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AIBU?

well not me but couple at next table this afternoon

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MrsDimples · 14/02/2010 22:31

During the week OH booked him, me & baby into a diner / bar / restaurant for a meal this valentine afternoon. We chose this place as it is more relaxed than a formal restaurant & avoided prime times of lunch & evening as we would have sproggle with us.

We arrived & where greeted by our booked name - only people with baby - shown to our reserved table, with high chair. Sproggle is 8 months old, breast fed & blw. Getting off the train had interrupted a breastfeed, so when we sat down I continued to breastfeed her.

A couple - late fifties, early sixties - sat at the next table.

When sproggle was fed I went to change her before the food arrived & then put her in the high chair. Before we'd got the high chair tucked up close to the table, she headbutted the edge of the table & started to cry. So we took her out to give her a cuddle. She was still upset, so I put her back on the breast. She subsequently went to sleep.

The couple at the next table looked like they were leaving, but actually there drinks had been put on the table behind them. The lady was clearly trying to be placed at a different table.

They stayed at the table behind.

Sproggle cried, cried not screamed, for less than 3 minutes, but was on the breast for quite a while.

When she woke, she sat happily in the high chair stuffing her face with pitta & houmus. Making a mess, that we cleared.

The staff had no issue with us.

So were the couple being unreasonable to move tables?

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jasper · 14/02/2010 22:35

Not really, if other tables were available.
Their choice really

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 22:36

the couple were unreasonable, yes

but so are you, for using the term "sproggle"

please don't do it again < removes hands from eyes >

usualsuspect · 14/02/2010 22:38

I know you think your baby is gorgeous ..but not everybody does..

parakeet · 14/02/2010 22:38

They didn't ask you to move - they moved themselves.

If they had audibly moaned to each other, tutted, or even pulled a disapproving face, then yes, they would have been in the wrong.

Some older people might feel more uncomfortable about a flash of breast than younger people. The sensible thing to do in that circumstance would simply be to move. Which they did.

You never know, they might even have done it because they thought it would make YOU feel more comfortable...OK, probably not, but let's give them the benefit of the doubt.

alicet · 14/02/2010 22:38

Not unreasonable to move tables. Probably unreasonable if they were snotty with you (assuming your idea of informal is similar to mine) but it doesn't sound as though they were.

I have 2 young children (4 and 2) and if dh and I were out without them I would have asked to be moved away from you tbh - not because you were doing anything wrong at all but because if I have the chance to be out without children I like to be well away from that stuff really

Forget about it

LetThereBeRock · 14/02/2010 22:39

I agree with Jasper regarding them moving tables and with AF re the use of 'Sproggle'.

twotimes · 14/02/2010 22:39

Don't see why they moved but not unreasonable if they were more tables. Would most definitely been unreasonable had they commented.

GeneHuntsMistress · 14/02/2010 22:40

no they were not being unreasonable

you also were not being unreasonable

the restaurant staff were not being unreasonable either

everyone happy, what's the problem?

runnybottom · 14/02/2010 22:40

Maybe they were moving away from a draft. Maybe they were trying to be nice to you thinking you might want a little more privacy.

YABU for assuming they were being shitty.

DuelingFanjo · 14/02/2010 22:41

No - they weren't being unreasonable. Sounds to me like they did it with a minimum of fuss and without making an issue of it. Might even have been for a completely unrelated reason.

fluffles · 14/02/2010 22:41

they're perfectly entitled to move tables... no problem at all.

they wouldn't have been entitled to complain or say anything bad but to just quietly move to another table - how could that be a problem???

Firawla · 14/02/2010 22:41

they're not unreasonable to move, its their choice. they didn't ask you to move or say anything rude to you, so yabu to feel offended by that

verytellytubby · 14/02/2010 22:42

No they are not unreasonable. They probably wanted a quiet meal without kids. I know the rare times I get to eat without my 3 kids I want to be in the most kid-unfriendly place!!

Jajas · 14/02/2010 22:42

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ShowOfHands · 14/02/2010 22:44

Sproggle? Sproggle?

Desist.

paisleyleaf · 14/02/2010 22:44

As parakeet says: "If they had audibly moaned to each other, tutted, or even pulled a disapproving face, then yes, they would have been in the wrong".

They didn't know if the crying was going to get more, or all the up and down fidgetting about, so grabbed another table while it was available.
I don't see that they did anything unreasonable.

aoyama · 14/02/2010 22:45

I agree with Rocks agreements

You are assuming that they were moving because of either your crying baby or you boobs but there are plenty of other reasons why they might have wanted to move. Its possible the they moved to make you feel more comfortable. There are plenty of 'why does FIL think its ok to sit next to me when I bf' threads on here. Its also possible that there was a spring sticking up through their chair or the floor was sticky and their shoes kept getting caught up. If they did move because of your crying baby or boobs then it is up to them unless they did it with much tutting.

Kewcumber · 14/02/2010 22:46

far more reasonable to move than sit giving you withering looks like teh couple next to us at lunch last week (very well behaved 4 year old with us).

I'm not sure what your annoyance is. Whether you understand it or not, some people don;t much like small children and while she might only have cried for 3 minutes, they presumably weren't psychic and didn't want to sit next to a crying baby all through their meal.

Jajas · 14/02/2010 22:46

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ChristianaTheTwelfth · 14/02/2010 22:46

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penguin73 · 14/02/2010 22:46

No. Some people accept breast feeding is now deemed ok in public, others find it offensive or uncomfortable. Had they been rude or said something offensive to you then they would have been unreasonable, but they didn't. In my mind they were very reasonable to deal with the situation in the way they did.

gerontius · 14/02/2010 22:46

They thought your baby might make some noise. So they moved, for a more pleasant dining experience. At no point did they complain, say anything to you, or even look disapproving.
What's the problem?

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moondog · 14/02/2010 22:47

If I'm out, sans kids, I don't want to be near anynoe else's, be they nourished from a breat, bottle or six pack of lager.

Fruitysunshine · 14/02/2010 22:47

Why do you think they moved?

alicet · 14/02/2010 22:49

moondog pmsl at baby nad six pack of lager Actually this might be better - they'd probably shut up and sleep then

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