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it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

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lulubellaboozle Fri 11-Jan-13 12:30:38

Post away daters x

lubeybooby Sat 12-Jan-13 09:41:43

I seem to have a bit of a cold and feel crappy. I'm hoping it will turn out to just be an allergy thing because I really don't want to cancel on TallToy! Arghhh come on antihistmines, kick in, please.

Watch hmm I would be thinking the same... doesn't look good.

Scatty he seems a bit odd saying that when it's you that's done the organising etc, I could understand it if he was always trying to organise stuff and you refusing until it 100% suits you

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 09:50:10

lubey I hope it is an allergy and not something more flu like.

Yes, it's odd. Because he works shifts, has his son and a dog I try to be casual yet plan a bit and he's always totally agreed to my plans and makes efforts. In a jokey way he's told me that I run rings around him and when I told him something about my job the other day he said 'why are you integrated in me?'. It's mild insecurity I think which makes me chuckle as I'm really insecure!

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 09:50:48

Interested.

fayster Sat 12-Jan-13 09:52:17

Welcome, Thingers. You can think about what you want from a site, then find one that fits. If you want lots of choice (good and bad) then go for the free ones, or the well known ones. If you want someone more specific, have a look at the more specialised sites (like Biker Match, or Muddy Matches). Or you can jump straight in to pof, and go through the steep but fun learning curve!

MsArsebiscuit Sat 12-Jan-13 10:19:39

Good morning, and brrrrrrrrrrr, bit parky, innit ?

Lubey, good luck with staving off the lurgy, is it worth trying a very hot bath ( without TT grin ) in an attempt to kill it off ?

Watch, I'm thinking of cancelling Match too, I hardly look at it, usually only when I get notification of a wink, always from some man that I wouldn't want to sit next to on the bus, let alone date.

Juliette, woooooh, that's a bit of a turn up for the books then, perhaps it's one of those weird unexpectedly good things.

3 date offers for me, all GS, which has gone cra-zeee -
Mavis, so called because he puts me in mind of Coronation Street's Mavis Riley ' I don't reeeaaally know, Rita '. He's a librarian (me likey) but has a touch of the ' you didn't reply to me straight away, that's ok, you don't like me, I can cope, why would anyone like me ' about him which puts me right off.
Olive Oyl, nice smile, not much cushin' for the pushin' though ( meh ). Seemed to be rather monosyllabic and sporadic, sudden enthusiasm for a date, will travel to meet me.
Lizard Man, I'm somewhat concerned that he wants to meet me solely so I can have a look at his current health problem. I can tell you that if he whips out his inflamed, swollen, hot little extremity on a first date, it will be the shortest first date on record.

watchoutforthatsnail Sat 12-Jan-13 10:26:08

oh, me too mrsarse, plus i mostly get contacted by over 50 year olds on it. Im 34.

Im not paying for something thats no good, it makes no sense, and i dont have the money to waste. Im hidden on pof and have okc open at the momment, and have been chatting to someone else, again for about 10 days, who hasnt actually asked me out either..

are you actutally going to go on a date with any of yours?

mercury7 Sat 12-Jan-13 10:28:02

is anyone else hearing this when they see the current thread title:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHs98TEYecM

re impending lurgey, if you are anticipating a night of hot sexy action the dopamin/endorphin high should be enough to keep it at bay, you may feel twice as rough the next day, but who cares so long as you get your fix tonightgrin

that's how it usually works with me!

MsArsebiscuit Sat 12-Jan-13 10:35:28

Mercury, yes, I do, every time I read the title.

Watch, I know, it's weird, isn't it, how Match can be so good for some and not others. I think I probably will meet Lizard and Olive, it's difficult because neither of them sets my heart racing, I suspect that's a combination of me and my ishoos and the fact that neither of them writes particularly effusive or lively messages.
Mavis the librarian was very appealing until he pulled his ' poor me' message stunt, I get the feeling that may be one of the infamous 'red flags' everyone mentions.

Scattylatte Sat 12-Jan-13 10:46:45

Has mr lizard indicated he has a problem with his extremity mrs arse? it's already sounding intriguing but not in a good way.
'Poor me' to me, is an indication of attention seeking and immaturity especially before meeting.
I've not tried Match. Don't think I'll bother now. I have heard some raving reports about it though. Men don't seem to all go for the same type of woman when I see them in the street but part of me wonders if by paying they have an attitude of 'I'm going to find my ideal, nothing less, no compromise, I deserve it and now that I'm 55 that ideal is 34/enhanced/has no kids whatever

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 11:16:06

Oh Arse I understand they do all sound a bit boring....but this is so true of many I am afraid...I love a lively messager. Mountain Man was good at indulging me like that.

