Hi there,
I've NC'd for this, for obv. reasons.
I know a lot of people will say 'you're married, you should share everything' but I'm just not comfortable with that.
I earn more than DH (£90K vs. £40K). I have more savings that DH (£80K vs. £2K).
Our bank accounts are separate.
Each month we pay our monthly budget 50/50 into my account, this is where all the standing orders/direct debits etc. come from.
Each week I pay him an agreed weekly budget (same weekly budget as I have).
The background is that when we met he had LOADS of debt, including payday loans, and regularly received letters threatening to take him to court. So when we moved in together and later got married I needed to take a protective stance by managing our joint incomes. He tells me that he's happy with the situation and feels more in control of his finances than ever before.
Until 2013 I used to pay 2/3 to his 1/3 for our rent and bills - this was reflective of our salary difference at the time. Then I lost my job and had no income at all for six months, which is when we started splitting 50/50.
Even just writing this, I am aware we should go back to a proportional split for rent and bills - that'd be fairer.
However - I'd love to know how you guys manage when one of you earns more than the other (and has more savings), especially if one of you is pretty bad with money.
Thanks!
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Difference in income, financially reckless DH
NewUsernameForTheDay · 19/08/2016 13:36
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