Posting here or traffic...Aibu to take ds2 back to hospital?

(170 Posts)
Badvoc Sat 08-Jun-13 10:59:01

I know, I know, but I need quick answers and am prepared for some of them to not be very nice...
Ds2 (4) had a choking incident last Saturday at pils.
No one saw it happen, just the aftermath and him being very upset, complaining of feeling sick etc.
On Sunday he was no better, and crying with pain in his throat.
I took him to ooh gp who said it wasn't tonsillitis (I didn't think it was)
By this point he was barely eating or drinking and still complaining of pain and feeling sick.
To gp Monday. Same thing. No tonsillitis. Bring him back on weds if no better.
By weds he had really gone downhill and was still complaining of pain and something being stuck.
He then stared to vomit and couldn't even keep water down.
Gp sent him to a and e where they took bloods and put him on a drip...he was really poorly by this point. Also have him abs as his bloods showed he was fighting an infection? They also did an x ray of his throat and said they were happy with it.
He was kept In overnight. Sadly, his drip came out (don't know how) so fluids and abs stopped.
They discharged him in Thursday afternoon with oral abs and said its probably an infection and will get better and they dont think anything is stuck.
It's now a week since this first started and he is still pretty much unable to eat. He is hungry, but can't seem to swallow easily. I am pushing fluids.
I am very unhappy and worried about him.
He has visibly lost weight.
He is better than he was in that he can now keep food and fluids down, but surely a week is too long to leave a 4 years old like this?
Also in the discharge papers under diagnosis it just had a ?
That's not right, surely?
I want to take him back to a and e but dh is being very difficult and saying the dr know best and we have to wait it out.
How long would you leave your dc like this?
Thanks from reading.

Jestrin Sat 08-Jun-13 11:00:55

If you are unhappy and the situation hasn't changed or has deteriorated then yes go back. I wouldn't leave it.

TheHandbagOfGlory Sat 08-Jun-13 11:02:15

I would take him back.

sagfold Sat 08-Jun-13 11:04:04

Go back to hospital. Usually on discharge they say if any probs come back. This doesn't sound right to me. I would be asking for more investigations. Maybe he needs an endoscopy to look into his oesophagus and see what's going on.

chanie44 Sat 08-Jun-13 11:05:27

Defo take him back. I personally wouldn't care what anyone else says - you are a parent and are worried.

Cloverer Sat 08-Jun-13 11:06:28

Dr can't know best if he hasn't seen your child today. Take him back.

IneedAyoniNickname Sat 08-Jun-13 11:06:35

Id take him back too.

Hope he's ok flowers

Theselittlelightsofmine Sat 08-Jun-13 11:07:57

Yes take him back, you as a parent know your child better than anyone and if you have a gut feeling that he's still not right then take him back.

What was it he choked on?

Bluebell99 Sat 08-Jun-13 11:10:58

Gosh sounds scarey. I would take him back to hospital.

GiddyStars Sat 08-Jun-13 11:11:10

Take him back. So much to be said for a parents instincts when a child is unwell.

PestoSwimissimos Sat 08-Jun-13 11:11:48

Poor you and poor DS. I too would take him back, he doesn't sound right and needs further investigations if he's not getting better.

Good luck

flowers

Badvoc Sat 08-Jun-13 11:12:04

A sandwich.
He is a bit of a gobbler sadly and I do ask that when he eats that he is nit left alone, but obv they ignored that last week.
They feel he also may have scratched his gullet, but how do they know?
The ENT on Thursday morning did mention a barium swallow test but then it seemed to get forgotten.
I am just so tired and worn out with it all.
I get no support from dh. No point asking sad
The hospital is the same one that I had ds1 in and thanks to whose negligence we new,ray lost m.
I think I may have PTSD...I felt physically ill the whole time I was there sad
Feel pathetic.

Theselittlelightsofmine Sat 08-Jun-13 11:15:19

Take him back and insist they do the BS test.

