to think that considering sil is a sahm, she could at least make my brother a meal when he gets in from being at work allday

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

and no she is not ill or anything.
db works allday then comes home and makes the tea.

[Kewcumber]

isn't that for him to agree with her. You aren't his mum or his wife?

[HuwEdwards]

I think it's probably none of your business. If he doesn't object, why do you care?

[NomDePlume]

Perhaps she's a crap cook ?

YABU. None of your business. Their marriage. Their business.

If he is not happy then he needs to take it up with her.

[mayorquimby]

meh, whatever works for them

[childrenofthecornsilk]

You like your sil then?

[Guadalupe]

Has he said he is annoyed about it? Their domestic arrangements are not really any of your business are they. I assume there are other things about her that annoy you.

[seeker]

Maybe he likes cooking?

[sparklesandnowinefor11days]

my sil is like this

but its none of my business what goes on in their home, the same as it is none of yours

[Fennel]

None of your business even if he does object.

I sometimes cook for me and the dds but not dp, even when he's in the house. Ostentatiosly. If I feel he hasn't done enough cooking lately. It's our deal. Other people would find it weird but it suits us.

[expatinscotland]

YABU.

It's none of your business what they do.

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

becuase he is knackered i can see the strain on his face.
i'm not his mum no, but our mum doesn't think it's right either.

[littlelamb]

ah

[MilaMae]

They've both been at work all day.

[childrenofthecornsilk]

Do you live with them then?

[SmugColditz]

It depends entirely on their situation. If she is at home with 4 kids under 4, and he works in an office in charge of complaints about chocolate eclairs, then he would be very unreasonable to demand dinner when he gets in.

However if he is doing 12 hours as an a&e charge nurse, and she has one docile 8 year old, then he should ask that she makes his dinner.

For all you know she's exchanging dinner making for jaw-crampingly long blow jobs. YOu don't know.

[expatinscotland]

'becuase he is knackered i can see the strain on his face.
i'm not his mum no, but our mum doesn't think it's right either.'

Well, that's your lookout then.

Who knows what your husband's family post about you on the WWW.

[maggottinfestedbodybag]

she is not a crap cook, but just a bit lazy and will sit back and ley my db do all the work, like looking after the kids up my mum and dads house

[pagwatch]

hhmmm

waiting for post.....

"AIBU to think my sil should stop treating DH like a three year old who needs someone to fight his battles for him and mind her own business"....

[Prufrock]

none of your business tbh. I'm a SAHM, I even have a cleaner, gardener and ironer, and tonight my dh is having leftover lamb sandwiches, which he will probably make himself.
If your db has a problem,he should sort it out with her, you should not get involved.

[ImNotOnline]

YABU

I am a sahm my DP cooks, it is between them.

Maybe by his hometime she is knackered too?

God i'd live you as a SIL

[SmugColditz]

And would you mind changing your name? It is actually making me feel sick. I have a Thing.

[TheFallenMadonna]

"our mum doesn't think it's right either"

Shocker!

Look, he's your brother and you want him to be happy. If you think he's not happy, then talk to him about it. Don't turn it into a debate on who should be making the tea.

At least, not on MN

[Kewcumber]

how difficult is it to make a sadnwich for tea - I work all day and come home and make my own and DS's tea. And I gethim up in the morning and give him breakfast and get up in the night to him blah blah blah. On my own.

Seem to cope just fine.