AIBU to think that Nursery shouldn't have done this?

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CtotheB Sun 09-Oct-16 09:23:15

We have recently started weaning my 6 month old DD with fruit purée and some BLW. At the minute it is 1-2 meals per day. She was at Nursery all day on Monday so I dropped her off with her usual milk and a jar of food I know she liked and wasn't allergic to (hasn't previously had a reaction). On Thursday she was in from 12.30-4pm so I gave her breakfast and thought she would be fine at nursery and give her tea at 5/6pm. Anyway when I picked her up her diary said she really enjoyed her yoghurt, but I hadn't given a yoghurt for her to have. Queried this and they said they have Nursery fromage frais that they'd given her. AIBU to think they shouldn't have done this, given the fact she a) hasn't had dairy (aside from milk) and b) didn't seek permission?? In hindsight after a bit of research I've decided the only fromage frais she will be having is no added refined sugar, as this is the 3rd or 4th highest ingredient in most!! She's a baby fgs I don't think she needs the sugar..

StubbleTurnips Sun 09-Oct-16 09:29:08

This is why our nursery doesn't allow parents to provide food.

YABU. It's yoghurt, not crack cocaine.

StealthPolarBear Sun 09-Oct-16 09:29:12

Do you have particular concerns about allergies or intolerances? If she's had milk why are you worried about 'dairy'?

dementedpixie Sun 09-Oct-16 09:30:09

I assume they thought it'd be ok as you had sent in food the previous time. I don't think it's that big a deal tbh. Lots of sugar in fruit purée too

PotteringAlong Sun 09-Oct-16 09:31:15

Bloody hell! You sent her to nursery, they fed her. Not full fat Coke, a fromage frais. Do you really think they need to ask permission for every new bit of food they feed every child?

Soubriquet Sun 09-Oct-16 09:31:57

It's ONE yoghurt!

She is not going to overload on sugar on ONE yoghurt

LoisEighty Sun 09-Oct-16 09:33:41

Depends on whether you had previously asked the nursery not to give her anything to eat. Normal practice is for nurseries to feed children.

NickNacks Sun 09-Oct-16 09:33:42

Complete overreaction!

Floggingmolly Sun 09-Oct-16 09:34:11

She hasn't yet had dairy apart from milk?? Yoghurt isn't made from a different type of dairy; it's made from milk...
You sent her in with a jar, yet think she's been practically poisoned by eating a yogurt?

Pointeshoes Sun 09-Oct-16 09:36:12

Are you serious?! A yogurt...just a yogurt

NickyEds Sun 09-Oct-16 09:36:16

Sorry op but you're over reacting!

SleepFreeZone Sun 09-Oct-16 09:36:35

Pfb I'm assuming.

This is the beginning of It I'm afraid. You might be able to control what goes into your babies mouth in the early stages but once they start going to preschool, going to parties you are going to be a bundle of stress if you are worried about refined sugar.

Talk to the nursery, say you would like to solely provide your baby's food and because of risk of allergies you do not want them to give anything at all if you haven't provided anything.

Put it in writing and then if it happens again you can go in all guns blazing.

CtotheB Sun 09-Oct-16 09:37:44

Milk, as in breast milk.. which is a different type of diary to cows milk..? ORGANIC fruit purée with no added sugar. Natural sugar is different?
I was never told she was going to be fed, hence why I supplied the food when I expected her to be..
What if she was lactose intolerant and I hadn't found out?

SauvignonPlonker Sun 09-Oct-16 09:39:22

Perhaps you should consider a nanny if nursery isn't going to meet your ridiculous standards about food?

Soubriquet Sun 09-Oct-16 09:39:48

Natural sugar is different when the fruit is whole

When puréed down its as bad as the dreaded yoghurt

nephrofox Sun 09-Oct-16 09:40:01

How long are you going to provide her food for?? Isn't it normal for babies to eat whatever the nursery is giving all the others? Presumably the nursery make homecooked healthy food, a bit of that purée would be much healthier Than a jar

CtotheB Sun 09-Oct-16 09:40:09

So it would be ok for nursery to feed my child sweets and cake? But it's ok because it would be a "one off?"

cerealnamechangers Sun 09-Oct-16 09:40:22

I think you need to get over it, it's really not a big deal. If you eat dairy and drink cows milk then it would have been in your breast milk anyway. Very pfb.

Soubriquet Sun 09-Oct-16 09:40:27

Oh and btw, your breast milk still contains lactose. It's not exclusive to cows milk

anotherdayanothersquabble Sun 09-Oct-16 09:41:12

I think your wishes should be respected but the majority of people are fine with a bit of sugar and introducing dairy at 6 months and in my experience nurseries do tend to stick to their own routines and do what is simplest in a multiple child / carer setting despite promising to stick to babies individual routines. It's probably a battle you won't win in the long term.

Meadows76 Sun 09-Oct-16 09:41:31

What if she was lactose intolerant and I hadn't found out? surely this could apply to quite literally anything you ever feed your child? You planning to never give her anything just in case? Lol at someone taking the time out of their life to be so annoyed that a nursery FED their child

CtotheB Sun 09-Oct-16 09:41:32

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Sugarlightly Sun 09-Oct-16 09:42:01

Well there's only one way to find out it your child is lactose intolerant...

Even if she is, it's unlikely that she's going to be seriously harmed by a yoghurt

PurpleOneWithTheNutIn Sun 09-Oct-16 09:42:13

Haven't you had a conversation with nursery about your child's weaning? Mine had a long detailed convo when we started weaning, about foods to give/not give, and this was regularly revisited as we or they gave new foods. Maybe time to update them. I'm sure a bit of nursery fromage frais will be fine though.

miniHovis Sun 09-Oct-16 09:42:13

I assume you eat dairy? So your breast milk will contain dairy and if dc hasn't had a reaction yet it's very unlikely that she will have an allergy to dairy products.

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