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18+4 and no heartbeat with doppler- please tell me what to do :-(

(141 Posts)
jkb Mon 05-Nov-12 23:27:24

Hi

I am 18+4 and have a doppler & have been finding the heartbeat within seconds since i was about 12 weeks. I have been having problems & so i always doppler twice a day (I have a huge clot in my womb which has caused 2 massive bleeds- last one at 16 weeks). The heart was fine this morning- now this even- despite me trying for over 1 hour- NOTHING- i am very skilled at using a doppler as was shown by a previous midwife. Could my baby have died- i cant sleep now- i dont know what to do :-(

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

*reassure yourself

Please come back and tell us that the MWs saw you and all is ok OP.

FannyFifer Tue 06-Nov-12 10:02:36

Hope all ok this morning.

weeblueberry Tue 06-Nov-12 11:21:46

Hope all is okay - was thinking about you this morning.

tamster83 Tue 06-Nov-12 13:56:45

hope all is well .

jkb Tue 06-Nov-12 14:59:08

Update:

my midwife came this morning and couldnt find heartbeat either. She sent me into hospital for a scan & the worst has happened. My baby has died. Seems it was perfect size & everything- but died sometime yesterday. I am totally devestated & so very scared as have to go in Thirsday to be induced & give birth. I feel like I am losing my mind & cant quite get my head around this.

AlphaBeta82 Tue 06-Nov-12 15:03:58

Oh JKB I am so, so sorry to hear of this.
I know no words can make this better but couldn't read this and not share how much I feel for you. xxx

nancerama Tue 06-Nov-12 15:05:11

OP I am so very sorry for your loss. There are (too) many ladies here who have been through similar things and who will be able to support you.

Be kind to yourself and your partner.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Tue 06-Nov-12 15:07:16

Oh jkb I'm so sorry.

Take care of yourself.

firstpost Tue 06-Nov-12 15:10:11

So so, sorry for this terrible loss sad sad sad

Right now you dont have to do anything, just survive and breathe and cry and do whatever you need to to make it through the next minutes and hours.

Hope your partner is with you, holding you tight.

I will be thinking of you x

ecuse Tue 06-Nov-12 15:10:22

That's awful news, I'm so sorry to hear it.

RnB Tue 06-Nov-12 15:11:36

I am so, so sorry sad

I'm so sorry to hear this, I was hoping this thread would have a positive outcome. Be gentle on yourself & have an unmumsnetty hug x

jkb Tue 06-Nov-12 15:16:55

Thank you for all your support. Does anyone know if you can have a fetus of this age creamated?

me23 Tue 06-Nov-12 15:19:10

I'm so sorry for your loss.

plumviolet Tue 06-Nov-12 15:27:58

I'm sorry. Yes you can, talk to your doctor and they will do whatever you wish.

I found a site that helped me after my stillbirth called glowinthewoods.com.

I hope you find some peace. Your mothers instinct is very strong.

Nicky1306 Tue 06-Nov-12 15:35:12

I'm so sorry for your loss x x

izzywizzyisbizzy Tue 06-Nov-12 15:45:16

I'm so sorry.

SquealyB Tue 06-Nov-12 15:53:12

So very sorry for your loss.

weeblueberry Tue 06-Nov-12 15:58:21

Oh my darling I am so so sorry. x

So sorry OP. if you have your dp/h with you take comfort in each other.

tamster83 Tue 06-Nov-12 16:20:10

I'm soooo sorry for your loss I can't imagine what your going through will be thinking about you x

lia66 Tue 06-Nov-12 16:24:08

I am so sorry to see this update. Hugs xxxxx

fraktion Tue 06-Nov-12 16:32:41

I'm so sorry sad Thinking of you and your little angel.

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