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To find it quite amusing how some people try to make out their average child is a genius?

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MiketheKnight Mon 26-Nov-12 08:40:59

I've known a couple of people like this over the years but at the moment I have one friend in particular who does this loads, and tries to make everyone else convinced he is too.

I met her at a baby group. There are 8 of us all with DCs the same age (3). I have two older children too. She in convinced her DS is more intelligent than the other children in the group. She often does a round-robin type text to us all saying a question or statement her son is meant to have said, usually involving a very complicated word such as preposterous. And if he asks a question when we are at the group, as many of the 3 year olds do, she starts asking us if we heard his question, and saying what a clever question it was, then she answers questions using a very lengthy reply during which time he has generally walked off to play and doesn't listen anyway. Latest thing is her asking on her Facebook status if anyone knows any private tutors that will tutor a 3 year old as he is apparently marvellously curious about maths and science. And I've never known such a fuss over finding a school for a child. She's talked about nothing else for months and apparently it's far more difficult for her than anyone else as they have to be very careful about where they send their child.

I'd say that he is probably quite average, and very similar to the rest of the children in the group, including my DS. His speech just seems normal for a 3 year old, he walked at the same time as the other children, potty trained at a similar time. I never hear any of these wonderful anecdotes of speech that she writes about in texts when we meet up, and his speech whenever I see him is just the same as the other childrens' speech. He talks well, as they all seem to in the group, but certainly not like a child prodigy.

I know we are all proud of her children and think they are geniuses but she really does cross the line between thinking it and making a bit of an idiot of herself.

MiketheKnight Mon 26-Nov-12 09:40:51

It was the tutor thing that made me laugh the most. Who on earth gets a tutor for a 3 year old? I think her rationale behind it is because she wants him to be super-advanced when he starts school...

Arthurfowlersallotment Mon 26-Nov-12 09:43:13

My seven month old blew raspberries for forty minutes on the train yesterday. Only pausing to emit a long squeal at an especially challenging frequency.

Of course, the other passengers were in total awe at her genius.

grin

Mrsjay Mon 26-Nov-12 09:45:09

Of course, the other passengers were in total awe at her genius.

aww obviously a little genuis you have there smile

dinkybinky Mon 26-Nov-12 09:45:47

Only 16% of the population, or about 1 in every 6 has an IQ of 116 or above, therefor most children and adults will be distinctly average

MiketheKnight Mon 26-Nov-12 09:47:16

I do wonder too whether she makes up the things he's supposed to have said, as he never says anything remotely genius-like when in the company of the rest of us.

gazzalw Mon 26-Nov-12 09:47:46

I think it's a very middle-class phenomenon or a sign of gross insecurity or maybe the two go together!

WheelieBinRebel Mon 26-Nov-12 09:48:52

You will always, always come across these types when you have children. I like to think that is just their misguided way of showing their pride and amazement. That said, it can be utterly infuriating and soul-destroying at times.

I'm speaking as one who has one dc who is classed as "advanced" and is set extra work in class to keep her motivated. My other child quite frankly struggles and I know that other parents look down on her as a few have said as much in a "poor you" kind of way and then gone on to boast about their child prodigy!!!

handsandknees Mon 26-Nov-12 09:50:38

I have to admit I did compare dc1 with others too much, and worried unnecessarily when others could do things she couldn't. It was all very silly and luckily I kept it to myself! Dc2 brought me down to earth with a bump as he has some developmental problems.

My mum is the one who boasts about what dc1 can do - it's so embarrassing and also quite thoughtless considering her other grandchild never seems to get a mention. Like Cory said, dd very quickly developed a radar for "granny's showing me off again" moments and refused to perform. I remember being so proud when my mum was trying over and over again to get 12 month old dd to tell everyone what the cow says while dd sat there with a hmm face which just said "you know fine well what the cow says".

Arthurfowlersallotment Mon 26-Nov-12 09:50:45

Absolutely Mrsjay, she devours books, literally.. wink

OP YANBU as I think most of us have encountered parents like this.
Unfortunately their bragging, which can be amusing, can distress some people who worry about their child's development. I think if someone does have a very clever child, that's great, but there's no need to take out a full page in The Times.

Kalisi Mon 26-Nov-12 09:51:26

Jokes aside, some of us do genuinely have gifted children. My son blows me away every single day with his abilities and I feel the need to tell everyone as I am worried that if others do not know how capable he is, they will not react to him in the way that is required.
It is also nothing do do with luck, child prodigys like mine are created by good parenting. You are all just jealous.

