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to think we owe it to our DC to let our armpits go feral?

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ClockWatchingLady Wed 07-Aug-13 10:15:49

When our kids are little, shouldn't they see that women have body hair (and accept it rather than remove it)?
Once they're in their teens, they'll probably see endless full-body-waxed women online, whether we like it or not.
So while they're little and forming their basic impressions of the female body, shouldn't we stop all this bloody depilation? Whether we feel comfortable with it or not, don't we owe it to the younger generation?

Yours faithfully,
Mr Tumnus

ClockWatchingLady Wed 07-Aug-13 10:34:17

No Theodora you are absolutely right that we must never discuss anything on which there has been previous discussion.
Please close down MN immediately and inform all politicians.

HollyBerryBush Wed 07-Aug-13 10:34:50

Its quite simple

men = hairy
women = smooth

If the 1970 East European steroid filled shot putter look is one you aspire to, then thats your choice.

MrsMelons Wed 07-Aug-13 10:35:01

I am confused why does it actually matter if children see women who are clean shaven and think that is the norm? I just can't see how it hurts anyone whichever ever way you want to be.

I may be completely missing the point though . . .

theodorakisses Wed 07-Aug-13 10:35:29

Obviously not saying that but I have seen some really nasty things said on threads like this. I am allowed to express that, ok?

LadyBryan Wed 07-Aug-13 10:35:46

I shave legs and armpits. I don't do it because of "social convention".

I do it because its more comfortable for me.

My daughter has asked about it. So I told her. When you get older you'll grow some body hair. You might want to remove it, you might want to leave it to grow. Either is perfectly fine.

I think my obligagtions to her are well covered in this department grin

I haven't bothered shaving my arm pits for a little while. Not a conscious decision, but I'm 8M pregnant, still working, trying to finish off all the DIY before DD2 gets here, looking after DD1, and I'm bloody knackered! Those 5 minutes it would take to shave are 5 minutes I could sleep! Anything lower than my armpits is a logistical headache, so I'm hairy and I couldn't give a fuck. Maybe I'll use this thread as an excuse and claim I'm doing it for the good of DD. grin

Flobbadobs Wed 07-Aug-13 10:36:05

Well I do and will carry on doing it. Because I sweat. None of this glowing crap, I sweat like buggery and it literally drips from my armpits if I'm hairy. Plus I have very dark hair on my legs and on the odd almost non existent times I wear a skirt I like to look smooth. Bikini line gets neglected on a regular basis though...
DD's can do what they like when they're old enough. I won't force it on them, just let them know that they can if they choose to or leave it alone.

ClassyAsALannister Wed 07-Aug-13 10:37:02

AS LONG AS WHAT YOU'RE DOING WITH YOUR HAIRY BITS IS FULLY YOUR CHOICE THEN IT'S FINE WHATEVER YOU DO

The rest is personal choice and whilst it may not be my cuppa to shave myself head to toe/be with someone that desires that, that's down to my beliefs, so who am I/anyone else to judge...

MrsMelons Wed 07-Aug-13 10:38:24

Surely it only takes seconds to shave your armpits in the shower? Not that I think you should but I have never spent even 5 minutes removing all my hair!

I am a bit crap with my bikini line in the winter but wax in the summer, definitely not all off though!

LRDYaDumayuShtoTiKrasiviy Wed 07-Aug-13 10:38:43

grin

I have no comment but I really, really want to know how you make armpits 'feral'. Do you have a badger?

Mine just get slightly hairy.

I get rid of armpit hair for comfort. If I have hair there I end up scratching at it and feeling like it's trapped under the bra strap (I know that sounds weird but it feels like that).

piprabbit Wed 07-Aug-13 10:40:35

My hairy bits are managed like New Forest ponies - mostly free to wander where they will, but periodically taken in hand. Neither tame nor feral.

I like to think I'm getting the balance right.

Wellwobbly Wed 07-Aug-13 10:41:55

I had a skiing accident, and in the hospital they had to cut my stuff off.

I was lying there, shivering and terrified, and overriding everything whilst they xrayed my neck to see if I had broken it, was the sure knowledge that I hadn't bothered to shave anywhere for months!

Never again. Its that old Mum warning isn't it, about being run over by the bus and clean knickers, and I got found out!!

No Theo your first post mentioned peado and I didn't think tajt had anything to do with this thread but there is a peado thread ongoing so I had thought you had made a mistake. I realised you hadn't when I saw your second post!

ClassyAsALannister Wed 07-Aug-13 10:42:51

grin @ pipra

I'm similar. I sort of like the feel of having shaved legs/pits but can't be arsed that often and don't want to waste too much valuable bath-time maintaining it

EstelleGetty Wed 07-Aug-13 10:43:07

My mum usually had hairy armpits when I was a child and, I noticed the other day, still does now. I thought that was what everybody did until I got older.

My mum, like me, is a rather dark and hairy lady but unlike me my mum doesn't sweat like a sailor. When I left mine to grow (after watching Betty Blue and thinking Beatrice Dalle looked hot as hell with her hairy pits), it sadly just encouraged the excessive sweating. So it's not for me, but I've still got my big brows and unwaxed bikini line to show my commitment to hairiness (my commitment to being lazy grin).

Each to their own, but I do feel that the social norms which demand that women should be smooth are still far too pervasive and unpleasant.

LRDYaDumayuShtoTiKrasiviy Wed 07-Aug-13 10:43:37

grin

I think that works, pip. So long as you don't get bits of gorse stuck in their manes, fine.

theodorakisses Wed 07-Aug-13 10:43:43

I avoid those types of threads. I do think that come wine o'clock this thread will turn ugly. They alwys do.

MrsMelons Wed 07-Aug-13 10:44:39

Wellwobbly - that is scary (the non-shaving not the accident of course grin ) Did you have clean knickers on though?

piprabbit Wed 07-Aug-13 10:45:19

Luckily I don't do much naked galloping through gorse bushes grin.

I am a hair remover. Well when I can be arsed grin

All over hair removal normally for me.

ClockWatchingLady Wed 07-Aug-13 10:45:56

LRDY grin, feral as in "existing in a natural state" (OED). I would like it if they started foraging though.

ClassyAsALannister Wed 07-Aug-13 10:46:06

I'll no doubt hide this thread by wine o'clock... <shudders at the thought of what it'll look like by then>

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Wed 07-Aug-13 10:46:16

I like hairy women but I don't like to be hairy myself. I don't remove my hair because I like the way it feels, I do it because of social convention. I do a lot of things because of social convention. I used to have a mullet and batwing jumpers, then I had a bob and bootleg jeans. I wouldn't expect my DP to grow a beard to show my ds's that hairy faces are normal so I think I'll continue with my shaving too.

LEMisdisappointed Wed 07-Aug-13 10:47:08

at least you will have marked your place though theo wink

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