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is there ever an excuse for pushing your wife when she ia holding your newborn...

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s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:13:46

Just that really
huge row, pushing, shoving, hands round my throat, i threw the babies bottle at him which has cut his nose then the final push backwards onto the bed

VegPatchLurker Sun 14-Jul-13 17:14:49

Call the police and get out.

What a shit.

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:17:45

I was standing in front of the door and wouldnt move bexause he just says horrible things then walks out and it drives me mad. So i wanted to say my sentence and sort it out.
I should have just left it
he says its my fault for not letting him out
my ds1 saw him push me, he is upset
I dont know what to say to him

Nanny0gg Sun 14-Jul-13 17:18:01

is there ever an excuse for pushing your wife when she is holding your newborn...

No. Not ever. As VegPatch said, call the police.

Any friends or family or neighbours you can call? Is he still there? Are you safe?

SlimePrincess Sun 14-Jul-13 17:19:59

It isn't your fault.

Please call the police.

Unless a car was heading straight for you then no. Get out and call police.

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:21:16

Dont worry i am completly safe
he has a VERY stressful job and every now and then we have a huge blow out and he is awful
its always in anger so i am not worried just so sad

NatashaBee Sun 14-Jul-13 17:22:00

No, no excuse. Do you have anywhere you can go?

RhondaJean Sun 14-Jul-13 17:22:01

Well yeah if a train or car are coming and you are in the way...

Look he wanted to leave, you shouldn't have stopped him or thrown things at him either. There's no excuse for his behaviour though.

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:23:06

I have called a friend, she is livid
I cant leave my family are 100miles away and the dcs have school
I just dont want him to do this
he says he doesnt love me, we have been living lime room mates for the last year

Secretswitch Sun 14-Jul-13 17:24:02

Sofedup, you are not safe from a man who puts his hands around your throat. You are not safe from a man who pushes you whilst holding your newborn. This man is a threat to you and your children. If you won't get help for yourself, please do it for them.

NotAnotherPackedLunch Sun 14-Jul-13 17:25:20

Does he do this to colleagues every so often too, or is it just you that it happens with?
Please get yourself and your children to somewhere safe and don't take any risks with your new born.

Secretswitch Sun 14-Jul-13 17:26:12

The police will make him leave. You can remain in your home if you wish. This is not your fault. It's fine if he does not love you anymore, it is not fine for him to attack you.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 14-Jul-13 17:27:15

Doesn't matter if he has a stressful job or not, that is no excuse for assaulting someone, regardless of whether they are holding a baby or not.

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:27:37

I cant call the police, he would lose his job
i just want the horrible words he says and this happening again

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:28:11

He says i am a drama queen and i throw myself on the floor

scoutfinch1 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:29:41

This is in no way ok. Please don't put up with this. A stressful job is not an excuse, not even a little bit. This was done in front of your son which is really, really not ok. There are no excuses, your son should not be witnessing this. The fact that you were holding the baby whilst he pushed you etc is just unforgivable. If he can not control his temper whilst you're holding a newborn and your son is present then he is a danger to you and your children. This is not fair on them. If he is not there you should ring Women's Aid. To be honest you don't sound like you are going to leave him but you need to put your children first. This will get worse (trust me). You really need to get some help.

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 17:30:11

NO, never.

It wasn't your fault. He is being a twat blaming you.

Stop defending him. He could be about the deliver the Heir to the Throne in a car park, doesn't make it all right to assault his wife and baby because he has a stressful job.

Don't stay with someone you don't love. Life is too long to spend it unhappy and in an abusive relationship. Your children deserve better than this.

defineme Sun 14-Jul-13 17:30:25

I'm sorry this has happened and sorry that this is what it's come to.
Report his violence and say you don't want him back in the house.
What example are you setting ds1 if he sees Daddy allowed back in?

Nanny0gg Sun 14-Jul-13 17:30:52

I have to ask - how do you have a newborn if you're living like housemates?

Who's name is the house in? And losing his job isn't really your problem - but why would that happen?

MissStrawberry Sun 14-Jul-13 17:31:13

Are you a drama queen? Do you throw yourself on the floor?

Even if yes to both you don't deserve to be assaulted.

He isn't going to stop so what are you going to do?

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 14-Jul-13 17:32:22

Trust me s0, they don't ever stop sad

defineme Sun 14-Jul-13 17:32:56

So he loses his job?

Perhaps it will give him the wake up call he needs to stop being a violent abuser.

You will survive, but you need to cut him loose and think of your kids. They do not need to see this.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sun 14-Jul-13 17:33:22

Please do not let him back in. He is a violent bully who then minimises his behaviour and blame you. He put his hands round your throat. He is a danger to you and to your children. Please call Women's Aid and the police. You are not safe. You really aren't.

s0fedup Sun 14-Jul-13 17:33:39

He has juat brought me up a bowl of dinner... I said thanks but wtf
I know I sound like an idiot, but its not all the time, the last huge blow out we had was when I found out i was pregnant. he didnt want any more, she was a surprise, he thinks i planned it...
I posted before about it

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