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I'm so angry right now...

(88 Posts)
Longdistance Wed 03-Aug-16 22:24:44

So, no dd's, they've been palmed off this week to mil and step fil, oop Norf.9

We decide to have a date night, Dh and I. Great...

...well, no not really. All good so far, a few drinks and then on to a posh restaurant.

We had a starter which we shared, then mains, and then waited to see if we wanted pud.

We did, and had some cheese and crackers (not keen on puds anyway).

So, pud was all eaten, when twat Dh decided to pull a light fitting down from over our table...

.., The next bit involves me picking glass out of my hand, and getting First Aid, just because h wanted to pull down the lampshade 🙄

How would everyone feel about this
Twattery?

I'm so angry right now, I'm in the spare bedroom with a throbbing hand...

Aworldofmyown Wed 03-Aug-16 22:26:23

Did he really like the lampshade?

Dutchcourage Wed 03-Aug-16 22:27:29

grin sorry!

Yep he is a twat. I bet the restaurant owners think he is a twat. I bet the other diners think he is a twat.

But one day you will laugh at this!

Larrytheleprechaun Wed 03-Aug-16 22:27:31

WHY did he want to pull down the lampshade?????

gamerchick Wed 03-Aug-16 22:27:37

Why did he pull down the lampshade?confused

SandyY2K Wed 03-Aug-16 22:27:58

Surely it was an accident?

Stressedout1980 Wed 03-Aug-16 22:28:52

In the restaurant? Was he drunk? How did he think that was appropriate even if he hadn't hurt you in the process?

LewisAndClark Wed 03-Aug-16 22:29:12

Why did he do that?

NickiFury Wed 03-Aug-16 22:30:41

I'm not seeing the issue here or the need to describe your date night in such detail, how is your preference for cheese and biscuits relevant? Are you pissed?

maldini Wed 03-Aug-16 22:31:02

Was it one of those ones that move around like a desk lamp kind of? If so yabu, if not yanbu!

Floggingmolly Wed 03-Aug-16 22:31:06

One day you will laugh at this??? Don't be bloody ridiculous, Dutch hmm
Was he drunk, op?

Longdistance Wed 03-Aug-16 22:32:07

I have no idea why idiot wanted to pull the lampshade down. I'm baffled.

The bit I didn't like was picking the bit of glass out of my hand.

Just why the fuck do it?

They offered me a free glass of wine.

It was twats fault for pulling it.

I'm so fucking cross angry

Oddsocksgalore Wed 03-Aug-16 22:33:44

Wtf flog, course they will laugh.

Oddsocksgalore Wed 03-Aug-16 22:34:38

Calm down op, it sounds like an accident.

Floggingmolly Wed 03-Aug-16 22:35:31

I wouldn't laugh at my DH acting like a dick in public; either at the time or later. If you would, go right ahead hmm

wonderingsoul Wed 03-Aug-16 22:35:41

Why are you cross.. it was a stupid thing to do yes.. but weve all done stupid things by accident.

Was he apolgetic and alarmed you hurt your self? If so i think you need to get over it and not let it ruin your night.

dudsville Wed 03-Aug-16 22:36:11

I don't understand why you're cross. You feel what you feel but it's not a clear link for me. Sounds like you were having some sort of evening, you describe drinks and foods but not fun or love or romance. Then your oh does something seemingly inexplicably that led to a physical would for you. Do you go straight to anger when you're frightened or embarrassed perhaps?

NerrSnerr Wed 03-Aug-16 22:36:17

I assume you both got ratted and it was a. Drunken accident. It's lucky you got free wine and he didn't have to pay for a new lampshade.

bakeoffcake Wed 03-Aug-16 22:38:27

Did he apologise profusely and offer to do anything for you for the rest of his life?

If not, LTB.

fedupofficeworker Wed 03-Aug-16 22:38:32

It sounds like a tipsy error of judgment.

I'd be cross, tell DP he was a bloody idiot, but by now I'd be laughing about it, inwardly at least. Don't let it spoil your evening!

Longdistance Wed 03-Aug-16 22:38:46

The cut on my hand.
Just from pure stupidity.
I'm embarrassed too as it was a very naice restaurant
This was supposed to be a much needed date night as we take dd's everywhere.

As for the menu choices I was setting a scene for everyone before I got flamed for any drip feeding of details.

happypoobum Wed 03-Aug-16 22:41:16

What a bizarre thing for him to have done!

I hope it heals quickly OP. flowers

Floggingmolly Wed 03-Aug-16 22:41:45

Why was he swinging out of the bloody lampshade in the first place?! shouldn't he have saved that for when you got home?

maldini Wed 03-Aug-16 22:42:20

Was it just a normal lampshade? That doesn't really look like too much of an injury (sorry!) maybe just chalk it up to over excitement and get on with it

wonderingsoul Wed 03-Aug-16 22:42:55

Op dont let it ruin your night.

Im sure he was just if not more embarrssed.

As for you... your not going to see them again so fuck what others thought.

If i was you id go hug dh tell him he was a plank and he owes you another date night of your choice. Then finish the night on a good note.. not on here moaning about it.

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