Yesterday was DS' 16th birthday. He was supposed to be having a party this weekend but his mock results arrived and they were disastrous - after all the nagging and the promises / claims that he was revising SO hard! Party called off, we were supposed take him out for dinner last night. First we went to the sixth form open evening at his school, and seeing that we could agree on one of his A level preferences, I took it as an opportunity for us (him in particular) to get a better feel for it. Without even reading or considering what he was being told, he came out with a "Yep, I definitely want to do it.". We were on the way to the restaurant and trying to discuss it, but he was up in arms and being incredibly rude to the boot. So when he said "we might as well not bother with the meal", I put my foot down that we weren't treating him. He was already being rude when we arrived at the school and it just got worse as we moved on to the A level subject.
Up to that point, he had had presents, treat breakfast, lifts everywhere etc but I will not tolerate being spoken to in the way that he did. I don't get it. As a single parent, I've moved mountains for him, including moving counties in order for him to attend his current school. It's a huge opportunity but he's throwing it all away as he simply cannot be bothered to do any work. And that applies to everything: his room, his clothes, his appearance etc. He's nice as pie if he wants something but otherwise, he's makes it sound as though he's doing us a favour - such as last night. It wasn't about us being nice to him and him being treated when actually, he's not exactly deserving of treats at the moment - far from it! No, it was like he was doing us a favour?!
It's breaking my heart. I always saw us as a close unit and I always envisaged that I would be there to support and guide him. Instead, he doesn't do what is expected of him and he treats me with contempt!
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CostaRicanBananas · 21/01/2015 11:50
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