40+ and pregnant? Come and join the fun!

[cloudjumper]

I am 43 and currently pg with DC2, due early January. I thought it would be nice to have a thread for the pregnant ladies of 'older vintage', similar to the 40+ ttc thread, for advice, support and the occasional moan.

Oooo hello!

40 years old and 30 weeks pregnant with DC2 (a girl) - depending on when she arrives in September I'll be either 40 or 41. DS is 3.4 - took five years of TTC to get him followed by a MC before falling pregnant with this one.

Nice to have some older mums to chat to. I'm the oldest by miles in my Mumsnet antenatal group and in real life at every baby group so it's good to feel not so ancient

Hi Cloudjumper!

I'm 40 and am expecting my first baby, a boy, at the end of September. I'm off to my first ante-natal class this evening.

I hope you're keeping well. What kind of age gap will you have between your children? I'd like to have another one too and am worried that might not happen unless we start trying again quite soon after this one.

I'm glad to see another over 40s thread. There was one on the antenatal clubs section but around the time I joined they were moving over to Facebook, which I don't use.

There are a couple more over forty people on the October group, which I joined when I thought I was due then, so I'll mention your thread to them.

Hi I'm 40 and just over 32 weeks pregnant with baby no..5 .. I will be 40 or 41 when baby arrives, as my birthday is around my due date.
My other children are 21, 19, 15 and 13 months. It's lovely to see some more older mums as I recently went to a birthing group and I was the eldest by 9 years !!!

Hello, I'm 40 in a couple of months and just found out I'm pregnant. I'm in total shock as I had IVF for my second son two years ago and don't think it was possible to conceive naturally!!! I have 9 year old and a 20mth old, both boys. Panicking a bit (loads of reasons) but suffered with severe spd last time and worried about coping with a little one if it re-occurs - which is likely!

Thank you for the thread Cloud. It's so nice to know there are a few of us! I'm 15 weeks pg aged 42 but will be 43 when babe comes. I have a 5yr old dd & this baby has been long fought for after 3 mcs.
Amazing news Vik. I understand the worry but what a lovely surprise.

Gawd - I need a moan! I'm 44 (45 in Sept). Am 38 weeks with second. First is 4. Was planning a relaxing period of 3 weeks or so off work before the big day but it's not quite worked out...baby is breech so ELCS listed for 29 July and 4 year old is more ill this week (GP says flu - in July?) than ever before in her life. Up at 1am and 4am this morning. I'm knackered!

Grizzer - we're both in the club we never wanted to join! This one took 3 years and 3 m/cs to stick (with a cancer diagnosis for DH and a course of chemo thrown into the mix to spice it up a bit!).

Hello everyone! I'm 40 and 27 weeks pregnant. I went to my first antenatal class this week and was definitely the oldest person there! I already have a 16 year old, so a huge age gap.

Ooh, nice to see you all joining the thread! I knew there would be more of us out there

I was 39 when DS was born and even back then, DH and I were always the oldest in any ante- or postnatal group we went to... I'm 12 years older than the youngest person in our baby group from back then! Ah well...

DS is 4 and was a totally uncomplicated pregnancy, and the original plan was a 2-year age gap until DC2. We've now been trying for nearly 3 years for no. 2, and I have had 4 miscarriages, so I reckon I will most likely/definitely be done after this one I always wanted 3, but it's not going to happen. I'm still a bit in denial that this one might actually become a 'real' baby!

16+5 today, and I have finally succumbed to wearing maternity trousers. Really need to get more stuff, my mat clothes have been worn to death with DS, and you can tell! Planning to do shopping at the weekend.
Oh, and we have now told DS about the baby, kinda had to when we took him to the scan last Saturday. He's not bothered/interested Although when I tried to explain to him today that I can't play a game with him where I catch him and then fall over because I have a baby in my tummy, he pondered this and asked: 'Mummy, did you eat a baby?!?'

Ha ha Cloud, I was 'accused' of eating a baby by a Reception child when I was pg with Dd. He was really cross about it too!
We told Dd tonight. It was so lovely. I showed her my scan picture & asked if she could see what it was. She said 'is it me?' Then 'is it you?' I said it's her little brother or sister & she just laughed & laughed then kissed the photo & kept rubbing my tummy. She has taken the pic to her bedroom. She insists it's a girl because she can see long hair! So cute. I dread to think how I'll cope with the constant asking how long til it's born. We're going to Butlins on Monday & the countdown to that has felt like a lifetime

Hi ladies - nice to see I'm not the only oldie having a baby!! I'm 41 and 27+5 with baby no. 4. My other 3 are 20, 18 and 15 so big age gap. It is second time around for me and DH (both been married before - but had lucky escapes!)
I do feel very old being pregnant, but my midwife will often tell me about ladies she's seen that are older and At one appointment she said I was the 5th over 40 in clinic that day!! We all must be hiding in the woodwork!

