Dh and I have been married for a little over a year, I love him dearly and we have two dc.
So this year a few things have happened and I've been a bit emotional over them, firstly he forgot our wedding anniversary, now I wouldn't of minded but it was our first so I kind of expected him to remember but that's fine. I laughed it off and carried on.
Then a few weeks ago dh came home from work a bit earlier than usual and obviously I was very happy, we bathed the kids, got them to bed and then I got in my pjs and snuggled in bed and assumed he was coming to bed too (we sometimes go to bed early 8pmish and have a cuddle, talk about our day catch up on news in bed) but he came in and said "I have something to tell you" and it turned out he had Rranged to go out with his work colleague at our neighboring city and he might not be back until late.
I was upset but didn't say anything as he had left, if I had know sooner I would of asked my parents to watch the kids but he told me at 8pm I couldn't get a sitter. I did ask if anyone else's wives and husbands were going and he said yes but since I was ready for bed he didn't think I'd want to go. He went and I read a book in bed but I was upset and did have a cry to myself.
I explained the next day that I was a upset he hadn't invited me and he said because I don't drink that I wouldn't of had fun, but I eat I enjoy the company of his colleague especially a Spanish woman who I get along with like a house on fire.
He said sorry and we didn't mention it again but then a few days ago he told me he was going away for a few days with his friends and going to a party. Now I can get a sitter for these days. He is going to a conference for a hobby he loves and whilst I don't want to go to the convention I would love the few days to unwind, read some books, go for coffee all alone and have some real me time.
Although I don't drink I would of liked to be invited to the party but I wasn't invited so that's fine. I was however upset he was against the idea of me coming along because he said he wouldn't have fun with his friends because he would be worried about me being all alone and therefore I couldn't have fun .
After everything I said I'd be fine and would like the time away and I'm coming since I paid for the hotel with him.
Aibu? A bit precious?
I try my hardest to be diplomatic and I don't begrudge him going out with his friends etc but I want time away too and there's no reason I can't go and stay in the hotel with my husband. He can do his thing I'll do mine.
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Is my dh being a bit.... Well... Mean?
Esmeismyhero · 03/08/2015 20:01
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