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New beginning. Dating thread 41

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lubeybooby Mon 11-Feb-13 23:22:56

Dating chit chat here smile

ike1 Sat 16-Feb-13 16:41:01

Yeah been messaging casually the last coupla days. He suggested meeting the next time I am free...and is very cool with me being a single parent ...so we shall see.

OhWesternWind Sat 16-Feb-13 16:38:15

Whoo Ike!!

Might mention it ... Getting a long list of things to casually mention ...

What nora said

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 16:23:56

Go Ike !

ike1 Sat 16-Feb-13 16:17:16

Got a potential date with The Kidd (8 years younger than me) likes PJ Harvey, seems lovely, tall with long hair. Things might be looking up!!!

lubeybooby Sat 16-Feb-13 15:58:52

OWW he is your boyfriend and you've introduced the kids and everything... of course you should ask him grin

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 15:56:45

If it was me, OWW, I'd mention the wedding to him, say that I didn't fancy going on my tod and see if he took the hint.

Disclaimer - I'm clearly bobbins at relationships.

OhWesternWind Sat 16-Feb-13 15:52:52

Oh dear, just been invited to a wedding of a very old friend (well actually an ex from twenty years ago who is the only one I've ever genuinely stayed friends with). Feel a bit meh. Don't want him (could have if I'd wanted), don't even want to get married, but meh.

Wedding's in May. Etiquette-wise, is it significant to ask someone to accompany you to a wedding? I don't want to go by myself really so might ask LM or would that be a faux pas?

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 15:44:01

Obviously if any of the lovely people on here have contributed to Urban Dictionary, I completely withdraw my last statement.

Cough.

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 15:41:06

Oh god no, Lubey, I think he knew her for a while and asked her out a couple of times before she agreed to see him.

I always suspect that the definitions in Urban Dictionary are written by spotty little Herberts whose sole sexual experiences have been with Farmer Palm and his five lovely daughters.

lubeybooby Sat 16-Feb-13 15:19:41

Nora, exactly she hasn't stalked him has she... that sounds a fabulous arrangement... I would think the same if she was 75

Scrazy, I get what you mean. I think it's fine to like and to look for younger men though it really was just the mental image that urban dictionary definition gave me

The description including the word stalk just gave me a very sleazy image of... I dunno, coercion kind of.

Snapespeare Sat 16-Feb-13 15:14:11

Yeah.. It's funny. I tend to view chaps around me age as a bit done-in (sorry!) and - if they still want to start a family/have more children- very generally looking for women in their late twenties early thirties. It's that annoying trophy ism entitlement thing, (some!) men thinking they deserve a younger woman.

My age range on OKC was 30-50.... Which is youth-weighted as I am (shriek!) 45...while I could (just) see myself going out with a 30 year old (15 years younger) I really couldn't see myself going out with a 60 year old (15 years older) I do try to look at it as the person rather than the number and the demarcation of age range is really there because the Internet asks for it...

I noticed last night, incidentally that nameless has quite small, feminine hands hmm I couldn't give a stuff. grin

Scrazy Sat 16-Feb-13 14:55:53

Lubey, I do get what you mean. As I am now over a certain age, I'd think of myself as puke worthy if I was deliberately looking for men half my age. I didn't feel this way a few years ago as I looked quite young for my age and men who approached me weren't chatting to me to fulfill an older woman fantasy.

The older I get the more I want someone around my own age. However, of I met someone much younger I wouldn't rule them out.

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 14:51:56

I have a friend that I'm very fond of, an amazing woman, she's 65, looks 20 years younger, and her gentleman caller is 44. She has no intention of living with a man ever again, he spends the night at her house a couple of days a week and essentially their relationship is based on sex and shared humour - it's all on her terms.

lubeybooby Sat 16-Feb-13 14:43:46

Gah!!

A woman with a sexual appetite is not puke worthy.

what was pukeworthy was the description of stalking much younger men for sex.

In the same way that a 60+ year old man stalking much younger women would be pukeworthy

I will most certainly still be having as much sex as possible until my body crumbles into dust. However I won't be stalking much young men

Snapespeare Sat 16-Feb-13 14:42:55

Think there's a correlation..

grinchie Sat 16-Feb-13 14:35:21

I don't think it's about intelligence as much as pickiness.
The more intelligent you are, there will be fewer other people as smart as you. Same appplies to beauty and wealthy.
Your choices are to go stay picky and go out with people of similar intelligence or lower your standards and widen your choice of potential dates.

So when exactly does a woman with a sexual appetite become puke worthy? I am 5 years off that and perfectly lovely. At least that's what the younger men who chase me say hmm

Bant Sat 16-Feb-13 14:18:01

<looks at job, social circle and usual conversational topics and thinks maybe men have similar issues>

KinNora Sat 16-Feb-13 13:58:29

< looks at impressive vocabulary, looks at personal tupping stats. Wholeheartedly agrees with Snape >

Snapespeare Sat 16-Feb-13 13:29:43

grin I swear less intelligent picky women get more cock.

mercury7 Sat 16-Feb-13 13:17:49

he he, simplify your diction to get more dick grin

Snapespeare Sat 16-Feb-13 13:10:09

Well it is and it isn't.... But it probably would have been better and arguably would have got me substantially more cock over the last three years.

Oh. definition three There's one.

mercury7 Sat 16-Feb-13 13:04:23

reverse anthropomorphism

I suspect that 'metaphor' is the term you are looking for wink

Snapespeare Sat 16-Feb-13 12:52:16

God no... And nothing puke-worthy about any woman who is sexually 'aggressive', knows what she wants, etc.... The hmm is in reverse anthropomorphicism . Giving humans the characteristics of animals. (I use words like anthropomorphic. Is it any wonder it took me SO long to find someone who would shag me?)

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