Mrsjay Mon 26-Nov-12 09:51:50

Absolutely Mrsjay, she devours books, literally..

just getting a feel (and taste) for them smile

sweetkitty Mon 26-Nov-12 09:51:50

I do have a G&T child DD2, for the most part we play it down as we don't want to be those kind of pushy parents. Plus her sister is only 18months older than her and it is blatantly obvious that DD2 is cleverer than DD1, even DD1 knows it.

We did get a few comments when other parents heard her read when she was 4 and the teacher had said there were parents up demanding to know why their DC couldn't read like that. We just want her to enjoy primary school, not put any pressure on her.

I love these FB videos of young children reading, what's that all about?

Mrsjay Mon 26-Nov-12 09:52:34

It is also nothing do do with luck, child prodigys like mine are created by good parenting. You are all just jealous.

hmm

SlightlySuperiorPeasant Mon 26-Nov-12 09:52:49

I think most people do this to some extent, even if they only think that their child is the cleverest/handsomest/friendliest person to ever grace the planet with their presence. Taking it to the extent your friend has though just smacks of either sheer arrogance or deep insecurity.

DS was teeny tiny when he was born and put on weight very slowly. I used to send weekly updates on his weight gain to a couple of friends, who gently humoured me because they knew how worried I was. I'm blush about it now he's a strapping 2yo!

AndiMac Mon 26-Nov-12 09:53:40

I'm guessing Kalisi is being ironical. I certainly hope so.

Mrsjay Mon 26-Nov-12 09:54:36

I'm guessing Kalisi is being ironical. I certainly hope so.

erm me too thats why I did the face ,

MiketheKnight Mon 26-Nov-12 09:55:25

I too have a gifted and talented DD, but I never mention her abilities to people apart from family members as I have no need to get others' approval and validation, and I think other people are pretty good at sussing out whether a child is intelligent or not. I could if I wanted to be mean, tell the woman I know some of the things DD was doing and saying at her son's age.

If anything I try to play down DD's achievements a little in front of other people, as like someone has pointed out, you never know what concerns others may have about their child's development.

Coralanne Mon 26-Nov-12 09:55:42

My friend has a DS who has always been extremely brilliant. Both academically and all sorts of sport.

He also happens to be extremely popular with everyone.

He is now studying physics and something to do with astronomy. He has also written several textbooks.

Never in all the years I have known them has my friend commented on his abilities.

If any one mentions to her how bright he is she laughs and says "God knows where he got it from, it certainly wasn't me or his Dad"

To top it off he is a very good looking boy.

PropertyNightmare Mon 26-Nov-12 09:57:00

Your shoes I would probably encourage the madness of this woman. It is fun to have something to laugh at and from what you have said she is fair game. She will be told her child is average once he is at school so quick, make the most of the humour at the humour at this woman's expense whilst you still have time.

AndiMac Mon 26-Nov-12 09:58:11

Coralanne, this friend's son sounds like quite a catch! How old is he? wink

noblegiraffe Mon 26-Nov-12 09:59:48

Wait till they get to secondary school and aren't put in the top set for maths. 'But little Einstein was always on the top table for maths in primary, his teacher said he was very good at maths. There must be a mistake, and you're not challenging him enough'
'er, no, he's now a little fish in a very big pond and didn't do well enough to get into the top set. We have a lot of really bright ones. Maybe with hard work he will do well and get himself promoted'

Kalisi Mon 26-Nov-12 10:00:11

Unless you count decorating my front room in his own shit the work of a child Picasso then yes, I would say I was attempting irony fail I blame the lack of appropriate emoticons grin

Coralanne Mon 26-Nov-12 10:00:35

AndiMac he is now 24 (Not a boy I guess). He was bestman at my DD's wedding as he is a good friend of her DH.

He truely is a remarkable person.

Mrsjay Mon 26-Nov-12 10:01:35

Unless you count decorating my front room in his own shit the work of a child Picasso then yes, I would say I was attempting irony fail I blame the lack of appropriate emoticons

ach it was me i didnt 'get it' I am not the brightest bulb my mum never bragged about me grin

shesariver Mon 26-Nov-12 10:02:11

kalisis I take it you are joking? Right...??

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