The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Getting Ready For The Golden Sights Of Autumn In Search Of Sobriety.

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :) and this is the Bus I've been on a while now!

It's filled with a variety of drinkers. Those that do, those that don't, and those who are desperate to STOP but hide it, or embrace it and get the help they NEED.

'Help' in whatever form works for them, your friend or you. Be it AA, a Local Community Alcohol Counselling Group, your GP, your family/friends, this thread or even a combination of all of the above!

You have to want to stop drinking more than wanting to breathe.

I know that right now, that may sound like a ridiculous goal.

They got sober, One Day At A Time then came here during the process to chat about it, discuss their feelings, but more than anything else, their experiences HELPED OTHERS TO BELIEVE that they too could get dry.

They might not get dry and stay dry, sometimes they'll be lying about their consumption, fooling themselves as well as others

BUT when the posters do get dry for good, come back and post to help others with their tricks of the trade or just to say 'I did it!!' my heart jumps for joy because that person, poster, Brave Babe has gone through hell and back, lived to tell the tale and now wants to share that with the rest of the Bus to see if one simple trick or technique will put them on the track to recovery, sobriety, to the life that they want to lead :)

There's two saying that have appeared to stick with us -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

We all have our own reasons for starting to drink 'too much', we all have an excuse don't we.... we all have a "but....."

Well, as I say to Nemo (who you will get to hear about ) - goats butt!

And for those of you who want to know a bit more -

HERE IS THE MOST RECENT THREAD

AND THIS IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN, OVER FOUR YEARS AGO!!!

See you soon x

Mornin'

Hot beverage anyone?

Morning Boing!

Morning Brave Babes!

Day 3 complete for me (but I have to confess that it wasn't through choice). I did go to get a drink but we had no mixer. Luckily, I'm very lazy so couldn't be arsed going to the shop

Day 4 ahead...

morning all, day 13 in the eccles house off to work in a mo but couldn't resist checking in. pizza well done, now don't slip today by buying mixer

Nice one pizza. Bloody hell, the lack of a mixer wouldn't stop me if I was on the warpath - the things I've mixed with booze so there must have been willpower involved, well done!

I'm on Day 4 too. DH is away tonight, but I plan to have nice comfort foody dinner and watch something on TV he doesn't like. I've got some Catfish recorded (the one thing DH refuses to watch with me!)

We are visiting his parents tomorrow, to tell them about our miscarriages. They have no idea we've been TTC for 19 months - or rather, I'm sure they've wondered and are confused about what's going on.

It will be a huge weight off my mind, and DH's, for them to be in the know. I've been feeling like I'm living a bit of a lie for the last year or so, not being able to say why I've made the choices I have - like not continuing with my self-employed business. A couple of weeks ago my BIL gave me a bit of a pep talk about my work options, and I just wanted to say 'I CAN'T. I have no idea what my life will be like in a year's time.'

So yeah, hoping it's good. Anyway, I'm aware I've been filling up rather a lot of the thread lately, so will sign off

you probably won't remember cos it was ages ago, but we had a really nice chat when I was on here as Spinach, re 'deserving' children. It helped a lot

Aww spinach thank you- I was thinking that I liked the cut of your gib. Yes we did similiar when we started ivf treatment and it really,really mattered to me that family knew what was happening. Opened the doors a bit. Good luck.

Well done on resisting the ww all. I've had a couple of bad evenings where cravings sprang out of nowhere and all kinds of stupid ideas about just having one drink popped into my mind. Main reason? Bloody hormones! Why? Why? Why? I'm alright today,not bovvered at all. Day 1-2 of period- might kill for a glass of red,rest of the month= bumbles along quite happily sober.

Next life time I am coming back as a man. sigh.

Anyhow- I sure that I'm preaching to the perverted but does anyone follow the excellent blogs from the ladies on the Dry thread? if not,try them- have a look over there for proper linky things but I'm getting a lot of strength form the regular liittle updates about alcohol and health etc. Seems to be more evidence that even moderate drinking isn't great for our health.

(posting without specs. I can see that I've made sp mistakes but can't quite make out what the little blurry things might be)

Hi StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Well done for getting to day 13 - yay for you!

Big hugs PhraseAndFable - hope tomorrow goes as well as it can do x

DH is working late tonight and I need to go to the shops on the way home. MUST RESIST MIXER! Might buy a pizza instead and try some other distraction techniques while DH is out

Hi Guggenheim Thanks for the advise about the other thread I'll have a gander. I'm really bad and don't care about the health effects, even though I should be - I saw it kill my Mum but even that wasn't enough to prompt me to cut down. I need to do it for my DD rather than myself...

