My husband died

(197 Posts)
minkulus Fri 05-Apr-13 22:09:22

I have 2DCs. Daughter 8 and son 2 1/2. I have spoken to my Dd about her daddy, but how the hell do I explain it to the 2 yr old.
Dad was away a lot with work so his absence has not been noted yet. What do I do?
Sorry it's a bit blunt but I'm stunned and can't face it.

xigris Mon 15-Apr-13 10:13:29

How are you today, Mink? so glad that it went well with your in laws. X

Homebird8 Mon 15-Apr-13 20:28:48

There are times when words desert me. So, handhold. flowers

Blondeshavemorefun Mon 15-Apr-13 20:29:58

glad went as well as it can under the circumstances with your inlaws

thinking of you x

ChippingInLovesSpring Mon 15-Apr-13 20:35:32

I'm glad it went OK with DH's family. Sending you a bit more love & strength to keep putting one foot in front of the other x

member Mon 15-Apr-13 20:56:52

I've just seen this thread for the first time & whilst I have no practical advice, I just wanted to let you know that I've read & you're in my thoughts. flowers

BriansBrain Tue 16-Apr-13 22:51:44

Hey Mink, how are you feeling?

theboutiquemummy Wed 17-Apr-13 17:26:25

Hi Mink how are you doing x

minkulus Wed 17-Apr-13 19:21:38

Hi everyone. Just checking in. Had a really full on day again but am making progress with funeral arrangements etc so feel its tiredness that has been earned. My beautiful DCs are cuddling up while we watch a DVD and eat toast. My little world. X

<squeeze>

BriansBrain Wed 17-Apr-13 20:50:53

I'm pleased you have found time to update, I have been thinking about you.

Lovely post and glad to read all is calm x

scottishmummy Thu 18-Apr-13 07:36:35

Gosh it's hard,take it minute by minute. Toast and cuddles is a great comfort

RatherBeOnThePiste Thu 18-Apr-13 08:39:09

Much love from me, am thinking of you all X

BIWI Thu 18-Apr-13 08:57:53

Cuddles, DVDs and toast sound like a fab idea! Thinking of you xx

IcanandIwill Fri 19-Apr-13 04:33:01

I've been away but been thinking of you. Take comfort in those moments of calm, they are very precious xxx

BriansBrain Fri 19-Apr-13 16:55:13

How are you x

Just popping on by to let you know I'm still thinking of you and your DC

fluffypillow Sat 20-Apr-13 23:24:36

What a terrible time for you sad

Thinking of you and your DC's. Lots of hugs coming your way xxx

ProphetOfDoom Sat 20-Apr-13 23:51:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

OttilieKnackered Tue 23-Apr-13 22:04:00

I recently went through something sort of similar, though not the same. I don't want to try and compare the loss as there were no children and he was actually my ex, though only by a matter of weeks. We were still financially 'linked' and so I've had to do a lot of the stressful sorting out, even though I was not his next of kin.

Unless you have particularly awful inlaws or friends, the funeral WILL be beautiful. When all the people that loved a person gather together, it almost doesn't matter what else is around.

The thing that keeps catching me out is when I read or see something I know he would have had any opinion on. I keep going to text him. At first it made me cry, but now it's starting to make me smile, although I still sometimes get a little shock when I remember.

Yours is a different, and much tougher, situation, but in the first few days I thought I'd never be able to do anything again.

I hope you don't think I'm underplaying your loss, but I just thought it might help to hear from someone who has (so far) managed to hold it together.

Please take care.

Yorkiegirl Wed 24-Apr-13 10:15:52

Hi minkulus how are you today? I have messaged you. My DH died abroad in 2006 when my DDs were 2 and 4.

minkulus Thu 25-Apr-13 18:33:24

Hi everyone! Just checking in to let you know we are still plodding on.
Ottilie, I feel for you. Your pain and loss is no less legitimate or 'deserving'. You lost someone who was and had been an enormous part of your life. I hope you are feeling ok.
I am spending the last few days before the funeral just making sure I have done everything I can to make it a special day.
My beautiful DCs are doing ok. DD is up and down, as to be expected. She is amazing! DS is accepting things as far as I can tell. He likes to talk about daddy which is amazingly hard at times.
Thank you to everyone who has messages me, I will reply soon!
Xxx

DontSHOUTTTTTT Thu 25-Apr-13 20:00:23

Xx thanks just to say i am thinking of you.

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