I'm sorry or actually not. But I just rang his wife and told her that he is a cheating lying bastard

[IHaveToldYou]

Sorry for the NC but I needed to get it out of my system. I have called my ExP's partner and told her that he is a liar and a cheater and was sleeping with the two of us at the same time while making up stories. I do feel very happy with myself. He is a bastard and can't treat women as some sort of convenience to pick and drop at his leisure.

[Ouchbloodyouch]

I did the same and I wasn't sorry either. It made me feel better.

[winkywinkola]

So what did she say?

I would love to tell the h of my ow what she'd been getting up to but I can't get any information on her.

[pocketsaviour]

What did she reply? Do you think she believed you?

[YesThisIsMe]

What did she say?

But yes, I think you probably did the right thing.

[Ouchbloodyouch]

My exs ow stuck with him. It all ended badly. I met someone lovelier than him and life is good. Yours will be too. He actually told me off for 'upsetting' her.

[ALaughAMinute]

Good for you. Maybe you told her something she needed to hear. There's no point in deluding yourself is there?

[ALaughAMinute]

Oops, bad grammar but I'm sure you know what I mean.

[DirtyDancing]

Wonderful that it's made YOU feel better, but what about that women. Some people will say she is better off knowing, has a right to know. But do you know this women? Is this how it's best for her to hear this news. Does she have kids. Depression/ mental health issues, family/ friends to support her for example.

I just hope you thought it through in how she received this news.

[Littlemonstersrule]

Wow, glad it's made you feel better but he was your ex so you shouldn't have been sleeping with him in the first place. Why ruin her life, you cheated with him whilst she was the innocent party. Poor woman.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I get why you've done it. You've been hurt I bet you wish you were a fly on the wall when she confronts him and the shit hits the fan. Or wish you had been there if the confrontation has already occurred.
However is there a chance that she may not believe you though. She may think you're only saying it out of spite, which no one would blame you.

[pocketsaviour]

Littlemonsters I think the OP meant that he was already carrying on with the OW and claiming to be single while he was still married to and living with OP.

[YesThisIsMe]

That's a bit harsh littlemonsters. You have no idea what lies he told to either woman.

[IHaveToldYou]

Sorry for this misunderstanding. FWIW he was my partner and was cheating with her. So all I did was inform her that in the time she has been with him he has also been with me. I've LTB but I want her to make her own choices.

She asked me many questions - not least to prove that I knew what I was talking about and whom we were talking about. But I answered her very honestly. He has jeopardised the two of us and I think she deserved to know.

[Justusemyname]

Your title does not match your latest post.

You rang his wife yet you say he lived with you and she was his bit on the side?

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I think the thing her that yes op is bitter and jealous she might not admit it to us but she is and imo with full entitlement to be.
She's hardly going to be wishing the OW well is she and why should she. She owes her nothing but ond that I do have to say is . I really hope OP and all on the thread are in agreement that it's not just OW who is in the wrong, here she didn't shAg her self. I think her dp played apart too.

[IHaveToldYou]

Sorry MyName, Wife means his DP. Not his wife. That's my error.

[Justusemyname]

Would someone really call their partner's OW a DP?

[IHaveToldYou]

Lighthouseghost, I know that he is entirely in the wrong which is why I rang. I don't hate her, she has done nothing wrong - she had no idea. But I wanted to inform her that she needs to re-evaluate her life. If she stays with him then so be it! But at least she was in the know.
Maybe I am selfish but I care not one jot about that! I would want to know and therefore informed her.

[Lavenderice]

I think you've been very selfish. You don't know this woman, you have no idea how she would take the news and you don't care because you feel better.

[IHaveToldYou]

MyName ...? I've called her OW, DP and ExP. I Can't get my head around your obsession with semantics but carry on

[Justusemyname]

Typing what you did made it not make sense, rather than call troll I was trying to understand who was who. That's all.

[IHaveToldYou]

I can see that MyName sorry for misunderstanding.

I want this bastard to burn. But I did think that I was doing some sort of service to womenkind. I would like to know if I was in her position. So I based my decision on my ideals.
Having said that, if she chooses to ignore, then it's not my business. I've already done what I could.

[IHaveToldYou]

Iwashappy I'm happy because I've gotten it off my chest. This is a man who walks around like he owns the world and is highly manipulative.

Of course I care about the fallout she may feel but she needed to know. I'm happy with myself because I know that he will continue to be abusive and lie but at least I saved one woman from the heartache I went through.