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Dating Thread 43

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WarmFuzzyFun Sat 23-Feb-13 17:27:28

Here it is...

VelvetSpoon Sat 23-Feb-13 17:30:34

Oooh new thread!

Well done WFF smile

Juliette, good news re the plumber!

KinNora Sat 23-Feb-13 17:42:29

Ooh, that was a surprise.

I'm glad you got sorted, Juliette, how lovely it is when people are helpful.

OWW, have you told him that you're just feeling a bit fed up ?

Too right, that man is so kind. I was lucky, he is usually working night and day so there is an upside to it being Saturday, he had just finished smile

48howdidthathappen Sat 23-Feb-13 17:48:05

OWW I told Mr R&R over the phone. I think we both found it easier.

Western this is the new you who says what she wants and what she feels right? So he is asking you, he cares and wants to know. It's ok it you blurt a lot of stuff out, very unlikely he would run because of it and if he did, he would have run anyway. You could try the 'sometimes I feel...' approach if you are feeling brave enough.

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 17:55:22

I am going to have to call him later as I have sent text which needs explaining. Or I will ask him to pop over maybe.

WarmFuzzyFun Sat 23-Feb-13 17:58:22

Where are our boys, messrs Voice and Bant?

I have been busy and emailed 3 men shock, am hoping a suitable man will get in touch.

I am counting Juliette's sorted plumbing as a thing to be glad about, plus the fact that I've just had a interested reply. Here I go again....

VelvetSpoon Sat 23-Feb-13 18:04:20

I couldn't have a conversation like that on the phone. Partly because I hate using the phone, but also because I am a bit deaf, and my phone cuts out randomly.

Knowing my luck I would bare my soul, wait expectantly for a reply, only to realise the poor sod got cut off halfway through...

Western, see how it goes. If he can pop over might be easier to talk face to face.

mercury7 Sat 23-Feb-13 18:07:01

place markingsmile

grinchie Sat 23-Feb-13 18:16:02

Hello again smile

I was going to catch up with the last thread but then this one started!

Can anyone give me a brief update?

Snapespeare Sat 23-Feb-13 18:21:53

Place mark. Nowt from nameless today, so I reviewed the hideous drunken text and it wasn't that hideous. hmm basically said I'd been reading ME/CFS forums and understood when he was exhausted and wouldn't attempt to pressurise him into blush 'intimacies' blush sent non-committal 'hope you're feeling brighter' text this afternoon and.....nothing am assuming the 'understanding' me, will get that he's exhausted, so not expecting a response.... Which is just as well. <shrug>

Ugh at laid-back people. They're confounding. We're possibly a bad match. Ia want to kiss him. Auuuuuuuugh.

<all encompassing thread wave/grope>

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 18:28:47

Got a lunch date with Mr.Greek tomorrow. If I don't want to meet him again, WTF do I say? I've been with the same man for 19 years, so don't have much idea about dating, let alone OD!

WarmFuzzyFun Sat 23-Feb-13 18:36:58

micshi, the weather, the journey grin

Erm, look at his profile and ask questions about his hobbies/interests etc. Neutral topics, not exes, not sex, etc

Someone who is more successful than me might write a comprehensive list of safe conversation starters...<hopeful>

48howdidthathappen Sat 23-Feb-13 18:43:32

Velvet I thought I had done it face to face Wednesday night. In reality I had still been pussy footing. Thursday over the phone I nailed it smile

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 18:46:28

I'm a bit worried about his English, it doesn't seem that great in texts! What I'm worried about is how do you let someone down gently if you don't want a second date?! Just so I can be ready!!

KinNora Sat 23-Feb-13 19:00:01

In my experience they can usually tell, mischi although that might just be me and my expressive face ( always gets me into trouble ). I generally send a text saying thank you for the evening, it was nice to meet you, and keep away from me, you giant twerp good luck with OD.

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 19:03:10

If you don't want to meet again, Mis, you could do nothing and see if he contacts you - if not, then problem solved. If he does contact you, just send a text along the lines of lovely to meet you, nice evening, unfortunately no spark, good luck for the future.

lubeybooby Sat 23-Feb-13 19:04:11

Hello all, hello new thread. I had a nice time and <touch wood> I think things are a bit better now.

Mischi thanking them but saying there was no spark seems to be de riguer

Good luck though! grin

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 19:08:16

Thanks! Very nervous about the whole thing. I'm not looking for the love of my life, more someone to go on dates with & more (when I've got to know them a bit better ;-))

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 19:10:52

Am farting about on here cos I'm really scared about ringing LM.

mercury7 Sat 23-Feb-13 19:17:53

I feel like a candle in the bloody wind just lately, I really need to grow a pair and become a hurricane lamp! grin

VelvetSpoon Sat 23-Feb-13 19:28:01

Western would it help if we virtually hold your hand a bit? <proffers hand>

In the meantime - and I'm sorry to witter on about my own nothing-y stuff - I remembered a couple of things C said last night. He hurt his had the other day at work...he made a joke about being unsuited to manual work. A few mins later we were talking about my house (which is and has been a building site for years) and he said something like wasnt I hoping to meet some builder type so they could do my house up for me hmm. Then later, we were in a slightly dodgy pub full of big, muscly blokes, a few of whom might've looked my way (mainly cos I was a bit overdressed, and 10 years younger than every other woman in there). C said how they made him feel a bit inadequate, and he didn't measure up confused. He was quite drunk by then. I didnt make a big deal of either comment so I dont think he was saying it so that I'd boost his ego...or if he was, I didnt.

Don't really know if theres any significance in it or I'm just being silly and overthinking as usual!

mercury7 Sat 23-Feb-13 19:42:36

sounds like he thinks you're a bit 'out of his league'?

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 19:50:53

Hand holding would be lovely, Velvet. Thank you. I did call, but he's still up his ladder with a paintbrush and said he'll call back later. I know I am just going to bottle it :-(

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