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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - The Wheels On This Bus Go Around And Around, In Search Of Sobriety.

999 replies

Mouseface · 12/02/2015 09:52

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

This is the brave babes bus, Gerald. He travels far and wide, to wherever he's needed to offer non judgemental support, advice and Opal Fruits!!

We can tell you about the kind of places that can help, your GP can be the first and easiest place to start, or you can look up you local community addiction centre, or even just come onto the thread and let it all out.

There are posters here who have been on the Bus from the start and those who have just joined us Smile

It doesn't matter how long you've been here, the fact that you have taken that first amazing step in acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, things aren't quite right with your drinking is truly MASSIVE!!

This is a safe place for you to just be and to be as honest as you like, or just to talk.

We'll listen Smile

And if you'd like to see our last thread, you can JUST HERE

Plus if you'd like to see where these threads all began, you can read all about that YOU CAN READ THIS VERY EMOTIONAL AND MOVING THREAD

See you soon,

Mouse xxx Smile

OP posts:
SweetLathyrus · 12/02/2015 10:10

Did I get here first?

Right, back to the old thread!

spanna41 · 12/02/2015 10:11

Me first Hmm am I, am I, very excited if I am Grin reserving a back seat and leaving a bag of opal fruits on the dash board all the green ones for me x

spanna41 · 12/02/2015 10:12

Bugger Sweet you beat me Sad took too long to post Grin

Khalisi · 12/02/2015 10:45

Hei! hei!
Marking my place!!!
Thank you, Mouse Flowers

SmallFox · 12/02/2015 10:51

Boing! Bouncing on to the new thread too, and marking my place. Now back to the old one to do some more random withering to fill it up so we can all come back and inhabit this lovely shiny new bus. Thanks, Mouse!

Rubyredlips · 12/02/2015 13:16

I'm here. Thanks Mouse

GetSober · 12/02/2015 13:24
GetSober · 13/02/2015 22:19

Right, the question is...

I wanted to get DH a bit of a special Valentine's card this year. We aren't usually massively bothered about Valentine's, but this year I'd like to say a special thankyou to him for keeping faith with me and being generally wonderful.

I have bought one that says "out of all the things in the world that I am uncertain about - and honestly, that's most things, most of the time - the thing I'm most certain of, is you".

Too much?

dementedma · 13/02/2015 22:49

Thats nice sober

Khalisi · 14/02/2015 07:49

Good morning, my darling Babes.

Very nice, Sober. I became teary at that.

I'm off to do grocery shopping. I'm so happy that I have the neighbours coming over tonight. At least something to look forward to.

Still raw. I always thought the whole 'love at first sight' thing is rubbish. It is only the second time in my life I've lost my heart. I hate having no control over my feelings. Really didn't see this one coming. Even though I knew within minutes that something had happened the first time I saw him.

The gods must have a wicked sense of humour, hey?!
I feel like I just stood up after jumping out of the way of a train (ex-WB) just to be hit by a low flying aeroplane.

Ok. I should get going and cheer up. This poor me show has to stop.

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2015 08:59

Morning All.

Ruby Grin I'd love to be that wafty, glamorous gardener, unfortunately the truth is I am a messy, dirt under the finger nails gal!
With DH's PJ comment, Ruby, it's hard to know, do you think you might have been projecting a bit because you had actually taken some time for you? I get like that some times, I think people are criticising when really it's my own guilt at putting me first once in a while.

Khalisi {{hugs}} you are brilliant and so strong. You've done the right thing - but oh, bugger at having to find another reliable specialist builder.

Ma, I feel for you.

Sober, what was the question? D'argh!! What if we never find out?

Faire you must fee great at the moment, good going, enjoy half term.



Must go, Puss is being extremely naughty this morning, knocking everything off the mantlepiece and trying to steal DSs headphones. Have a good Saturday everyone.

dementedma · 14/02/2015 09:00

Hey khalisi I didn't believe in it either until it happened. I really can sympathise. H has come in from night shift. He got into bed, I got out of it. Never a word spoken. Happy Valentines day. Meh....why pretend?
A very dreich day here in Scotland. Off to do the recycling, shopping, see to dad.....
Hope those of you in love have a good day, and those of you needing loved have a better one.

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2015 09:01

Oops, Sorry, Sober I didn't refresh my browser.

