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Dating chat thread! Number 47

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lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:43:20

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:44:54

can't believe it's that time again already shock

WarmFuzzyFun Wed 20-Mar-13 19:45:08

I love a new thread Lubey, well done for the link, smart move. thanks

lulubellaboozle Wed 20-Mar-13 19:50:43

Place marking << waves at thread>>

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:51:26

I had literally just turned up to post, noticed it was on 998, did this face shock and hurried up... haha.

another shock at the realisation that it's a year since mine and BC's first date.

Part of me wants to rewind a year and do it all again because it was awesome... but another part knows that yet again I've come a long way in a year and is happy with the me that is the result of it all.

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 19:53:28

I like a new thread too and I wonder what's going to happen in our lives over the next few days to fill it up ..,

Had a good, positive day today with no whittling (well, a couple of minor ones but I didn't let them get a hold). Treating this like giving up smoking or something, a day at a time, but all is well so far.

Seeing LM tomorrow. Must admit I do still get a bit excited about seeing him. Need to lure him back to mine for Coffee afterwards and hope the children stay asleep!

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 20-Mar-13 19:55:14

Oh good, a new one. Anybody know if there's a way of blocking on POF if I haven't had a message recently? Recurring time-waster site user, who I talked with a few months ago, but the messages don't go back that far. He has appeared again, as wants to 'meet me' hmm but can't see a way to block...

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 19:56:39

You can only block someone with a message I think parsley using the block button next to the message.

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 19:56:41

New thread! Ok well I did hear from him, hi how are you etc. Dying to ask about this woman, but don't feel like I can without coming across as a bunny boiler! How would a message along the lines of 'weird coincidence but someone I vaguely know was gushing to all and sundry about a man she's seeing, sounded very much like it was you. Its none of my business but I don't want to tread on anyone's toes so would rather cancel friday if it is you' sound?

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:57:14

I don't think you can block the meet me thing.

I just find that entire feature massively annoying and wish they would scrap it, it encourages messages without reading profiles imho. I have directed all the 'wants to meet you' emails to spam as well because you can't turn those off.

Snapespeare Wed 20-Mar-13 19:59:33

Place mark. Nothing goin'on with me. Friday date planned with nameless. I miss him. I thought Monday and friday would be reasonably spaced meet-ups. They probably are, I'm just feeling a bit frisky cuddly.

lubeybooby Wed 20-Mar-13 19:59:38

hop oh gawd... I dunno. Brain a bit frazzled. Hmmm..

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 20-Mar-13 19:59:55

Oh, that's a good idea. Spam them...never fails to irritate amuse me the no of men who use this feature, then don't respond to the first message! Are they just mass mail-shotting?
Bunny are you sure its the same one, or just a hunch?

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 20:01:10

Hop it's probably best to have a conversation face to face about this type of thing. And apparently you're now supposed to have a conversation about being exclusive, until then some people think its ok to carry on dating so I wouldn't necessarily chuck him for this. All very odd, not like the olden days when I was last dating confused

MirandaWest Wed 20-Mar-13 20:02:08

Hello new thread smile

Was just chatting with Mr Nice who is in San Francisco now and found out I thought he came back Monday afternoon but its Tuesday afternoon. As I'm picking them up from the airport it's a good thing I know grin

MirandaWest Wed 20-Mar-13 20:03:05

I am missing Mr Nice. Humpf.

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 20:05:32

Lubey, well done for starting a new thread!

So I have POAS, and (as expected) it was negative. Albeit there was a slightly nervous moment where I had it the wrong way round and confused the control window with the test window...

Anyway, all for the best as I think C is seeing someone else. Or if he's not, he's actually not that interested in me. As I'm sure everyone but me has thought all along.

Which feels a little bit like a kick in the stomach. And I had a brilliant day at work, and was so happy earlier.

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 20:07:00

About 90% that it's him, it wasn't just a physical description, it was specific stuff about his job, where he lives etc. Really unlikely that it isn't him.

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 20:07:58

Ha Miranda bloody hell that would have been a bit of a wait!!!

ike1 Wed 20-Mar-13 20:09:07

Oh good Velv. xx

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 20:11:38

Velvet, sorry to hear you're feeling like that, why do you think that C is seeing someone else?

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Wed 20-Mar-13 20:11:39

Velvet, sorry to hear you're feeling like that, why do you think that C is seeing someone else?

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 20-Mar-13 20:12:01

Bunny I think that there is good advice upthread about exclusivity...takes a bit of getting my head around, I must admit.

VelvetSpoon Wed 20-Mar-13 20:17:54

I hope you mean purely re the POAS bit Ike!

Hop I have been digging on his FB. I don't know what made me, but I looked at one of his friends added this year, he has made a very flattering comment this week on a recent photo of her. It's the sort of comment you would only make to someone you were involved with, or were at the very least attracted to. He only has about 50 people on his FB, so it's not like he's handing out compliments to loads of women. And of course I am not his friend on FB.

Guess that solves the mystery of why I haven't heard from him...

OhWesternWind Wed 20-Mar-13 20:21:41

Velvet good news about the stick! Has anything happened with C to make you think this or is it just his slow communication style? If its the latter I'd text/phone and ask him. Nothing to lose really if you've come to the end of your patience with him. Hugs to you, sorry you're feeling low.

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