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[arf] at devil's avocado. I shall add that to casting nasturtiums in my "terms to use as often as possible" list.

oh, Kate, I want to lightheartedly reply to tell you to ........<<words deleted by nickelbabe>> for that reply

i won't though.
cos i'm being nice today.

That's brilliant!

With a quick nod to KateS

I once had that very email - I had emailed in all full of ire about a deletion that I thought was unwarranted and questioned if we were being deleted for swearing now.

Hq's reply ran along the lines of "Of course we don't delete simply for swearing, that would be fucking silly"



I was impressed.

That is a very good question, nickel.

yes, it has changed.

it seems to have become a lot more moderated than it used to be.

there are some sensitive souls on here.
why can't MNHQ send the "yes, dear, sometimes adults swear and that's just what you'll have to accept" email in reply to "miss! miss! she's picking on me! Miss! she called me a cunt!" reports like they used to?

I will finally agree it's changed.

But that's the nature of online forums. They aren't static. If they were, they would die.

When it's changed too much, I'll move on. Not any time soon, though.

Or even "one would appreciate you fucking the fuck off"? Let's not be too polite.

One would appreciate you vacating the premises?

Would you mind terribly fucking off (said in Queen-like accent)?

A polite request at that.

Fuck off please?

More of a request?

Any chance you could fuck off?

Could you fuck off?

Oh, no, Amber, you can't say Fuck Off. That is rood. And a command. You have to say "Oh do fuck off" in a friendly non-confrontational helpful way .

So, 'fuck off' is an instruction not an insult, that makes sense to me.

What do you say to that then MNHQ?

<would love them to say fuck off>

Yes you are right about it changing.

I tend to have days when I'm stuck at home and I get drawn into threads. And I find the teenage section very comforting these days. But I really should cut down, it's not helping my blood pressure at all.

There seems to be an undercurrent in so many threads that I simply don't understand. It's a bit like going into school knowing everyone else has been at a party the day before that you weren't at, so you don't know the "rules" and you don't know who has fallen out with, or fallen in love with, who. Very .

Floor was great fun. Like a massive sticky jigsaw.

I know it's an old chestnut, but MN has changed. I thought it was me, and maybe i was getting tired of it, but DD (who lurks a fair bit) said today that it wasn't fun any more. And it's not, it feels like being in the middle of some oh so polite mummy mafia war. It's so subliminally goady and bitchy on here now, nobody's allowed to piss about without some self indulgent twat coming along and whining about it. And the reporting is out of hand.

Cba any more tbh.

<loving the semantics here >

Are we not allowed to say "fuck off" how disappointing.

Yes, 'fuck off' is simply 'go away' but with swearing.

So if swearing is allowed as a rule, we technically should be allowed to tell someone to fuck off.

Wow, a floor, you say?

I haven't mastered painting behind the cupboards yet.

I also think it's an instruction - Oh do fuck off/Oh do go away, same difference, surely? Just as X is a cunt isn't a personal attack, it's a descriptive statement.

I got deleted the other day for saying 'you can fuck off with your [insert patronising comment]

I wasn't even telling the poster to fuck off as such.

I also thought that fuck off was allowed? its not a personal attack as such, its more of an instruction.

Hark at you! Decorating and doing it without running to MN. I am impressed.