scan this week - all was well & I'm no longer obsessing about m/c. However, I'm now approaching PE territory again & it's a very real fear. I have a few weeks before the appointments & scans ramp up, so I'm just taking it a week at a time.

Sending positive BFP vibes to everyone!!! Xx

hopefulgum Thu 03-Jan-13 23:10:35

Lovely to hear from you lotsofcheese - 20 weeks already - amazing. Did you find out the sex of the baby?

Tina, glad to hear that everything is ok. Has your bump popped out yet?

Galwaygirl - hello! Nice to see you. How's things? Do you mind me asking how long you were ttc and how you managed to stop ttc? I'm struggling with that one.

Pixie, when I had my first miscarriage I went to see a naturopath who suggested my DH's borderline Hypo-thyroid may have helped cause the problem( however,he's only borderline,so hasn't had medication). However, since then I have had two bfp's (but sadly miscarried again). Hopefully your DH's thyroid will be sorted on the meds asap. Just keep trying - he'll still have some healthy swimmers in there. Have you considered having a sperm analysis done? It will tell you his counts, morphology and something else which I can't recall right now. It may help ease your mind,or at least give you an idea of where you are at. There are many vitamins and supplements that can help sperm counts, but I think your DH's condition needs to be sorted out too.

woolywomble - sorry about AF, but you have the right attitude. October will be just as nice for a new baby,and by then your daughter will have finished exams.

Calibee - I do hope you are alright. I'm worried about you as you haven't dropped in. I hope your little one is growing in there.

Deige - so sorry you are having migraines, I haven't had them myself but my DS has and I can see how debilitating they are. Do you know what the triggers could be? I hope it is sorted out soon.

As for me, this cycle is very odd. I have barely had a single symptom - which is so unlike me. Almost every month I have something going on.This time - zilch. If it hadn't been for the ovulation pain I felt and a raised temperature I would be sure I hadn't ovulated. I have barely any boob tenderness, which I seem to get every month after ovulation. So I don't feel too hopeful for a BFP. But I guess I just have to remain optimistic and see what happens this year.

It is nice to see so much action happening on the thread.

Pixiedust1973 Thu 03-Jan-13 23:38:22

Thanks Irishmammybread & hopefulgum. When we see the doctor for the next blood test results in a months time ill ask them if dp can have any tests, thats if he agrees to it I will. He might want to give it a month or 2 first to see how it goes. Could get lucky, I used to be highly fertile & conceived my first dd in 3 months & the next in the first month, although I was in my mid 20's then of course. smile

notsoold Fri 04-Jan-13 00:19:44

Hi pixie...you don't know me but if I may....
My brother has a under active thyroid that was not diagnosed for a long while. During that time he fathered 4 children. But the diagnosehelped a lot with his weight and with having more energy for his kids...i Just wanted to share with you...smile

Pixiedust1973 Fri 04-Jan-13 00:52:06

Thanks notsoold. That's just what I wanted to hear. smile

Morien Fri 04-Jan-13 10:06:41

hopeful, that's like me this cycle. I normally have something or other going on and this time there's nothing. I'm CD30 but I don't want to test - the last few cycles I've had all these definite pg symptoms so I've tested and of course it's been BFN every time. This time there are no symptoms but I'd rather just wait for AF to come than test (if I concentrate really hard I can kind of identify pre-AF-type cramps). Anyway, I don't even know if AF is late as my cycles before MC were longer than this. Hey ho, time will tell. I guess I'll test next week if AF doesn't show up...

And apart from that, I just warned to add my voice to the 'are you ok, calibee?' chorus. You haven't been around for a while, hope everything's ok.

Diege, hope your migraine clears up soon.

hopeful, how's your running going? I've done Couch to 5km a couple of times (I'm not what you'd call sportygrin) and I've really enjoyed it. Can't run in the winter though as we live in the middle of nowhere and the farm tracks I run on in the summer don't have street lighting and it's dark when I get home (it's a good excuse grin). I try to swim a couple of times a week. On a different note, I've just started an introductory meditation programme that I read about in The Guardian. I've only done 2 days but I'm really motivated and feeling quite excited - I know I need to do something to be less stressed, TTC or not, and I hope this will help.

Enjoying my last day off before starting work again Monday. It's been such a lovely break.

TinaO99 Fri 04-Jan-13 10:43:37

Gum it's started to pop out a bit, Dr said it looked about right for my dates the other day so that was reassuring - still bleeding a bit last night and today but it still looks like old blood, wish I knew what it was but at the moment I'm more concerned about the almost constant headaches |I'm getting, I'm seeing the Dr this afternoon to get some stuff for constipation blush so I'll mention it then, it's probably hormonal but theyre wearing me out and paracetomol doesn't help!

cheese glad to hear all was well on your 20 week scan, mine is on the 22nd - can't wait to see the little wrigglers again - when you don't see them for a while you start to worry!

whats everyone up to this weekend? I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies from another forum I post on that live near me and are also having twins, really looking forwards to seeing them as they both had IVF too so we all have lots in common!

remnant Fri 04-Jan-13 11:46:31

jbrd, I'm really sorry!

calibee, how are you?

I'm afraid I'm slightly out of touch here, so apologies for not really responding to everything. DH decided just before I ovulated this month that he definitely didn't want another baby, so I've been been trying to refocus my attention elsewhere. I've also been gently trying to explain how he's wrong blush and waiting to see if that is more successful than my attempts to forget about ttc.

The last time we had sex was at least 2 or 3 days before I ovulated and now, 12 dpo, I'm on cycle day 28. I've only had one other 28 day cycle in the last 6 months, usually it's 24-25 days. i have slightly sore nipples but nothing really crampy and even the sore nipples seem to be fading this morning. I've been wondering if I'm just experiencing the irregular cycles that come before the menopause. I had one last hpt and I just caved in and did it so I'd know one way or another. However, hasn't helped. There's the faintest faintest shadow of a second line making a cross. It is very very faint but visible enough for my imagination not to be able to rule out pregnancy.

I will not be sharing this with dh (or anyone else) for a few weeks at least. He won't notice a late period I'm sure, and even if I am pregnant now there's every chance I won't be tomorrow, of next week or next month. But blimey, what if I am!?

NewPatchesForOld Fri 04-Jan-13 14:09:20

2ww for me again now. It was OD yesterday I believe, backed up by the ov pains and slightly painful sex last night, and the fact that I woke DP up at 4am as I was feeling so...ahem...rampant! blush. Not sure if the timings will be right though, as we missed the 2 nights before OD, but hoping we will have caught it last night (or this morning). I stocked up on the cheap tests from amazon, so can poas as often as my imagination wants grin.
Aaarrgghh...hate this 2ww.

remnant Fri 04-Jan-13 16:44:51

oops, forgot to say hello to newbies: newpatches, pixiedust, soopermum. is that everyone? good to see we're not alone

update from me shock bought some FR tests and there are definitely two pink stripes!

YAY for another bfp to a 43 year old!
BOO to dh's latest decision on another dc!

The situation is bound to resolve itself in a couple of days or weeks
In the meantime I'll keep you company sparkly

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