*advice

phrase !! I was in the middle of a technical tutorial for beaches....... and then all of a sudden the thread was full - you little minx

beaches - I hope you found your way over here safely.

Thanks Venus for helping me do the link thing on the old thread (my impatient self had gone and pestered dh also) I am a very happy, link able poster now! Polishes nails on shoulder. Phrase I think you were showing off your already refined skills

Have a good day babes, will catch up properly later Xx

Found you all. No time to linger. Dog is giving me the 'look' (walk me please, please, please...)

Massively, beaches wifi was running slow so didn't get 'em all in a line though!

Apologies venus

Is it normal to feel so shitty when drying out? Feel really nauseous and keep being sick? {feeling sorry for self emoticon}

Yes, I think so pizza. I'm sorry you feel so ill Stick with it, it's a good sign. You're shaking the physical dependency off.

When I stopped drinking abruptly during my half-a-litre-of-gin-a-day period, I felt panicky, sweaty and shaky, and had difficulty sleeping. It didn't last long though: a few days.

Look after yourself. Maybe try stomach-soothing food, and keep your fluids up

hi quick checkin before I do the school run, suddenly life feels busy when surely I should have more time now the dds are back at school...

Had a dentist appointment yesterday, first time in over a year. I need one filling replacing and two small ones on my wisdom teeth. After the consultation I was sent to see the hygienist for some tips on dental hygiene Spent ten minutes being advised that I should stop drinking full fat coke, fruit drinks, etc and switch to diet and sugar free. I nodded away agreeing even though I haven't had anything other than diet coke for the last thirty years!! There is only one drink I have which contains sugar - wine - and when I have wine teeth brushing usually goes out of the window

Thanks PhraseAndFable x

how very dare you all move buses when I'm not around?
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lost track of everyone but need to say a bloody good YAY for nemo and his marvellous mousemama. Great to hear good news.

mixed news here - secured a small contract in work which buys us a bit of breathing space. this is GOOD. Contract is with ....distracted chap's company. This is BAD good BAD!!!

Lord, my head is working on the contract and the rest of my body is behaving in an entirely unprofessional manner.

I'm a dab hand at plaiting if you want yer head hair done. I've only done horses but hair is hair, eh?

ma pleased your company has a wee bit of a breather, in more ways than one, xx

Keep that bloody thing away from me wry that sounds awfy ouchy! Head hair is too short to plait - ah have a purple spiky head like a thistle!

wry you're a bloody menace with that epilator.

Best stick to me chamois, eh? Out with Little, she's got a cob on as I'm on my phone and not paying her enough attention!

New schools and both boys came home with smiles on the faces and lots to say. I am on cloud 9 . I really hope all goes well for both your girls tomorrow isinde.

Day 22 and old saggy tits is not bothering me so much I am glad to report.

Pizza sorry you are feeling so crap babe, it could well be the toxins leaving your body. Keep going, you are doing brilliantly.

Phrase you may not have got all the links in a line but the underscore did not go unnoticed . Hope all goes well for you tomorrow. X

Spanna hope you enjoyed your board games chickpea and the girls had a good day back. I think the yellow bus would make a fine camper van, the way they bounce along, it would just feel happy!

Day 1

Had 2.5 glasses of Cava at a friends (shared a bottle) I was at same friends on Monday and they drank 2 bottles and were about to start 3rd when I left and I drank tea !!!

Ho Hum back to square one......

Beaches I'm so glad the boys had a good first day that is great news x

I've let the side down but I don't feel really guilty, it did cross my mind on the way home to get another bottle but I didn't. Feel like cack now, all self inflicted I didn't even have a 'good reason' to drink and I just thought what the hell

Anyhoo I need to find the super glue so that I can glue my 'off' button in place, as now all I want to do is have 'that Friday feeling' after work and I've already got that 'Fuck It' feeling and it's 2am

Maybe I do feel guilty, I've let only myself down must try and get more sleep, I've got a busy day ahead

Spanna don't fret lovely, so you had a few glasses. I am not sure what your long term plan was but your amazing af run does not get cancelled out. You may have to be a bit vigilant for a few days if you want to keep at it, but please don't see it as a fail, it really isn't that. Hope you have managed to get back to sleep and wake up fresh as a daisy tomorrow.