At this rate, I might be tempted to put together a stats list for this thread

/waves enthusiastically through waves of nausea

Hello, hello! Thank you for this thread! I'm 8+1 and aged 40 now, will be 41 by the EDD. I'm pregnant with our first after three rounds of IVF and still trying to believe that it's really hapenning. Have had one early scan already (the one advantage of assisted reproduction: they're watching me like a hawk) and another scan next week at 8+6.

Hugs and gin ginger tea for all fellow worriers. Nerve-wracking time, isn't it?

Huge congratulations Warrior - you must be thrilled!

Hi everybody it seems that everybody except cineraria and me, have previous babies ! I am 41 and 27 weeks pregnant with my first baby. He's a boy!! And right now he's kicking my belly hahaha.
I am happy to join you girls?? I am due in October 15th, the doctor said that I will have induction if by then I don't have any sign of contractions !! At the moment things are going well, but I am little bit concerned about all the risks involved, fingers crossed everything will be fine for all of us .
What about you girls ? ?

I'll join, but be prepared for me to disappear tomorrow if my scan gives me bad news. For the moment I'll just wave and wish you all fabulous, problem free pregnancies xxx

Thank you Gooo - we've been trying to start a family for so long and I'm still having to pinch myself that (so far at least) I'm pregnant! It's wonderful and terrifying . I don't know how those of you with little ones already are coping. If I could be I'd be in bed by 9 every night! You must be flipping knackered heroes.

Hi Warrior. Ours is an IVF baby too. Had tried it and failed x 3 (inc 2 m/cs at 6 weeks) so planned to try 'naturally' when DH diagnosed with cancer requiring chemo. That development took things out of our hands as had to try IVF one last time (yeah, right!). And here we are .

Sebs - seen your posts before - know why you're worried (been there, so anxiety inducing) but most 12 week scans are as they should be and no reason why you won't be coming on here to share good news tomorrow. I certainly hope that's the case.

Hello all. I'm 42 and 30 weeks with number 3. DD was born when I was 40. She was a total surprise but this one took a few months and an early mc to conceive.

So far been a textbook pregnancy though baby measures big (as did the first)

41 and expecting No 2 in September. DD1 will be 2 and a bit.

DD1 was an IVF baby. This one a natural conception. Don't ask me ...

The consultant was surprised to find out I was 41, she checked my notes for my DOB! I took that as a compliment.

I have to say it's really weird to see so many September Mums-to-be on here when sadly I fell off the Sept antenatal thread in Feb after my MMC was found (baby had Downs we later found out). Can't believe I rod have been 30 weeks.!!! That feels so surreal.

Hello and thank you for this thread. In rl I'm the only one I know pregnant over 40 ! Everyone I know are spring chickens in their 30s.

I'm 42, 26 weeks pregnant and expecting no 2 after 4 miscarriages which included 2iuis and 2 ivfs. We thought it wouldn't happen and it did. dd is 4. I thought it would be harder this time but it's actually much easier and so far no problems bar the long long days at work. Looking forward to the the beak when maternity leave comes around

Gosh, resipsa - that all sounds so gruelling! Well done for hanging in there.

Crossing everything for you Sebsmummy.

Ooh there are lots of us! I really enjoyed reading the older siblings' reactions to learning about the new babies. It's funny to hear what they make of it all. When my brother was born I had the impression he was my Christmas present (he arrived at Christmas time) and couldn't think why he wasn't a girl as I'd definitely put "a baby sister" on my letter to Father Christmas that year!

Sorry to hear that so many of you have had difficult journeys. I hope your scan is reassuring tomorrow Sebsmummy. It's hard to imagine there could be a positive outcome when you've had a horrible experience before. When we had our 12 week scan this time (after having bad news at the previous one last year) it took ages to sink in too; it was only an hour later on the train home, that it suddenly occurred to me that as the baby was alive and well it could stay put and I wasn't going to go through the same as last time. I really hope you'll be posting good news here tomorrow!

Sebsmummy good luck for tomorrow xxx