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Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

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lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 00:04:11

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 00:04:44

got? I mean GO of course!

VelvetSpoon Sun 20-Jan-13 00:07:15

NoMore - if it's a very young baby I presume they haven't been split very long? That would concern me a little bit I think, esp as it seems she's not dealing with it well.

Nomorepain Sun 20-Jan-13 00:14:12

It is so similar to my own situation that it freaks me out a lot! Only difference is that he wasn't cheating and ex appears to be bit psycho (and of course I haven't been at all wink she isn't dealing with it well. Been split for 6 months. Baby was not planned at all on his part but he loves his kids a lot and wants a lot more access to them. Tricky. Will meet him again and see where it leads. It's not like I'm going to marry him or anything!!! Ha

Nomorepain Sun 20-Jan-13 00:20:18

Forgot to say he smelt looooooovely!! I'm big on smells!!

grinchie Sun 20-Jan-13 00:23:25

Hmmm nomore it does sound tricky and it's difficult to pick the truth out of it.
Although two friends of mine got together when their children (with different partners) were babies. The children are in their teens now and as close as any brother and sister, they are a proper family when they are all together.
So it can work although there were some tough times at the start.

mercury7 Sun 20-Jan-13 01:25:01

place marking from the sofa, this cold weather puts me right off socializing /meeting new people!

lubeybooby Sun 20-Jan-13 07:18:50

Mercury I am still hibernating although not technically 'on the sofa' dating wise

My poor DD is really ill with flu too and there's more snow forecast so looks set to continue this way. Luckily I have a ton of work to do from home and bloody tax self assessment too so it's hermit me for the time being!

fayster Sun 20-Jan-13 08:08:56

Happy Sunday!

Nomore, 6 months doesn't sound long to me, either. If your situation is similar, you'll get where he's coming from, but I agree with Velvet - keep an eye on the ex situation.

Glad people are enjoying the snow with sledging and the like, <peers round door to check that Ike made it to bed last night>I love the snow. I decided that Mr Walking really wasn't floating my boat, so I'm back on the sofa. I don't think I can face OD again for a while, so I'll be enjoying all you antics.

Yogagirl17 Sun 20-Jan-13 08:27:51

<waves>

Sofa. Cold. Tissues. Chocolate. Greys Anatomy. Laptop.

scoobydooagain Sun 20-Jan-13 08:38:06

Morning, hungover here and like Ike woke up with my contacts in.
So what's the chances 2 second dates. Both went well, both want to see me again and both have arranged days and venues!
Still think either or both could fall through but had fun.
No problems re call from 1st guy he texted while I was on bus to 2nd date and he was going out with friends later (more likely another date - but I can hardly judge)
Anyway I would recommend having more than one date arranged as I was so much more relaxed and that I think played a huge part in 2nd dates getting planned.

Snapespeare Sun 20-Jan-13 08:44:57

Place mark. Nowt to report <waves>

BillMasen Sun 20-Jan-13 09:12:05

Hi all. Just waving and saying hello. Nothing of note to report here. Still seeing geeky girl when I can, next date is 1st feb, so wondering if it'll ever actually build up any momentum. No other chatting of any note. Quite happy with one very slow paced dating thing and nothing else.

Place mark. No word from Mr Slow today, will keep you updated!

KirstyWirsty Sun 20-Jan-13 09:14:42

Marking my spot .. Still seeing Mr Cheeky .. All is well smile

grinchie Sun 20-Jan-13 09:18:47

Morning smile
Nothing to report here either, Ironman is still in Afghanistan, he riings twice a day and emails and IMs.
We are still snowed in. DD2 & I are going to brave a walk to the shop later.

nomore how do you feel about it all this morning?

Yogagirl17 Sun 20-Jan-13 09:29:45

Oh, and my divorce papers are expected any day now. Feel strangely unmoved by the thought. XH seems desperate keen for me to sign ASAP tho. He says he wants "closure". I suspect he's got other reasons but not really sure I give a shit TBH.

Kirsty glad all is well!

no snow here.

MsArsebiscuit Sun 20-Jan-13 09:45:28

Hello everybody (snowing heavily here as I type, bastarding work is going to be a nightmare)

Currently talking to two intelligent, amusing, silly, likeable men. Pinch me. Obviously as these things go, I will probably end up never meeting them but that's fine = diversion without risk of pain. (Both are sculptors so if things do progress I'm expecting to be immortalised in marble/brass/papier mâché , copies of any such sculptures will be couriered to exh and Maris, to stare at, FOR ETERNITY).

Nomorepain Sun 20-Jan-13 09:52:07

grinchie not sure. Texted all night. He mentioned lots if times about us meeting up again and other stuff that made out he was keen. I thought I would have a quick check on pof this morning and he is online! That irks me. But I need to get a grip and not care. I am channelling my inner cool. Thinking cool thoughts and generally being cool!! Fake it till I make it!!! Ha ha!!

superstarheartbreaker Sun 20-Jan-13 10:04:45

I was bowled over last Monday when a super HOT 20 year old dropped a message in my inbox saying he thought that my photos were georgeous! Cue a few hours of cheeky, flirty banter. The next day we started sexting. No photos only texts. Ever since then he has been very distant. One friends says he's playing it cool. Another friend says that I am no longer a challenge so he has lost interest. I like the sexting thing and it makes me want more but not him obviously. Have I had the equivalent of a sexting one night stand?!
As he is only 20 years old I didn't think that he would eb good boyfriend material but I would like to have fun with this boy man. I did text him back and apologised for getting carried away but he said "don't be silly-I loved it!" So why no date? Should I ask him for a date? I think the truth is that sexting makes me want them more whereas it makes them more distant; a bit like putting out too soon in a relationship.

mercury7 Sun 20-Jan-13 10:21:48

some people just want a bit of text flirting or sexting and dont feel the need to actually meet..i guess it's harmless fun if thats what you both want

superstarheartbreaker Sun 20-Jan-13 10:30:19

I want the sexting but would also like to have some flesh to flesh fun. I think I will wait til next week then ask him to come over for a shag drink. I would ultimately like a bf but I can't pass up the opportunity to let this hottie go!

mercury7 Sun 20-Jan-13 10:37:06

you might want to meet him in a neutral place for a coffee and a chat before you invite him over to yours?
just to make sure you fancy him and feel comfortable with him 'in the flesh'

superstarheartbreaker Sun 20-Jan-13 10:39:04

Yes; thats the best idea. Is it ok to ask men out for a drink nowadays. Not very rulesey is it?

Scattylatte Sun 20-Jan-13 10:40:07

Place marking. Dreading the drive to work tomorrow, I'm not keen on snow.

Not much to report. Fireman text something about Wednesday and seeing me. Been talking to a nice guy on OKC who seems fairly sorted in himself.

Mrs A, that was funny. Are these men on OKC? I find it leans to the arty, crafty, live in the woods, love writing types.

superstar many men do not want to meet. I sent a message to loads a few months ago asking if they had ever met anyone (pof) or had any dates lined up. Nearly all hadn't met anyone. I came to the conclusion that meeting in the flesh isn't on their priority list in about 80% of cases.

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