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Please talk to me...

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MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 08:54

I went to hospital yesterday afternoon and was sent home as my cervix still had a way to go. Then the contractions stopped. Both dh and had wound ourselves up I think so we went to the pub across the road, had a lovely meal and a little wine. We returned feeling much more relaxed.
I went to bed at 10pm but I was woken at 1am by dh coming to bed. Then they started again.
By 2am I couldn't sleep, I phoned the hospital again and suggested I got in the bath with paracetamol. Basically I was contracting still fairly weakly (I realise that now) about 1/2 hourly. I managed to go back to bed and sleep until 5.30am.
This time the contractions were much more frequent about 5-6 minutes apart. I phoned the hospital, a midwife phoned me back.
I understand now that I have been naive thinking I should go into hopsital before. I have hours of pain at home to go through before I am in 'established' labour. Dh can't help but treat me like I'm a hyperchondriac but I still have ages to go.
It's just dawning on me what a lonely experience this labouring at home is.
Please talk to me...

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stitch · 11/02/2006 09:00

hi, lots of luck mrsd, how horrible for you.
i ws sent home and told to take paracetamol but when the pain got to much, i just insisted on the painmeds. epidural basically.
good luck, mn can always provide a good argy bargy

gigglinggoblin · 11/02/2006 09:07

it can be just as lonely in the hospital mrsd, i think a lot of it depends on your state of mind. you do sound tired and im not surprised! ds1s labour was a bit like this, they tried inducing me but it took several days. can you find something to take your mind off it? either clean out or the cupboards or give yourself a good old pamper session, lots of choccies, foot bath and a nice girly dvd.

good luck, it wont be long! xx

sfxmum · 11/02/2006 09:12

oh honey, best of luck
i know its hard and it can be difficult in hospital too. all i can suggest is try to focus only on yoourself and your child, try and keep calm focus and breathe.
and get some pain relief if and when you want it take care

Jasnem · 11/02/2006 09:16

Mrs D - gg is right - in some ways hospital can be as bad (or worse)At home you can get in your own bath, phone your family and all your friends, eat nice food, and walk around in peace (help speed it up if you're lucky).

It might get going at any time. My DP was sent home from hosp at 6 pm (was in because my waters broke that afternoon), and at 11 they had to phone him to come back, as I was fully dilated.

Big being sent your way.

MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 09:21

Thanks girls, I appreciate this

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Carmenere · 11/02/2006 09:26

Best of luck MrsD. I think you may be better off at home too at this stage, I mean you don't have access to mumsnet in hospital do you

MamaG · 11/02/2006 09:31

Best of luck, I would just echo what others have already said. I went into hosp far too early with DD and wished I'd stayed at home!

The chocs & girly DVD sounds a great idea, or just chat on here with us lot!

I was fanatical about walking about thinking it might speed labour up, but just ended up tired out when it was time ot push, so don't do TOO much!

Big hugs and lots of luck xxx

Whizzz · 11/02/2006 09:32

Best of luck & do try & get some rest

SorenLorensen · 11/02/2006 09:32

It is lonely. I remember being up all night (well, from about 3am) before ds2 was born - just wandering round the house, waiting for things to really get going. But you really are better off at home, you can potter about, have a bath, eat, Mumsnet! It's happening...just slo-o-o-wly. Much sympathy

LadyTophamHatt · 11/02/2006 09:35

I hope your dh isn't treating you like a hyperchondriac......I'd kick him in the bollocks and tell him to stop making a fuss if he was

Is this your first Mrs D? just try amd remember that ever contraction is one less and one nearer the baby coming

good luck.

starshaker · 11/02/2006 09:39

i was in and out of hospital for nearly 6 weeks with contractions they just said they werent strong enough. eventually i was induced a week after my due date and she was born in 3 hours

Socci · 11/02/2006 09:51

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hockeymum · 11/02/2006 10:14

Get some DVDs in - there is nothing like a bit of distraction at this stage. Eat food (you'll miss it in hospital), have a bath, go for a walk, read magazines. Anything to distract yourself. You are not a hypochondriac! it is painful even at this stage and is unsettling not knowing when things are going to kick off properly. Do what you can to keep youself sane and ignore DH if he's being a rude boy!

MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 11:44

Still here.
Went for a walk with the dog but I was uable to walk to far, it was the downward pressure that was kiling me. Couldn't wait to get in the bath.
Got myslef in the bath and the releif was amazing!!! Contractions disapperaed for 20 minutes but they came back, muted but I knew had I been out of the bath they would have been awful
Finally, I've just as I was experiencing another contraction They are definitly lasting a minute!! I got out of the bath. My legs feel like lead and I was alomost persuaded to get back in the bath.
I had paracetamol at 9.30 and I started to feel very dwosy in the bath. Wonder if I can get some sleep. As long as I'm still I can deal with it, move around and it seems to encourgae contractions. I sneezed because I have a cold and it was hell.
Another one coming.............

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MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 11:45

sorry for typos but too dstracted and past caring

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KristinaM · 11/02/2006 11:47

Ho Mrs D . Long time no speak. So glad to hear your baby is on its way but comiserations on all the labour bit. Who has DD1?

Carmenere · 11/02/2006 11:47

(((hugs))) mrsD

Beetroot · 11/02/2006 11:47

i think you arelucky to be at hom, you an walk the odg, you can chat on MN, you can call your mates. you can watch TV. In hospital it would be very boring and nosey.

Try to look after yourslef, hve a rest, listen to come relxaing music. even invite a mte oer if dh being uselss.

Good Luck. x

MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 11:50

Dm has dd. Took her last weekend when we thought I was going to have it then.
I'm feeling really tired now

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Beetroot · 11/02/2006 11:52

lie down and have a rest MrsD. even if you dose. Of lie with youknees on the floor (keeling) and then rest forward onto the sofa (or birthding ball) great for labour/ great position to get things moving and great if you have a contraction.

MrsDoolittle · 11/02/2006 11:53

Will do that - Thanks beetroot

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KristinaM · 11/02/2006 12:06

Now I should be able to give sensible advice like that . beety you are so clever.

Glad DD is ok so you can just worry about yourself Mrs D

Remember to eat if you feel like it. and drink even if you dont

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Flamesparrow · 11/02/2006 12:29

Hope you're having a rest, but if not... how's it going?

Flamesparrow · 11/02/2006 12:32

One thing I was thinking... they say not to use a birth pool under a certain amount of cms dilated as it can slow things down again... could the bath be having the same effect. Oh, and echoing Kristina's advice with drinking - dehydration can slow things down too apparantly (learnt that from my lecture from the m/w yesterday )

MarsOnLife · 11/02/2006 12:33

how you doing MrsD?

I hope you're taking up beety's suggestion and resting.

If you feel any change in the contraction then call the hospital back. I was just at a birth 10 days ago and she went from small just manageable pains to intense pain rather quickly.

Rest as much as you can, stay warm.

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