I have to say I can't believe that so many people have joined us.
Just shagging it looks like you and I are going to have lots of excellent company well into next year (assuming everybody bucks the trend of starting ttc earlier than planned lol). A big warm welcome to everybody! I feel a bit rude for not being here when you all arrived, like maybe I was still upstairs fixing my hair or something when I should have been downstairs handing out canapes!
It seems that there are now quite a few others desperately trying to convince their OHs now that trying to conceive is a good idea! While I do like to think I would never do it to DH, being in this situation month after month really does change your perspective on the whole "happy accident" debate. I have heard women who do this compared to men having had a vascectomy on the sly - but I don't really think that that is a fair comparison. And particularly where the men are keen to have children but are just dragging their feet pointlessly while their wife gets older. A happy accident could be anything on the scale from giving someone a little push who was dithering up to forcing somebody into a life choice they really never wanted. I'm not saying that I would ever do it, but I can well understand why people voice these suggestions.
Squirrel you're very lucky that your other half is as much on board with trying to conceive as you are. I am very envious.
So as you can see, why wait, this is very much the place for you - as there are several of us patiently (ahem!) waiting for our husbands to catch up with us. I'm so sorry to hear about your redundancy, but it does seem that you could put the time and money to good use! I only hope that you can convince your other half of what a brilliant plan it is!
Quodlibet lol at you reporting for Waiting and not MIA! So sorry to hear about your loss, it must have been a hard time. Don't give a second thought about wallowing, you can moan as much as you want.
In terms of coming off the pill or staying on and hoping for the fertility surge, my recent experience was that I came off the pill after 12 months on it and found that I hadn't ovulated by day 16 of my first cycle, which made me totally panic and really glad that I had come off the pill early, thinking what if I had left it? I had started charting and on day 17 my thermometer broke, so I never found out whether I had ovulated.
So I'm glad that I've started early because now, if there are any problems conceiving, I will already have plenty of data to take along to the doctor.