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How long were you together before you were engaged?

(136 Posts)
Coffee1Sugar Fri 22-Mar-13 17:57:16

Just wondering really! Dp and I have been together 14 months, lived together 4 months (not engaged yet btw!), my sister has just got engaged after 7 weeks so all my family a bit sceptical.

HappyJustToBe Fri 22-Mar-13 17:58:32

Two years. I proposed.

PearlyWhites Fri 22-Mar-13 17:59:13

7 months and married 3 months later. Been married 3 and a half years and very happy.

MirandaWest Fri 22-Mar-13 17:59:47

XH proposed after 3.5 years.

TobyLerone Fri 22-Mar-13 18:01:28

Just over 2 years. We got married 5 months later.

Dh and I got engaged after 6 weeks. I was 21 and he was 20. People were understandably a little concerned grin but we knew it was right, and we were engaged for three years before we got married. We saved for our first home, went on holiday, went to gigs, and had a fab time in those three years.
We were married for 14 years and had 2 amazing sons before the boys and i lost dh in a horrible car crash 9 years ago.
I am v happy now with dp, but I still miss and think about dh every single day - and ds2 is is becoming his dads double as he gets older.

firesidechat Fri 22-Mar-13 18:03:22

3 months, but we were friends before we dated.

Married nearly 30 years now.

CPtart Fri 22-Mar-13 18:04:20

Nine years....met at twenty but only got engaged when we knew we would set a definite wedding date.

firesidechat Fri 22-Mar-13 18:04:51

2blessed - that is so sad about your husband. I was 20 and also knew it was right.

MolotovCocktail Fri 22-Mar-13 18:05:52

Got together in 2000 (I was 17yo); got engaged a year later but couldn't afford the ring I really wanted, let alone the wedding grin He bought me the ring of my dreams in 2004 and we tied the knot in 2008 - still together with a 4yo and soon-to-be 1yo.

Would have married a lot sooner if we'd had the money

JollyYellowGiant Fri 22-Mar-13 18:06:28

We didn't get engaged. Got together 07. Moved in together 08. Bought a house 09. Had a baby 11. Got married for convenience 12. Baby no2 coming in 13.

OhChristHasRisenFENTON Fri 22-Mar-13 18:06:52

8 years, and by 'engaged' I mean he finally befriended a jeweller found someone who could make our rings, i.e. my engagement and our wedding rings, for a good price.

All very Mills and Boon.

Coffee1Sugar Fri 22-Mar-13 18:06:52

Your DH was lucky to have you blessed x

Moved in together after about 6 months and got engaged after couple of years. Married for 8 years with 2 Dc age 6 and 3. Very happy! I think your family ought to direct the eye rolling at your sister if anyone!

Overberries Fri 22-Mar-13 18:16:22

8.5 years but met when we were 18

AnisotropicWeetabixFTW Fri 22-Mar-13 18:20:51

5 years. Got married a year after that.

jasmineramsden Fri 22-Mar-13 18:21:07

3 years for us

Bunbaker Fri 22-Mar-13 18:21:46

OH asked me to marry him after about two years. We didn't officially "get engaged" as I don't like rings and we were skint anyway and I thought buying a ring would be a waste of money. We got married 2 1/2 years after first meeting and have been married for nearly 32 years.

EvenBetter Fri 22-Mar-13 18:28:29

Five years, married 9 months later because I'd bloody waited long enough!

Hoopypoopy Fri 22-Mar-13 18:32:12

Met in Dec (we are talking end of 80s). Moved in in January. Engaged mid March, so 3 months. Married 1.5 years later. Marriage lasted 20 years when for various reasons we both agreed over. 1 lovely teenage child. We remain close friends, he came with me to view the apartment I bought after we sold the matrimonial home. We still do Xmas and birthdays as a 'family'. But we both have our own new partners now. I wouldn't change any of it. It was the 'Time of my Life'. There is no right formula.

Hulababy Fri 22-Mar-13 18:34:22

Ages!

Met in 1990 (age 16y)
Lived together from sep 1996
Engaged dec 1996
Married summer 1998

Finola1step Fri 22-Mar-13 18:34:35

We were together over 7 and a half years before he asked. Married six months later. Been married nearly 7 years now. Knew within weeks of being together that this was the keeper. Now have 2 DC.

PrincessOfChina Fri 22-Mar-13 18:37:26

Erm, we've been together 8 years and are t engaged. We'll probably get married later this year though.

KnitMinion Fri 22-Mar-13 18:38:27

15 weeks from getting together to him proposing. Will be 14 years together this year, married for 13 of them.

PuggyMum Fri 22-Mar-13 18:40:57

Engaged after 4 years. Married after 8 years. Been together 15 years.

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