Have been in contact with Torso Rubber thinkin I might keep him on as cinema buddy. Mr N amuses me with his self assured sexxting and actually seems quite intelligent so might keep him on for middle aged amusement. Will be relaunching on POF soon with a newish image so I think a few options is good to keep boredom at bay!!!

MsArsebiscuit Sat 12-Jan-13 11:17:29

Yes, Scatty, he's being treated for an infection in one of his extremities, I have been told how it's affecting him, how many antibiotics he is allergic to, his repeated GP visits. It's probably unfair for me to carp about it, as I did ask how he was.
I'm glad you think that my concerns about Mavis the Librarian aren't unfounded, I thought I might be being unreasonable. Unfortunately I have a track record of being attracted to introspective, sensitive men and I think sometimes that kind of behaviour goes along with the personality type - I'm trying very hard to move on.

MsArsebiscuit Sat 12-Jan-13 11:21:46

Ike, I quite like boring ! It's a sickness.
It's good that Mr N is keeping up his entertaining sexting, I'm quite fond of a bit of text smut. Is Torso Rubber the one who likes leather ? ( not necessarily in THAT way )

48howdidthathappen Sat 12-Jan-13 12:32:01

Juilette A slow burner indeed wink

I had an unexpected night with Mr R&R. Round 2 tonight. As stress release unbeatable grin

Full update from date with Mr Vague in brief. Met at gallery, he was wearing a suit as he came directly from work. No pouncing of any sort, that meant I could relax around him physically. He suggested dinner after and I laid it on the line that I would very much appreciated it if he was inviting me but my budget didn't stretch to that. We went for a reasonably priced but excellent local place. He paid smile. This mini snog was initiated by me when we said goodnight. Next date Monday. I've also realised his impulsiveness is off the scale, one reason I've felt the need to mark out my boundaries with neon signs and that is something to be aware of.

48howdidthathappen Sat 12-Jan-13 12:50:24

Oh and Bill hope your date went well smile

fayster Sat 12-Jan-13 13:27:02

Sounds like you handled him brilliantly, Juliette!

I wonder where Bill is, 48. Do you think he might have <whispers under breath in shocked tone> stayed out?

lulubellaboozle Sat 12-Jan-13 13:31:57

Juliette that all sounds great, some things are self fulfilling aren't they, he didn't pounce, you relaxed, the date went well, you initiated the snog as a result! hope Monday has the same good vibes

48 you go girl! and Msarse inflamed, swollen, hot little extremity grin

Western ditto your feelings, patience is a virtue they say but it doesn't always feel like one, does it?

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 13:45:00

Torso Rubber loves clothes Arse especially Fred Perry and old mod labels....I was encouraged to feel the quality of his cloth on many occasions! He is also Mr Coke on the Cock. We had a great laugh mostly and he got my humour plus we had shared friends and cultural memories of the place where we live...so I would like to keep in touch.

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 13:46:18

Ooooh 48 I am pleased and you deserve a good stress release lovely..

MsArsebiscuit Sat 12-Jan-13 14:13:07

Oh right, Ike, did you meet him online ? ' Coke on the Cock' makes me laugh EVERY time.

48, Mr R&R sounds like he's a real tonic.

Juliette, agree with Fayster, that date sounds like a masterclass in man handling, I'm envious of your poise ( I have all the poise of Sue Pollard's clumsy younger sister )

lubeybooby Sat 12-Jan-13 14:38:35

Went back to bed for a while - still can't decide if it's a cold or not! Slept for 3 hours though so that can't be a good sign after a full nights sleep confused

Oh well I feel a bit better anyway so don't think I'll be cancelling.

Need to go food and beer shopping now. Bloody Tesco order effed up.

OhWesternWind Sat 12-Jan-13 15:46:13

Going out for tea tonight with lovely lovely LM and various offspring. No Coffee but I don't care. Just glad he asked us smile

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 15:51:08

yeah I did Arse was dating him for two and a half years -met on Match. He has just texted to ask if there was anything interesting I fancy film wise so I reckon Ill do that...we will probs get the best of each other as mates...

ike1 Sat 12-Jan-13 15:52:28

....put it this way I will not be running my hands through his rugs tonight!

lubeybooby Sat 12-Jan-13 16:55:14

well I've been and stocked up on beer, wine, food etc and typically enough no reply to my 'all ok for tonight?' text that I sent just over an hour ago. We hadn't set a time so I presumed we would be doing that now (ish)

Gahhh come on TT tell me I didn't just go shopping for nowt...

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