The card spoke to you when you saw it. I'd say it's right. x

Rubyredlips · 14/02/2015 10:29

Morning all

I drank a bottle of wine last night between 4.30 and 10.30, had loads to eat, felt fine. Walked 3 miles home from friends house, went to bed. Woke up at 4am and threw up 3 times. What a lovely specimen I am

babyjane1 · 14/02/2015 10:44

Hi babes, god I've missed you all!!!

Dont know quite what happened but after a mostly dry December, dry January and feeling so positive about living life sober, last Friday I started drinking, slept the entire weekend (between stashes) and was hit with all the vile wrath my depression and anxiety can project on to my heart, body and soul. I feel like I will never get away, be free, hell just be friggin NORMAL.

Anyway back on the bus, back shame faced and apologising and off we go again.

I'm so glad I found the guts to post, just seeing all your names still there, still surviving this crazy life has soothed me immeasurably, big lovely heartfelt hugs xxxx

dementedma · 14/02/2015 10:53

ruby drink lots of water and look after yourself today.
baby so glad to see you. It is a vicious cycle isnt it, which hooks you back in time and time again. I wish I had the answers to all the problems of the wonderful babes on here......
Coorie in, sweetie, and maybe wry will appear with some t'interbosies for us all.
I have just bought myself some daffodils in a small gesture of defiance to the world.

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2015 11:03

Baby, Ruby it is all too easy to fall back, that's why for me, moderation isn't an option. The alcohol quiets the anxiety for a while, but then it just builds up and bites you harder in the ass. Have a plan for today. Stay on board and look after yourselves.

Ma, a little bit of sunshine eh?

spanna41 · 14/02/2015 11:04

Ruby I stayed in and drank fizz with a friend 2 bottles of Prosecco and started on bottle of Cava I went from 0 to 60 on head spins and ended up in bed with a sick bucket beside me, honestly how old am I??? not 20, fucking 47 FFS What a fine specimen I am too Blush Blush Day flipping 1 again. I could feel the craving by midday yesterday and just needed the excuse to buy booze and get it down my throat as quickly as possible Blush my excuse was that my friend was upset and I needed to comfort her - not good, no sirree, not good at all. I need to fix up and look at my behaviour, at the time when I'm flying high it's fabulous and then I wake up with that crashing feeling as well as the thumping headache it's pathetic Angry

Baby so glad to see you back Flowers sending you lots of love xxx

Feeling fucking crap. I won't be drinking today I feel so shit I wouldn't be able to anyway

Have a good Saturday y'all Smile

spanna41 · 14/02/2015 11:07

Sorry Babes mouth like a sewer today too much swearing Blush

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2015 11:10

Spanna, that feeling is there to keep you on the straight and narrow today. Do you really want to give WW your whole weekend? Hope it doesn't ruin your whole day?

There is a bit of a day after end of term blow out feel about the bus this morning.

lookingforhope · 14/02/2015 11:13

Morning all. Grabbing a sidecar seat in the new thread. Baby, good to see you. I also am in a rather lapsed state after Dry January, am a bit alarmed at how quickly I can slide after a period of abstinence. Nothing to report here, work and home still hard, and feeling fat and unfit. I feel once there is a resolution one way or another with work and I can begin to plan / act it may be better, but for now I am in a nasty limbo situation (that is not a 50 Shades reference btw, am celibate as a nun!)

Ruby ... Hope you feel better soon. Hugs to Ma and khalisi and anyone else who needs one. Putting loads of chocolate hearts and jellybeans at the front of the bus, and alcohol free pink cava. Whether your OH spoils you today or not, you are all loved on this bus so happy Valentines Day from Gerald Flowers

lookingforhope · 14/02/2015 11:16

Ooh, Spanna, missed you there. Look after yourself lovely. I think you are fabulous so don't give in to the self hate monster (tucks packet of opal fruits by Spanna's pillow for when she feels better)

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aliasjoey · 14/02/2015 11:32

Morning Bates

khalisi it will get better, honestly. Try not to think about 'star-crossed lovers' etc because it really wasn't. You never got the chance to know the real him, you didn't see the downside of the boring day-to-day stuff - whose turn is it to put the bins out, and him picking his toenails in bed. Stay brave.

Good to see you babyj and big bosies, I know how the guilt and shame makes you forget about the good days, but there were AF times and they can't be undone!

Rubyredlips · 14/02/2015 11:43

Sad that's me feeling sorry for myself

SweetLathyrus · 14/02/2015 12:04

Did some one say jelly beans?

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