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Original poster

To be slightly pissed off at this comment from dh regarding housework?

361 replies

Stillhopingstillhere · 14/10/2013 11:28

I've been a sahm since ds was born so consequently all childcare and housework, cooking, ironing etc has been my responsibility. This is fine as dh works long hours. Anyway ds has started school now so I've started to look at going back to work. I mentioned to dh last night about a coupe of things I might apply for on top of the volunteering I'm doing at the moment. His response? As long as you can keep the house tidy and keep on top of the housework I don't mind what you do.

Aibu to think why should that be any more my job than his if we are both working?

OP posts:
TEErickOrTEEreat · 14/10/2013 11:29

He should do some eve if you're not working since taking care of children is work.

HumphreyCobbler · 14/10/2013 11:29

YANBU

Longtalljosie · 14/10/2013 11:30

YANBU. Does he do literally nothing?

CocacolaMum · 14/10/2013 11:30

Did he look up from his newspaper when he said this? Also where do you live? 1958?

Boosterseattheballcleaner · 14/10/2013 11:30

YANBU

Why is it your job? Does he not not make any mess?

Sorry love, but he would be told to fuck right off.

If you live in our house you are responsible cleaning it, same applied to Ds too.

Writerwannabe83 · 14/10/2013 11:31

Jesus - I'd have gone MAD!!! YADNBU!

harticus · 14/10/2013 11:33

FFS what is this? 1950?
Tell him to get stuffed and pull his weight.

Vivacia · 14/10/2013 11:33

Was this the "deal" before you had kids? Something you'd discussed and agreed upon?

BurberryQ · 14/10/2013 11:33

cheeky fucker -

Original poster
Stillhopingstillhere · 14/10/2013 11:33

No, currently he does nothing. To be fair he leaves the house at 7.45am and isn't back until 7pm so doesn't have much time. Although he does play golf every single Saturday... But that's a different AIBU.

Yes, it appears one of us lives in the 1950s.

OP posts:
Hegsy · 14/10/2013 11:34

BYANBU tell him to fuck off back to the 60's where he belongs!

TEErickOrTEEreat · 14/10/2013 11:35

So he works all week, as do you, then he plays golf on Saturdays?

When do you get to do your hobby? Go out with friends?

gamerchick · 14/10/2013 11:38

Exactly.. when do you get your time of?

Time to have a conversation about your change of jib and division of household tasks.

gamerchick · 14/10/2013 11:39

*off

gamerchick · 14/10/2013 11:40

Why does my phone always change job to jib... what the hells a jib anyway?

nennypops · 14/10/2013 11:40

Get that job, and tell him that from now on he's in charge of the house and children on Saturdays.

FobblyWoof · 14/10/2013 11:40

Shock Your dh is a steaming pile of shit

RevelsRoulette · 14/10/2013 11:40

Bloody hell. I think a conversation is in order about the difference between you taking on the housework and childcare because you are doing those hours in place of work outside the home and you doing all the housework and childcare because you are the proud owner of a vagina!

I want to slap him with a hoover pipe until his face falls off.

FloralDora · 14/10/2013 11:42

What a total arse!

YANBU at all

TEErickOrTEEreat · 14/10/2013 11:44

A jib is a triangular sail, among other things. [/end thread derailment] Halloween Grin

pianodoodle · 14/10/2013 11:45

Pah! He's lucky you've been doing everything up until this stage... he's been spoiled!

YANBU

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dreamingbohemian · 14/10/2013 11:48

YANBU

Did he seriously think he was never going to have to wash a dish for the rest of his life?

Lweji · 14/10/2013 11:49

Even if you do everything during the week, he should share the work during the weekend, and you should bugger off for the same amount of time he goes golfing on weekends.

If he's not prepared to contribute at home, he should pay for a cleaner.

Even during the week, he can easily do work at home after 7pm. Clear out the table, do the dishes, put the children to bed if they are of school age, etc.

pianodoodle · 14/10/2013 11:49

He needs to change the cut of his jib :)

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