My mother thinks I am. She thinks I should be happy I've got ds and just move on.
She said:
- she won't feel the same about a donor embryo grandchild as she does ds.
- we are taking a huge gamble as loads of things could go wrong.
- the child will want to find it's 'real' family (won't be possible as will be done in Spain where the donor is anonymous)
- the child won't ever fit in properly.
- children conceived with donor eggs get cancer (I am not sure where she's had this from as I cannot find any source to back this up.)
- we are playing 'god' and it is morally wrong.
- I won't bond with the child because it won't be mine.
We do have a ds but have been trying for a second child for two years. We have tried ivf but it has failed. I don't want to adopt. I want to get to be pregnant and have a newborn. Is that really selfish?
We don't really have any options left apart from to try donor embryos. Which obviously may not even work.
Aibu to want to try?