How do I deal with this?
Short history: married 8 years, 3 dc's between us from previous marriage. He has become increasingly verbally abusive over last few years: flies off handle at anything, threatens to leave lots, says I disrespect him. Shouts, swears, name calls, points, gets in my face. Brings stuff up that's irrelevant to argument from the past, can go silent/nasty/vindictive for days afterwards.
Otherwise a good man who protects us and we have lots of fun and shared friends.
I cry usually, wear heart on sleeve, hate unresolved conflict.
He has now accused me of being his abuser. I can't cope with that. I want to get my head straight to try and decide rationally what to do.
How do I deal with being called an abuser when I'm not? I'm in bits.
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ObscuredByClouds · 15/03/2013 19:20
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