¨To send a copied and pasted Facebook Conversation to the superior at somebody's work

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Most of what happens on Facebook just wash over me.
But today I got really really pissed off, and the latent feminist in me made a silent ROAR.

I am a member of a Selling/swap page on Facebook for my home town. A man posted asking if somebody knew a place on Facebook to post a job advert. (Vacant position) He attached a screenshot from his mobile detailing the job. He wrote in slang, outlining it was mostly lifting heavy boxes from delivery vans and putting them in storage, saying "this job is not for women".

A woman posted saying she did not think he could phrase it like that as it was discriminating against women. He replied saying in broad terms "you come and try out this job for a day babe and you will see it is not for women". She replied she worked in health care and did not need another job, she just wanted to point out that she did not think it could be phrased that way. A barrage of abuse from him, and various other men, mocking her being a woman, mocking her working in health care, and saying stuff like "of course, working in health care you have the time to make dumbass replies online" etc

I googled his name. Lo and behold he is general manager of the local branch. He has also taken part in a national reality show similar to Temptation Island, drives a Hot car with a Hot girlfriend in 6th form.

A woman posted saying she did 90kg in weights and would love a job with heavy lifting. He replied, he did not really want to meet a woman who could do that job, as he would not fancy a woman who could do such physical work without problems. He wondered if he should repost on lezbo.org.

His girlfriend posted laughing at all the women who felt affronted that they could not do the job.

He wondered if he should repost and hope that he would not get replies from "half brains" and idiots.

It was most absurd, most of the people posting were trying to help him see that it was against the law to post a job advert that was blatantly discriminating against a specific gender, and that not all men would be able to do that job. He was offensive to all of them.

As he is the gm of the local branch of a privately owned medium sized nationwide company, I am so tempted to email the entire conversation, with 30 comments mocking women and generally just being an arse to head office.

I dont know WHY the whole thing has angered me so much.

Should I just let it go thinking "Just another horrible arse" and be glad I dont actually know him at all.

Send it. Make the fucker sorry.

sooperdooper Mon 26-Aug-13 23:20:17

Yes I'd definitely send it, what a hideous and ridiculous man

I agree it gives a very poor impression of the company.

Not sure how he got the job in the first place. Reading his actual FB, he keeps asking his friends job related questions, like where do I order refridgeration units, where can i find a welder. There is something broken in x building, how do I fix it? Also stating, I will have to make you some sort of invoice for the work, wink wink - wide open profile. It looks very unprofessional.

Along with shots from his taking part on "Temptation Island".

Selks Mon 26-Aug-13 23:20:29

Send!

YouTheCat Mon 26-Aug-13 23:20:57

Do it!

sooperdooper Mon 26-Aug-13 23:21:00

Make sure you do it as a screen shot so he can't say it's been amended in any way smile

extracrunchy Mon 26-Aug-13 23:22:06

Send it!!!

roadkillbunny Mon 26-Aug-13 23:22:18

Send it.
If he had been an idiot and not brought his employer into it then it wouldn't sadly be okay to send it as people can be idiots it their personal lives as much as they like as long as they are professional (and non discriminatory) in their working life however this idiocy was based around a job advert, it was directly linked to his work and shows he is unable to keep his personal prejudice out of his working life. This makes it not only okay to send screen shots to his employer but also IMO your duty to do so.

Send it, definitely.

There are consequences for this sort of fuckwittery.

and copy & paste it here

ShakeAndVac Mon 26-Aug-13 23:23:19

Wow.
I was all set to say "YABU, what's it to do with you, and just let it wash over you."
Then I read the entire post.
If he's a manager, he's acting extremely unprofessionally, isn't he?! understatement
Which must be bringing his line of business and workplace into disrepute.

Mia4 Mon 26-Aug-13 23:24:55

YANBU but don't c/p-screen cap it. Use PrntScr and paste to paint, even if you have to make segments. It can't be altered in the way a copy/paste can and they'll know it.

Yamyoid Mon 26-Aug-13 23:26:15

Send it.
Stupid man.

Montybojangles Mon 26-Aug-13 23:26:58

I might be a little bit tempted to send it as a screen shot to the local paper too....

TotallyBursar Mon 26-Aug-13 23:27:12

I would be appalled if he was a member of my staff; but I do have to wonder if this has tacit acceptance there.
I find it difficult to comprehend how this attitude would escape me and I would know anyone recruiting for me had the skills to do so. Unless he's completely slipped through the net. He sounds awful anyway.

I hope I'm way off the mark but I will be interested in the response.
YANBU, obviously, do send it. I'm sure illegality will prick up some ears even if nothing else.

OrthodonticUrticaria Mon 26-Aug-13 23:28:08

I'm another who immediately thought YABU on reading the title, but after reading the post, I really think you should.
This is probably the tip of the iceberg with this arsehole.

BitBewildered Mon 26-Aug-13 23:28:51

Send it. I personally would probably tweet the screen shot to everyday sexism too but I am a stroppy bugger.

raisah Mon 26-Aug-13 23:29:01

Send it and let's see if he will be laughing for being a sexist bastard when he gets called up by his employers.

WafflyVersatile Mon 26-Aug-13 23:29:42

or use freezepage. www.freezepage.com/

I too was ready to say no, leave it be but not after reading your OP.

A note to them just pointing out it is illegal. Even if they have the same view that should concern them.

pinkstinks Mon 26-Aug-13 23:29:50

I want you to send it, but if you didn't comment and can't be linked, what if he thinks it was the woman who worked in healthcare? And he would have her name from the conversation...

YADNBU. Definitely screen cap it and his profile. Send it to his company. If they don't respond then tweet it. What an arse.

Darkesteyes Mon 26-Aug-13 23:32:46

yep Send it What an arsehole.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 26-Aug-13 23:35:07

I'd be tempted to tweet it to everydaysexism too and their 90000 followers

I'd send it. I might be a bit of a coward and do it anonymously. If he is a complete twat then he would probably be a twat about being reported.

MaryKatharine Mon 26-Aug-13 23:37:16

You need to send it but avoid sounding like an outraged feminist. If you act as if you are simply pointing out to them that they have a senior member of staff acting illegally and unprofessionally in their name in front of 1000s of potential customers then you will be taken more seriously.
Dickhead that he is.

I did not take part in the conversation.
The whole thing has now been deleted by group admin, so unless he also copied and pasted the convo, he may not remember her name.

I get that some jobs are not suitable for everybody. I am not going to fight for my right to lift heavy cargo, or boxes of organically grown fruit and veg to be delivered to homes and workplaces (think something like Riverford) where the owner really seem passionate about food and veg. It just really jars with the wholesome image they are trying to create.

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