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Dear MN why do people waste their time on here? Im off, a good New Year to all !

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NotForMe · 30/12/2006 00:06

Dear MN
This site should be good, but it is full of people who should be getting help in RL.
Parents or carers should be spending time playing with their children instead of typing rubbish on here.
And then COD and all that stuff. Oh my.
I was touched when I joined and helped in the Xmas appeal and it was well planned.
The receiver has been having a hard time, I know and i was happy to give to anyone to make their Xmas abit brighter.
But, but what pisses me off when they then post about expensive gifts they brought for their kids, things I couldnt afford to give my kids this year. Whats all that about? Just didnt think did they!
One good thing has come out of it, and that is this experience has taught me a good lesson for the New Year and that is to hold those who are your friends and family in RL close to you and stop mucking around and wasting your time with people here who are trying to be funny, put you down or just offer rubbish advice.
Its all too much for a simple mum like me. I wish you all good luck in the future, but im off.
Only stayed 3 months, so take this as my notice of leaving.
I hope you all have a better and Happier New Year especially to those who truly deserve it like martianbishop.
Kind regards

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ledodgychristmasjumper · 30/12/2006 00:08

Why couldn't you post this under your regular name if you are going anyway?

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:08

I think she doesn't want to offend whoever she sent gifts to.

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:09

although they will probably work it out and be offended anyway.

TinsellyRhino · 30/12/2006 00:09

yeah, why hide??, and what right have you to decide what I am like ???

nutcracker · 30/12/2006 00:11

Hmmmm you'll have every reciever now wondering if it is them you are on about.

I have posted about what gifts my kids got, but most were brought by family.

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:12

So sorry NotForMe. I know what you mean but there really is some good stuff on here too, you know. Have you joined a postnatal thread? - they're full of really genuine people giving mutual help and support. Very sorry to hear about the Xmas appeal thing - that would have pissed me off bigtime. I've spend months ignoring all the chat threads - just started posting recently when I'm feeling flippant but I take it all with a very large pinch of salt. There's definitely a place for letting off steam but it's been going way too far. Please don't leave. There are lots of people like you on here, really. We need to stick together I say. But if you do still go, then Happy New Year to you and your family.

hotmulledwinemama · 30/12/2006 00:12

The reason I'm not playing with my children is because they are asleep.

I for one have found lots of tremendous advice from many mners.

You pick and choose - I'm not in any of the cliques and just dip in.

It's a chatroom - what did you expect - mothers are all different and want different things.

SantasFattymumma · 30/12/2006 00:12

im so sorry you feel like that. I was a very gratefull reciever and i can fully understand your frustration at seeing a post bragging about expensive gifts if you had sent something for the Christmas scheme.

I think some of your post is a little strongly worded in as much as you are acusing regular posters of not caring for their children properly...and as for the rubbish advice, people offer advice - you decide whether it is worth taking or not.

JoolsToo · 30/12/2006 00:13

It's a valid post.

Goodbye, good luck and Happy New Year.

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:14

I think you've all just reinforced the reason why NotForMe is leaving!

ledodgychristmasjumper · 30/12/2006 00:16

How exactly?

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:16

Maybe Jools which is sad, I think we can be quite a scary place and people can be misunderstood very easily, I know I get pissed of with everyone on here every few months but always come back.

Hope you do the same NotForMe.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/12/2006 00:17

I hate to see posts like this.

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:19

I don't think the Christmas swap was solely about the financially wealthy bestowing their trifles on those who couldn't afford anything at all.

You say your receiver has been having a hard time this year - why not send on that basis and not worry about whether they can afford to recarpet their roof with gold leaf or whatever it is you're envious of?

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:19

Because she posted with some valid comments and you immediately rounded on her. That can be pretty off-putting if you're a newcomer believe me.

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:19

ledodgychristmasjumper beacuase we have all, myslef included, jumped on Notforme, although the thread title did invite such a response.

I imagine it must be quite frustrating if you can not give your kids everything they want but give up time and money to buy a gift for a child that you don't know amd then you find out those children got things you couldn't give your kids. A new poster may feel a bit conned and upset as they have not built the rapport with other posters that oldies have done. You could also say however that a gift should be given without conditions.

twinsetandpearls · 30/12/2006 00:20

It is horrible the first time you are lynched by the mob, it has happended to me countless times and on occasions it still upsets me.

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:20

I didn't do any jumping, just replied. Isn't that the point of posting - to get replies?

JoolsToo · 30/12/2006 00:21

That's it exactly tsap

We all feel like it from time to time, and nfm has posted about how she is feeling therefore it's valid.

TinsellyRhino · 30/12/2006 00:22

"This site should be good, but it is full of people who should be getting help in RL."

"Parents or carers should be spending time playing with their children instead of typing rubbish on here"

thats valid and fair is it?

Twinklemegan · 30/12/2006 00:22

Ditto twinsetandpearls!

nutcracker · 30/12/2006 00:22

But notforme can't possibly know the recievers full circumstances.
Like i said further down, I have posted about what stuff my kids had and yep some of them were pricey things but thats because they have generous grandparents and uncles etc.
Other recievers have probably done exactly the same.

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SantasFattymumma · 30/12/2006 00:23

ive not jumped or rounded on anyone!

whensantagotstuckupAITCHimney · 30/12/2006 00:23

goodness, and there was i thinking that NotForMe hadn't been jumped upon at all. am i not reading these threads properly?

hunkermunker · 30/12/2006 00:23

I don't know if there's a great swathe of jumpy lynch-like posts that I can't see though - I don't think the response on this thread has been particularly strong, really.

Mind you...that's me saying that...I'll probably call someone a wanker in a moment.

[loose cannon]

Hunker, you're a wanker.

See, there she goes again.

[sigh]

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