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social services took my beautiful children

473 replies

user1491683745 · 08/04/2017 21:41

it really is not fair to do it to someone who absolutely loves and adores them they really need me and are probably so unhappy i am so done with life and really really want them with me

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Underthemoonlight · 08/04/2017 21:42

I think you need to expand further op why did ss take your DC?

Floggingmolly · 08/04/2017 21:43

Why were they removed from your care?

BIWI · 08/04/2017 21:44

They wouldn't have taken them for no reason. What happened?

Snap8TheCat · 08/04/2017 21:45

Love isn't enough. There must have been reasons why.

Believeitornot · 08/04/2017 21:46

What were their reasons for taking them?

TheoriginalLEM · 08/04/2017 21:49

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Have you got legal representation? Have they told you why? What you need to do to get them back? have you been told when you can see them?

feathermucker · 08/04/2017 21:49

Can you give us some more details?

HallowedMimic · 08/04/2017 21:50

Why did they take them?

Did you have any warning?

Jemimapiddleduck · 08/04/2017 21:50

This decision isn't normally made lightly - and I agree with the above poster that love isn't enough. It's the minimum actually

Wolfiefan · 08/04/2017 21:50

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's not about whether it's fair on you though. They must have had serious concerns for your children. What advice have you been given?

Floggingmolly · 08/04/2017 21:50

Well, from course she'll have been told why...

Graceflorrick · 08/04/2017 21:54

Removing a child from their family only happens if there's no other option. If a child can be safely kept within the family, they will be. Why aren't your DC safe in your care OP?

Beachhairdontcare · 08/04/2017 21:54

If your children need you then you can't be done with life. It's impossible to give you any advice when we don't know the circumstances, but regardless it must be truly awful for everyone involved.

NotStoppedAllDay · 08/04/2017 21:55

Is it permanent?

treaclesoda · 08/04/2017 21:55

I'm sorry that you are hurting, it must be terrible. But this hasn't come from out of nowhere, and as other posters have said, love is not enough.

RJnomore1 · 08/04/2017 21:56

What have they said you need to change if they are to come back?

What support are you getting or do you need to make those changes?

TyneTeas · 08/04/2017 21:57

When did they leave?

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/04/2017 21:59

I cant imagine how much you must be hurting. But I am sure you know that there would have been good reasons behind their removal.

Are you prepared to make the changes necessary to get them back? SS will want them to be back with you as much as you do, if you work with them then you can get them back.

Its all in your hands now.

Bluntness100 · 08/04/2017 22:01

Op, you need to say some more. Why did they take them? What are the conditions?

Mrsknackered · 08/04/2017 22:01

No one here can really offer you advice or support until we get a better picture of what has happened.
I am sorry you are hurting, let's see what help we can get you but like previous posters have said that is a drastic move from social services, they're must be a strong reason for it.

HecateAntaia · 08/04/2017 22:02

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gandalf456 · 08/04/2017 22:04

I'm so sorry. Is it forever or is there a chance you could get them back?

highinthesky · 08/04/2017 22:04

This must be agony for you OP. I hope you get the RL support you need.

CaliforniaHorcrux · 08/04/2017 22:05

That's really horrible for you but don't be done with your life

MiscellaneousAssortment · 08/04/2017 22:05

I'm sorry, the pain must be unbearable.

This can't have been unexpected though, except in very unusual circumstances.

Usually it's because the parent hasn't done what needed to be done to keep their children safe.

Or that the parents have ignored the SS process, and just withdrawn from it instead of dealing with it head on. If you are being investigated by SS it's absolutely essential to engage with their process and keep on top of exactly what's happening and how each step needs to be handled. It's a juggernaut set into motion and you cannot stop it except by following the process and doing everything you need to do.

Do you think there's an opportunity to get your children back? If so you need urgent specialist legal advice and really listen to find out the basic truths of the situations you're in, not any platitudes or false hope, rumors or non-expert opinion. You need the absolute unvarnished truth to know what you are dealing with and what you need to do next.

I'm sorry, you must be so distressed.