We just found out that the 20-week babies I'm expecting are both girls. I've only told a few people so far but now I don't want to tell anyone else in case the reactions hurt me more. So far I've had two people say: "Oh, what a pity one of them isn't a boy." One person even said (in presumably what she thought was a comforting way), "Don't worry, they do make mistakes- maybe one of them will turn out to be a boy."
I have a feeling this is going to get worse the more people we tell. We are expats living in a country where boys are valued more than girls. I know people are stupid but I can't help being really upset and angry. I am beginning to dread people commenting on my bump now, in case they ask the gender and then I have to deal with the "commiserations".
I'm probably over reacting here. Any nice comforting words?
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Found out it's twin girls and people's reactions are making me upset
Evie2014 · 06/02/2014 08:57
when people ask just say "oh we are so pleased - two girls!!!" That leaves no space for annoying commiserations xx
congratulations 
congratulations. I have twins boys. Having twins is brilliant, it really is. It doesn't matter what combo you get. People can be so silly, I can't fathom why anyone would actually say anything like that out loud. Although I know from experience that they do.
Tell them to fuck off while you can still blame it on the hormones.
Good luck.
Congratulations 
Don't people realise that twins are more likely to be the same sex than different sexes ?!
Because of the culture of the society you're living in and the reactions you've had so far I wouldn't tell people that you know the sex or what you're having until they're born. (Unless maybe there are a few people who you know will be nice and pleased for you ?) People will be much less rude (I hope!) once they're here.
Two little girls will be gorgeous, I'm quite jealous 
Twins are so special.
for you both and my warmest congratulations.
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Congratulations!
I understand what you mean though. A friend was horrified recently when I told her all the negative remarks I get when I say I'm pregnant with DS2. It's so rare to have a positive comment, despite me broadly smiling when I say it's another boy.
For some unknown reason, having 2 children of the same sex isn't seen as desirable 
I just thank my lucky stars that I managed to have 2 children when I wanted them (fingers crossed this one will arrive in good health).
I must admit being really pleased by DH's response to the news. When I was pregnant with DS1 he really wanted a girl (for lots of personal reasons). However when we found out DC2 was also a boy he was thrilled because he thinks DS is fab
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