LEMisdisappointed Sat 08-Jun-13 11:18:07

Take him back - get him reassesed. Is A&E the right place to take him though? Would it not save a lot of tooing and froing (never mind waiting!) if you contact the ward he was on? I only say this as i remember having to take DD to hospital as a baby (we are talking a week old though!) that if i was worried (and they honestly wasn't anticipating any problems) to go straight bake there rather than through A&E. I'd give the ward a call if i were you and if you are still worried, then yes, A&E.

Even if they can give you reassurance that its just a time thing and he is ok, its worth the visit i think.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Sat 08-Jun-13 11:19:39

Take him back, he needs to have all physical causes ruled out. Is there any chance it is psychological? He wouldn't be the first child to be left with a fear after such an incident and a psychological cause could lead to him feeling physical symptoms.

TheHandbagOfGlory Sat 08-Jun-13 11:21:20

I wanted to say that a week of painful dysphagia following a choking incident really needs to see a dr, just to reiterate to your DH, my DH is a dr and I would take him back to the hospital in this situation.

Hope he gets sorted soon flowers

LEMisdisappointed Sat 08-Jun-13 11:23:55

I dont think you are being pathetic at all - i would be exactly the same. You are not over reacting - i am sure everything will actually be fine, like you say, he is slowly improving, but you are still worried - i remember seeing a doctor about DD when she was young and had a bad gastro infection. Saw the same doctor three times in one day blush he was great, i obviously apologetic for being neurotic mum and he said not at all - the best indicator of a childs condition is how mum/dad feels they are, if that makes sense.

So whilst the boxes are ticked in terms of recovery, your gut is telling you he needs to be seen again, then get him seen - they really wont mind. The worse that can happen if you are worrying for nothing is the inconvenience to you having to schlep down there again. Id be erring on the side of caution.

Can't understand why you feel you would get nasty replies though - we've all been there, or similar, we know its worrying - i'd be posting here too, for traffic.

digerd Sat 08-Jun-13 12:12:12

What sagfold and Theselittlelightsof mine said in particular, and everybody else said.
You are not overreacting, you are extremely worried.
Hope he improves soon

Buzzardbird Sat 08-Jun-13 12:19:55

Take him back, sometimes things are missed (have several examples of that.
you would never forgive yourself if anything happened so for your own pom take him.
hope he is better soon thanks

Coconutty Sat 08-Jun-13 12:22:05

Take him, better put your mind at rest then worry all weekend.

Svrider Sat 08-Jun-13 12:26:48

Could you phone his ward for advice?

MegaClutterSlut Sat 08-Jun-13 12:34:20

I would take him back especially as he still cannot eat properly and losing wait. Poor thing sad hope he feels better soon op

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 08-Jun-13 18:40:28

Goodness OP
Hope DS okay - let us know if you'd like us to move this to health
Thanks

Badvoc Sat 08-Jun-13 19:24:36

Hi everyone.
Sorry for delay in replying but just back from a and e.
We were there 6 hours.
We were seen straight away as its classed as a possible re admission and the consultant we saw this time was lovely.
When I told the triage nurse the ward had discharged him with a ? She told the charge nurse (who was there in weds when ds was admitted) and he said "it's a disgrace" sad
Anyway, She really listened to me and took in board my concerns.
She asked for an ENT consult and re did his bloods to check the abs are working (they are). Also had new x rays done for ENT consultant.
The ENT was the on call one who covers 4 hospitals but he wanted to see ds and so we had to wait a while but he was lovely smile
Really took his time and put my mind at rest.
He feels that in 2-3 days ds will improve but that if he doesn't I am to take him back. The other consultant also said the same and that she is on shift tomorrow and Monday if I am concerned.
She also apologised that we had had a bad experience.
Anyway, thank you all for your concern and advice.
Lately I feel pretty overwhelmed (my own health issues and those of my parents) and just needed an objective view.
Thanks again x

Cherriesarelovely Sat 08-Jun-13 19:27:58

So glad you feel a bit more at ease with this. Hope yourDs feels alot better soon. Really well done for goingback in.

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