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me and alcohol have ruined my family

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jesuswhatnext Mon 31-May-10 12:32:34

title says it all really - i really cocked up last night, dh walked out, i cant remember what i said to him sad

today i have actually been in touch with AA but i think its all too late, my dd hates me, as does my parents, yes im feeling sorry for myself right now but i also know i have to change and stop drinking but dont know how.

what can i do to put things right? help me!

MoominMags Thu 15-Jul-10 09:00:39

Morning all! Thank you as ever MIFLAW for your words of wisdom - relevant yet hilarious as usual!

wasindie - argh, so excited for you and your dp today! Not sure that you will see this but am sending warm wishes and good thoughts to you both for today. Looking forward to hearing your news. And thanks loads for your lovely words to everyone! I feel the same way about this thread and the people on it. (Getting slushy here too!)

Anyway, day 22 - let's hear how everyone else is doing. We're in this together now x

teasle Thu 15-Jul-10 09:07:33

Hi everyone, I'm in recovery, but don't post much under this name anymore.

Have loved reading this thread.

Pmsl at AA being like a cult- the ones who say that are either people who have never been, or those still not facing up to their problems. AA isn't perfect, and it isn't for everyone, but active alcoholics will blame anyone or anything other than themselves to avoid looking at their drinking...I did that.

Will now read rest of this thread smile.

It's good to see the support here.

venusandmars Thu 15-Jul-10 09:09:45

OOh Wasindie, thinking of you today. And isn't it wonderful that you are facing the day with a clear head.

We went out for dinner yesterday evening with dd2. It was fine weather when we went so I didn't even have a coat with me, but by the time we left the restaurant it was absoloutely pouring. We walked home in the rain and arrived back soaked to the skin and giggling. It was so good to be sober. I can't believe how much I really enjoyed myself. I am very pleased about that because on Friday we are going out to a wonderful restuarant for lunch. I know we are not supposed to project but I was a little anxious about how much I would enjoy it if I was sitting with a glass of water, but now I feel OK about it and i am just looking forward to the lovely food and to the excellent company of dp and SIL.

And the other great news is that dd1's boyfriend has got a job, a proper one. He graduated last year and has only had part-time shop work. It is so nice to share their good news and to FEEL so much, without it being through the filter of a bottle of wine.

Have a good day everyone, and especially indie and dp.

MoominMags Thu 15-Jul-10 09:29:23

Hi guys, the new thread is called 'Old Bags No More - The Brave Babes & the Battle with the Booze'. I have NO idea how to do a link so I am hoping that you will find it! (I will try to get advice on how to do a link but you should be able to track it down quite quickly!)

MoominMags Thu 15-Jul-10 09:40:46

OK, have taken some advice and also read the help from MN! So here goes! New thread here

venusandmars Thu 15-Jul-10 10:45:22

Thanks moomin, see you all over on the new thread.

jesuswhatnext Thu 15-Jul-10 11:01:31

my last post on this thread! - wow! the last few weeks have been incredible - i ahve gone from to dispair to hope.

in a way i shall be glad to leave the old thread title behind - i was in such a bad state when i typed that it almost feels as if i was sleep-walking, i feel strangly detached from that person - im liking this one much more!

i would like to say a huge thank you to everyone who has posted and supported me/us on here - you have been fantastic!!!

see you all on the new thread!!

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MoominMags Thu 15-Jul-10 11:26:10

Sorry to get this thread going again but I realised I had not said hello to teasle! teasle if you are there, hello! Please do come and post on the new thread - I have also said hello to you over there.

venusandmars Sat 17-Jul-10 17:17:44

Bumping this because we haven't seen curryeater on the new thread.

Come and talk to us, however you are doing.

Monty100 Sat 17-Jul-10 23:50:04

For Curry

Another fan here that reads every day, and what a pleasure it is. Brilliant thread.

smile

rumred Mon 07-Mar-11 10:08:52

morning everyone

been looking for advice/support arond giving up alcohol, and this thread looks good, some posters have similar stories to mine. i have drank since early teens and function very well. but it's a constant source of anxiety and my partner is unhappy with it. and i want to stop, just havent managed it, yet. it's a war.

i come from a heavy drinking but functioning [mostly) family. and drink is everywhere in our society, isnt it? ive been reading allan carr's book as his smoking one helped me stop smoking [after 30 years]. also beauchamp colclough's, both of which i find useful but probably now need some human interaction. so here i am.

PeterAndreForPM Mon 07-Mar-11 12:01:03

hi love, this is an out of date thread

you need to join the current "Brave Babes" one in the Relationships topic

Introuble2 Mon 19-Nov-12 12:15:19

Marking spot - same wine problem here

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Mon 19-Nov-12 18:43:54

Try this thread Introuble2 - they're lovely smile

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:07:33

Ooops, we didn't fill this thread. Well done Sunny for spotting that one.

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:07:58

Filling

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:08:22

up

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:08:41

thread

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:09:00

now

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:10:00

Come join us on the new one

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:10:57

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Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:17:28

the link is just above ^^

Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:18:21

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Fairenuff Mon 19-Nov-12 21:18:51

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